How to meet right women advice thread..........

[ultraflexed]

After reading countless thread regarding this issue I decided to make a dedicated thread...

My advice is to only help you get in the door, after that its all on you..

First thing you need to do is a self evaluation.

Age
Height
Building
Job or school and where you are in life at the present moment
Then potential on where your striving to go.

Also add recreation (example)
Do you drink
Do you smoke
Any other drug use
Do you go to the gym
Play sports

Then personality type: what of person are you?

Background: what kind of family do you come from?

If you can figure this out for( yourself)your one step step closer to meeting the right women.

For me, personality issues come first, second is background, I already know the women I'm going to be with is going to be bad, so I don't worry to much about that because it's the first thing that attracts you to even approach a women.

What are your deal breakers:
Example: I can't be with a women who (fill in the blank).

(For me) I would I say I can't be with a women you has (no common sense) (not hard working) (no ass) (no standards or doesn't take care of herself)

I would say allow yourself to have 4 to 5 deal breakers.....


If can establish these guidelines for yourself then it will be alot easier finding the right on women.


We live in a new age where I wouldn't recommend out right approaching a girl but I don't recommend online dating either.

If you want to meet a women in person your best bet is through accidental repetition....

What does that mean?
Let's say a place that you go to often or at least once a week like the gym, or grocery store maybe a Starbucks you stop at before or after work.
Theirs always someone you come across that's you think is hot but never talk too, maybe it just a head nod, or eye contact and smile, or a simple and goodbye, or just small....

You may not know it but your establishing accidental repetition, so your seeing her enough to be comfortable with you, but not talking to her enough for you to lose the mystic of who you are and who you could be which leads to curiosity.

And the more you listen and pay attention you could put yourself ahead of game before actually engaging her with your interest.....


Everyone feel free to chime in.....will continue later

Please do not fill out the questions online that is ment for you to do for yourself......


My credentials
Home owner
Career job
Been married 9 years, Been with the same person for 11 years.

 

[intruder]

@The ADD and i need this since @Rawtid playing us like fools

 

[SheWantTheD]

Good shyt, gonna post mine in a sec.

 

[ultraflexed]

When you approach:
Keys to approaching a women in person is...

1).don't be afraid to take the L, remember you only need 1 yes.
If you approach 10 ladies you like but get shot down by 8 of them, well look on the bright side 2 of them told you yes, so it was worth it, that one girl you may decide not to talk to may be the one that could of changed your life, but you were afraid to take the L....taking L's are apart of learning how to talk to women and filtering out the weeds to get to your diamond... at the end of the day you won't care how many L's you took that day once you find that one that says yes....but you have to find her. So taking L's in this sense can build character, and you'll appreciate that "yes" alot more.

 

[Pinyapplesuckas]

Get a job

 

[Ghostface Trillah]

1. Go to the club.
2. Look for the group of chicks twerking like thots
3. Spot the friend holding their purses.
4. Talk to her.

Congratulations you've found a good woman. Thank me later. (no drake)

 

[SheWantTheD]

Age 21
Height 6'1-2
Building - do you mean build? Athletic, lean, muscular build
Job or school and where you are in life at the present moment - In school studying Computer Science (got about a year and a half left), currently looking for summer internships.
Then potential on where your striving to go - After school I plan on traveling the world. Maybe I'll work for a year or two, pay off my student loan debt if I have any, then travel the world. In the long run I want to own several lucrative businesses.

Also add recreation (example)
Do you drink - No but I don't mind being around those who do
Do you smoke - No but I don't mind being around those who do
Any other drug use - No
Do you go to the gym - Yes
Play sports - Any but predominately Basketball.

Then personality type: what of person are you?
Most of the time I'm a chill, laid back type of brother. I can be goofy if I want to. Introvert most of the time but I can be very extroverted if the situation calls for it. I would say I'm a good conversationalist and are genuinely interested in what people have to say, unless they are liars and straight bullshytting. I am also a very observant person. I remember and notice things about people most people don't. I'm also very confident but at the same time humble unless someone tries to test me. Failure drives and motivates me to work harder. I hate losing and not succeeding at something I knew I could have done better at if I put in more work, was better prepared for, etc.

I strive to be better in all areas of my life each and every day from the way I talk, walk, the food I eat, the music, television shows I watch, the things I ingest on all levels whether that be physical, spiritual, emotional etc. I pride myself in my high level of integrity and try not to do bad to others. I'd say that I have become more open-minded over the years, aren't as quick to judge others.. and try to see things from other peoples perspectives, situation, life etc.

Background: what kind of family do you come from? - Family comes from Africa. Me and my siblings really had to grow up by ourselves. Parents were physically present but not very present emotionally and in other areas. Parents didn't really nurture or support our interests, talents, gifts etc. Parents are very good people though, they help others a lot and many times received negativity in return.

Deal breaker: I have to be physically attracted to the woman. She has to have a certain level of integrity. Someone that isn't striving to grow and improve upon themselves.

But yeah.. I'm not looking for "miss right" or a wife right now LOL Just a cool chick I could build with and enjoy spending time with.

 

[ultraflexed]

Age 21
Height 6'1-2
Building - do you mean build? Athletic, lean, muscular build
Job or school and where you are in life at the present moment - In school studying Computer Science (got about a year and a half left), currently looking for summer internships.
Then potential on where your striving to go - After school I plan on traveling the world. Maybe I'll work for a year or two, pay off my student loan debt if I have any, then travel the world. In the long run I want to own several lucrative businesses.

Also add recreation (example)
Do you drink - No but I don't mind being around those who do
Do you smoke - No but I don't mind being around those who do
Any other drug use - No
Do you go to the gym - Yes
Play sports - Any but predominately Basketball.

