How long should a guy be expected to wait before…

[Hopeofmypeople]

Seeking p*ssy from an alternative source that isn’t your wife or girlfriend. Say you have an individual who is deeply in love with his wife/girlfriend but has a high sex drive. All of a sudden one day his partner stops putting out the sex drops from everyday and twice a day on weekends to once every four months if he is lucky. He mentions it to his partner about how he needs more and how beautiful she is but she doesn’t listen and still continues the once every four or five months routine. Eventually he has enough and starts seeking alternatives. When is he not morally liable? I mean how long does he have to suffer for?

 

[BrehWyatt]

He is no longer morally liable the SECOND he ends the relationship and not a moment sooner.

 

[Hopeofmypeople]

He is no longer morally liable the SECOND he ends the relationship and not a moment sooner.

That’s a reasonable response but say he loves her and doesn’t want to be without her the only negative is the sex or lack of.

 

[Ya' Cousin Cleon]

sex isn't the most important part of a relationship

the mental/emotional connection >>>>>>

but if it gets to that point. Don't even bother sneaking around breh.

if you exhausted all viable options

just cut her loose and move on

 

[Diondon]

I guess after every avenue has been exhausted I guess

 

[jdubnyce]

When is he not morally liable? I mean how long does he have to suffer for?

Answer 1:Once the relationship is over
Answer 2:as long as he's willingly in the relationship

Once there's no sex/intimacy, there's no relationship in my opinion

Talk to your GF/wife op

 

[CopiousX]

I wish this specific clause were included in the marrying vows. I think both parties go into the relationship with unspoken assumptions that lead to folks seeking grey areas like the one in OP.



Men see an entitlement, while women see a privilege they can dish out. You cannot reconcile these viewpoints.



Technically, if she never once explicitly agreed to providing you a consistent supply of sex, then she is doing nothing wrong and you are liable for your own infidelity. Liability ends when the marriage ends.

 

[BrehWyatt]

That’s a reasonable response but say he loves her and doesn’t want to be without her the only negative is the sex or lack of.

If she's not giving up the box at the rate she was when he initially fell for her, she is no longer the person he fell in love with and agreed to enter a monogamous relationship with. She reneged. And if you've played spades, you understand the violation at hand.

Clearly sex is as close to a deal-breaker as it gets, so let her go.

It's either that or weaponize the fate of the relationship i.e. "Either we fukk tonight or it's over " every day for the foreseeable future, because the fact it was brought up previously means one, the man got tired of it LONG before and two, she doesn't give a damn about his needs because there wasn't so much as even a temporary band-aid approach applied (EX: ramping up sex for a week or two before slowing it back down again in a half-ass attempt to say she heard what you said).

NOTE: I do not personally condone or support the ultimatum approach. However, if you must go that route, only deliver this ultimatum when one is lined up in the tuck. Also, the ultimatum approach only works if breh is ready and willing to dead the relationship on the spot if his needs are not met.

 

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[Human Torch]

I wish this specific clause were included in the marrying vows. I think both parties go into the relationship with unspoken assumptions that lead to folks seeking grey areas like the one in OP.

Men see an entitlement, while women see a privilege they can dish out. You cannot reconcile these viewpoints.



Technically, if she never once explicitly agreed to providing you a consistent supply of sex, then she is doing nothing wrong and you are liable for your own infidelity. Liability ends when the marriage ends.

Just started couples therapy with my lady recently and we literally talked about the bolder today. I feel like they kill relationships slowly.

happy we started the therapy so we can figure that shyt out before we actually get married.

I would suggest it for you before you wild out OP if your post is about you.

 

[TreySav]

It’s best to have these types of conversation in beginning, so she knows what’s up in the long run. A lot of people avoid setting certain boundaries and expectations early on to avoid conflict which will inevitably arise later


Communication with your significant other fills you up part of the way mentally and emotionally. The other part of your emotional health comes from intimacy.

If you just randomly stopped talking to a woman who truly loves you, she will start texting you dissertations because her emotional needs are not being met, so why should any man put up with his emotional needs not being met?

She better have some sort of legitimate issue going or it’s

Don’t let treating someone else well make you forget to take care of your peace