How does one not get stuck in the past?

[Straw Hat Luffy]

Mindfulness is a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.

Most common technique is meditation. Even just focusing on your breathing for a short while can help you become more aware. There are guided meditation sessions all over for whatever topic you want to focus on.

I always try meditation but can't keep a habit of keep at it.

Read The Great Gatsby. What's in the past is gonna always be the past and you can't recreate the feeling

Isn't that the Leo movie?

you have to make plans. creation is a way to stay focused on the future and what you're doing at the present

Yeah I have to start look forward to the future.

I guess I an obsessed with the past because when I look to the future there is a end point?

 

[Freedman]

Isn't that the Leo movie?

Yeah but it's also a book I had to read for an English class last semester. Just my TL:Dr analysis but the main thing I took from it was how Leo's character meets this girl Daisy and has the best time of his life/falls in love but loses her to another breh with more $$$. He then spends the next 5 years of his life improving his financial situation ( book hints at bootlegging) with hopes of getting Daisy back. Towards the end of the book he actually succeeds in linking back up with Daisy but he can't recreate those same feelings of their past.

 

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set long term and short term goals and work hard on them.


that will get the past off your mind

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

I went through similar in my early 20s, something about not being a teen anymore, I suppose looking back I had psyched myself out about omg I'm a grown up or need to be and that I needed to have it all figured out, the thought of the future was too much kinda crippling so it was easier to think of an easier time, a "better" version of me.

I don't know if others on here had a similar experience. I will say it will pass, what helped me was thinking one step at a time and planning and acting accordingly. Reviewing options and selecting the best next move. The stuff already mentioned like introducing something new and focusing on the present will help distract your mind until you start enjoying the present and looking forward to the next step that you realise it's been a while since you've sat around reminiscing.

You'll be okay

 

[全能の神]

This is definitely one of my biggest problems so I understand op.

 

[I love Latina women]

This is definitely one of my biggest problems so I understand op.

 

[little4209]

Ain't nothin worse than an ol "I used to ass negro."

It's cool to reminisce and stuff, but every time we link up we can't always talk about the past and what we used to do...shyt is gone

Plus, "they" say focusing on "the now" is the only way to live stress free...You can't change the past, nor worry about the future

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

I went through similar in my early 20s, something about not being a teen anymore, I suppose looking back I had psyched myself out about omg I'm a grown up or need to be and that I needed to have it all figured out, the thought of the future was too much kinda crippling so it was easier to think of an easier time, a "better" version of me.

I don't know if others on here had a similar experience. I will say it will pass, what helped me was thinking one step at a time and planning and acting accordingly. Reviewing options and selecting the best next move. The stuff already mentioned like introducing something new and focusing on the present will help distract your mind until you start enjoying the present and looking forward to the next step that you realise it's been a while since you've sat around reminiscing.

iYou'll be okay

It's like my perception of myself has fukked up how I make actions. It's weird I can't imagine myself being a father and having a family of my own. I can't imagine having a profession to support my life. I can't imagine being an adult on my own paying the bills the rest of my life doing adult shyt. I can't imagine growing old being 70 having grandchildren walk up to me calling me grandpa. And I can't imagine death. I can only imagine from what's already happened before. And I feel like that is all weight holding me back.

Like my perception, point of view, ego, overthinking, psyche, won't let me go after or move on to what I can't imagine if I haven't already experienced it.

shyt is weird man. My mind being stuck on looking back on good times to always feel good is my worse enemy.

 

[Lewis Black]

It grew up on the crime side the New York Times side, staying alive was no jive

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

It's like my perception of myself has fukked up how I make actions. It's weird I can't imagine myself being a father and having a family of my own. I can't imagine having a profession to support my life. I can't imagine being an adult on my own paying the bills the rest of my life doing adult shyt. I can't imagine growing old being 70 having grandchildren walk up to me calling me grandpa. And I can't imagine death. I can only imagine from what's already happened before. And I feel like that is all weight holding me back.

Like my perception, point of view, ego, overthinking, psyche, won't let me go after or move on to what I can't imagine if I haven't already experienced it.

shyt is weird man. My mind being stuck on looking back on good times to always feel good is my worse enemy.

Yep sounds very familiar. One step at a time, focus on the next best move, all those things you've said won't happen tomorrow, you will learn a lot, grow as a person so by the time it happens you will be well equipped to handle it. The idea of being a mother freaked me out to no end, now, still in my twenties I believe I could handle it because I have grown I am not 23 anymore. Same will happen for you but not overnight. What is an available avenue for you something that you can you do today, tomorrow and in 2017 to help you learn something new and grow as a person? Identify that thing and go after it. Keep doing that and the rest will fall into place.

 

[AyBrehHam Linkin]

Build for the future