Then personality type: what of person are you?
Most of the time I'm a chill, laid back type of brother. I can be goofy if I want to. Introvert most of the time but I can be very extroverted if the situation calls for it. I would say I'm a good conversationalist and are genuinely interested in what people have to say, unless they are liars and straight bullshytting. I am also a very observant person. I remember and notice things about people most people don't. I'm also very confident but at the same time humble unless someone tries to test me. Failure drives and motivates me to work harder. I hate losing and not succeeding at something I knew I could have done better at if I put in more work, was better prepared for, etc.

I strive to be better in all areas of my life each and every day from the way I talk, walk, the food I eat, the music, television shows I watch, the things I ingest on all levels whether that be physical, spiritual, emotional etc. I pride myself in my high level of integrity and try not to do bad to others. I'd say that I have become more open-minded over the years, aren't as quick to judge others.. and try to see things from other peoples perspectives, situation, life etc.

Background: what kind of family do you come from? - Family comes from Africa. Me and my siblings really had to grow up by ourselves. Parents were physically present but not very present emotionally and in other areas. Parents didn't really nurture or support our interests, talents, gifts etc. Parents are very good people though, they help others a lot and many times received negativity in return.

Deal breaker: I have to be physically attracted to the woman. She has to have a certain level of integrity. Someone that isn't striving to grow and improve upon themselves.

But yeah.. I'm not looking for "miss right" or a wife right now LOL Just a cool chick I could build with and enjoy spending time with.

You sound like a good guy.
But you contradict yourself say, "I'm not looking for miss right, but someone I could build with".

Miss right and someone you could build with is one in the same right? If your just trying to kick it with a cool chick just leave it at that, but then when you add to it you get confusing, like why would you want to build with someone you don5 really have a future with ?

 

[The ADD]

@The ADD and i need this since @Rawtid playing us like fools

 

[SheWantTheD]

You sound like a good guy.
But you contradict yourself say, "I'm not looking for miss right, but someone I could build with".

Miss right and someone you could build with is one in the same right? If your just trying to kick it with a cool chick just leave it at that, but then when you add to it you get confusing, like why would you want to build with someone you don5 really have a future with ?

Well it could be someone that I can grow and experience life with, not necessarily grow into marriage or a family. Thing is if I'm gonna mess with a chick on a serious level, it isn't gonna be a chick I can't see myself with in the long run even if that isn't marriage.

 

[Collateral]

A nice constructive thread. It's like a breathe of fresh air i'll contribute later.

 

[ultraflexed]

Well it could be someone that I can grow and experience life with, not necessarily grow into marriage or a family. Thing is if I'm gonna mess with a chick on a serious level, it isn't gonna be a chick I can't see myself with in the long run even if that isn't marriage.

There's certain things you do with a girlfriend and then with a wifey....

At your age 21, you shouldn't worry about making memories with a female, I have a ex that went to SD state and every now and then we went to Mexico for a 1 day strip or Santa Cruz or LA but never a place out the country or across country, those are trips you take with your boys like let's hit Brazil for a week trip then 10 years from now you could call your boys an be like remember that time in Brazil, but no way will you be calling a ex chick like remember that weekend in spain....why because she might be married or you might be married , those trip should be taken with your boys or wifey or close it so you can reminis on those time with her multiple times.

I wouldn't be trying get serious until about 24-25
An in college is a great place to meet right now chicks an potential future wifey chick but yes have.....Remember alot 21-23ish ladies have no baggage but the longer you wait around like after 25 it's seems like everyone has kids so keep that in mind....the right one doesn't grow on trees so when you see her you keep her...until then have fun!!!

 

[SheWantTheD]

There's certain things you do with a girlfriend and then with a wifey....

At your age 21, you shouldn't worry about making memories with a female, I have a ex that went to SD state and every now and then we went to Mexico for a 1 day strip or Santa Cruz or LA but never a place out the country or across country, those are trips you take with your boys like let's hit Brazil for a week trip then 10 years from now you could call your boys an be like remember that time in Brazil, but no way will you be calling a ex chick like remember that weekend in spain....why because she might be married or you might be married , those trip should be taken with your boys or wifey or close it so you can reminis on those time with her multiple times.

I wouldn't be trying get serious until about 24-25
An in college is a great place to meet right now chicks an potential future wifey chick but yes have.....Remember alot 21-23ish ladies have no baggage but the longer you wait around like after 25 it's seems like everyone has kids so keep that in mind....the right one doesn't grow on trees so when you see her you keep her...until then have fun!!!

I definitely won't be going on trips out of the country with any woman.. unless she's paying of course

I don't got it like that and even if I did I still wouldn't.

 

[ultraflexed]

I definitely won't be going on trips out of the country with any woman.. unless she's paying of course

I don't got it like that and even if I did I still wouldn't.

Your on the right track , just keep your options open both ways, female friendships are great at your age you just gotta walk that fine line so one gets mad but eventually everything will work itself out an the cream will rise to the top

 

[ultraflexed]

If a girl says she has boyfriend.......be cool, it's not the end..

It just means she is not available at the time, don't ask to go into detail, don't ask "can we just be friends"....

The situation can still work for you depending on how you respond...

Keep this in mind
"Women respect and admire someone who acts within their best interest an not themselves".

No this does not mean simping. It means this, if she says I got boyfriend.

Your response: you do, we'll I hope he's nice guy and everything works out for you.

That response is something she'll remember, and if whenever she seems you again single or not see think good you and keep you in next time she's single.

Now if this is a girl you accidentally see on occasion at grocery store, gym, Starbuck just give a simple wave or head nod and keep it moving, eventually she'll find a way to get a conversation with you "remember you left a good impression on her with that response" she'll open up with general small talk, don't ask if she broke up or anything concerning relationship, if something happens she'll tell you.