murksiderock
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Meaning, when does it begin and what signifies a break-up?
My oldest girls' mom and I "broke up" in July of 2019 but lived together until March 2020. She started seeing someone in January 2020 who is now her fiance. But in that span of July 2019 to March 2020, we still did things together, still were occasionally intimate (not often but here and there), we still hung out abd had relationship type conversations...
So was our relationship over in July '19, when we said we were done; January '20 when she started dating her new man; or March '20 when I actually moved out?
My youngest girl's mom and I "broke up" verbally on December 29. Haven't lived together since last April but we still communicated love and a desire to work things out down the line, and as recently as last Monday the 6th, hung out together. She moved her new man in on February 1...
On March 12th we had a huge blowup that really shut the door in my opinion. But to yall, when did this relationship end: December 29 when we said it was over; February 1 when she moved her man in; or March 12 when we blew it all up and went our separate ways entirely?
I think for me, the signifiers of a break-up are more than just verbal, you can't "break up" with someone and still do couples shyt together. You can't "break up" and still have conversations that are romantic, or flirt, and you definitely can't "break up" and still be fukking or kissing or dry humping or intimate touching (like holding hands). And multiple of these characteristics apply to each of my last two relationships...
The finality with both those relationships came in March, months after the verbal "agreement" we broke up. So I'm just interested in hearing what The Coli thinks on this topic!
My oldest girls' mom and I "broke up" in July of 2019 but lived together until March 2020. She started seeing someone in January 2020 who is now her fiance. But in that span of July 2019 to March 2020, we still did things together, still were occasionally intimate (not often but here and there), we still hung out abd had relationship type conversations...
So was our relationship over in July '19, when we said we were done; January '20 when she started dating her new man; or March '20 when I actually moved out?
My youngest girl's mom and I "broke up" verbally on December 29. Haven't lived together since last April but we still communicated love and a desire to work things out down the line, and as recently as last Monday the 6th, hung out together. She moved her new man in on February 1...
On March 12th we had a huge blowup that really shut the door in my opinion. But to yall, when did this relationship end: December 29 when we said it was over; February 1 when she moved her man in; or March 12 when we blew it all up and went our separate ways entirely?
I think for me, the signifiers of a break-up are more than just verbal, you can't "break up" with someone and still do couples shyt together. You can't "break up" and still have conversations that are romantic, or flirt, and you definitely can't "break up" and still be fukking or kissing or dry humping or intimate touching (like holding hands). And multiple of these characteristics apply to each of my last two relationships...
The finality with both those relationships came in March, months after the verbal "agreement" we broke up. So I'm just interested in hearing what The Coli thinks on this topic!
