How to deal with a coworker who doesn't understand boundaries?

[FistofJustice]

I work in a "bullpen" cubicle workspace with five other guys. We recently added a new guy to the mix. So, far it's been cool but he's starting to work my nerves.

Over the past few months, he has gotten WAY too comfortable with coming into my cubicle and touching my stuff. I don't care if he needs to use my stapler, hole-puncher, or the other supplies I have at my desk. Just ask me and I will hand it to you. He has started coming up into my desk and grabbing shyt. It makes me really uncomfortable because I can stand having someone standing directly behind me and he always staring at my screen.

I could be working on something, filling out a form and not using my computer at that moment and he will come up, start using my computer to look up a person's account (on the phone with a client) while hovering all over me because the server was "slow". WTF?! It isn't moving any faster on my computer because we're using the SAME DAMN server. The last straw was when I left the bullpen to use the restroom and forgot to lock my pc before I left the room.. I came back to see someone had use my computer to look something up. I know it was him. We have the same programs on our computers, so there is no need for him to get up and come use my computer.

How can I tell him to stop coming into my cube and messing with my stuff in a polite way? He's a nice guy and he does go out of his way to help me, so I don't want to be mean. I'm going to end up snapping at him, if this issues continues.

tl;dr Coworker keep coming up to my desk and messing with my stuff. Now he's using my pc when I'm not in the room.

 

[Man]

Have you tried just telling him/her about your feelings?

 

[CarbonBraddock]

people like this are basically stupid. you will have to take him aside privately and explain it to him bc he will never figure it out on his own.

 

[SPACE IS FAKE]

tell him everything you told us. boom. done

 

[mannyrs13]

Tell him something before he messes something up and gets you involved.

 

[Taadow]

Leave a bag of chit on his chair.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

people like this are basically stupid. you will have to take him aside privately and explain it to him bc he will never figure it out on his own.

I was just about to say this.

Dude is probably retarded and honestly sound like a white guy

Dude is way too comfortable with you and if he isn't doing it to anyone else I would pull him to the side and check him.

I'd also start putting my shyt in my desk and locking the drawer. If that shyt is literally YOURS... Like given to you, everyone else got their own, etc. I'd tell him

"Look bro, if you need something just ask but you can't keep coming to my desk, taking things, looking up things on my pc like that. What if I had emails open, work I was doing, programs I'm loading, etc. I need you to kinda chill with that... Just ask"

 

[O.T.I.S.]

If this was military we just would've said it with no fukks given. But I guess you have to be more pc in the civilian world.

Dude would've got cussed out nice guy or not

Not even homies do that. He the type of cat to be in your car and just unplug your phone from the auxiliary cord because he wants to hear something real quick

 

[Drake is God]

i thought u was gone talk about him gettin touchie feelie wit you

 

[pickles]

Just be like I like things on my desk in a certain way, so just ask me first before you take the items you need.

Be like you know we are connected to the same server right? My computer is not faster than yours.

 

[GreenGrass]

you messed up by being nice in the first place. the best way to overcome this to go directly to the manager and let them know that you don't appreciate this type of behavior as it messes with your productivity. of course, you can always tell the person directly. share your feelings. don't boil stuff up or you will go full retard at your workplace ..