Found this on a wordpress blog. I believe most if not all of it is true especially no 5. and No.10
http://lifewithsay.wordpress.com/2014/07/09/how-women-sabotage-themselves-on-dates/
HOW WOMEN SABOTAGE THEMSELVES ON DATES
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1. You wait too long to go on the actual 1st Date
http://lifewithsay.wordpress.com/2014/07/09/how-women-sabotage-themselves-on-dates/
HOW WOMEN SABOTAGE THEMSELVES ON DATES
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1. You wait too long to go on the actual 1st Date
- Ladies…it’s OK to admit you don’t have anything to do on Saturday if he asks you, “Do you have any plans this weekend?” I read several women say they don’t go on weekend dates, if the guy hasn’t asked her out by Wednesday. I also read that women don’t agree to go out the day of either. So, if he asks you, “Are you free tonight?” You refuse because it’s the day of even if you have nothing to do…ARE YOU KIDDING??? Why are you waiting three weeks before you go out with this man? Stop wasting time…if you are free on Saturday and he asks you on a date Friday night———–> GO!!! Plus, you don’t want to give another woman a chance to take your potential husband.
- For some reason, woman use this stupid effing word for effing no reason! “How was your weekend?” “It was so busy!” “I am so busy with work, school, charities, friends, my dog, packing for a trip I take in a month”…………….ENOUGH ALREADY!!! Most men know if a woman even uses this word in the first couple of conversations…TO RUN!!! (Oh….so you too busy to sit down and eat a meal on a date, but the 1st one in line when they announce refreshments will be served at the 9am meeting….chile please). I bet you the woman that is soooo busy is soooo single…..in her 60s.
- I don’t normally allow (Yes!!! I said allow!!) a woman to choose the place because chances are she will want to show her worth and pick a super expensive place, but every now and again I will take a chance and let her pick. One woman told me to meet her at a place and when I got there, the place was Vegan, super small, super crowded and…oh I didn’t mention—–> I AM NOT A VEGAN! If you pick a place ladies…the place shouldn’t be picked because it’s cute, the food is expensive or you like the place. The place should give this man an opportunity to shine in front of you. What if you went on a job interview and the room the interview took place in was a broom closet. The environment matters!
- There is nothing relaxing about offering a date on Tuesday at 5:30. I get it…you don’t want to waste your weekend with a lame, but you are not placing him in a position to succeed with you by picking days that will seem rushed and unappealing. Just think…what if you have a job and you get an interview for your dream job on Tuesday at 5:30, but you get off of work at 5:15 every day. You don’t want to tell the interviewer that isn’t a good time because you have been waiting weeks for this opportunity (See Reason #1), so you make an excuse to leave work early and rush to the job interview and miss out on the job because you aren’t relaxed. Give that man a time slot where he can show you he has the goods because how can you have a good date if you aren’t even relaxed because of the date and time you picked. You ever wonder: that if everyone got an interview on a sunny, late afternoon/early evening on a Saturday…how would they do?
- You are having a good time…you are looking in his eyes…he is looking in your eyes…sexual juices are flowing and he asks you to come back to his place and you say, “I can’t. I don’t want to be a booty call….BEEN THERE DONE THAT. And, now I am looking for something different.” Stop saying this to men!!! NO man wants to think you were a slut for Joe, but for him you want to be a good girl??? Super RED flag!!!
- Do I really need to hear you talk about Joe or how your ex picked this same restaurant or that you don’t want to get hurt again???? GEEZ!!!
- This is a perfect filter ladies. If he allows you to pay then chances are he is a d*ck and you shouldn’t date him anyway. But, you offering to pay lets him know you care about him and you show him how secure you are, which is sexy. **SIDE NOTE** If the date is going bad or you know you are not going to call him after the date, I believe you should pay for your own meal for 2 reasons: 1. You let him know he doesn’t have a shot and shouldn’t call you in the future and this will save you a potential headache in the future and 2. Because you ate the meal. Chances are you know the date will be bad before the waiter brings you the menu…why you still ordering the LOBSTER!!?!?!?
- Some women make the mistake in thinking that men can read their mind. “I am free on Saturday, what did you have planned?” “There is a heavy metal concert I want to take you to.” “On 2nd thought, I am ‘busy’ (See Reason #2).” You going out with this man shouldn’t be contingent on the activity, but getting to know him. If you are free on Saturday don’t cancel because he picked an activity you don’t like because he doesn’t know you…he doesn’t know you got into a fight at the last heavy metal concert you went to and now you are banned for life from the stadium. Either tell him what you want to do by making a cheaper suggestion and/or the monetary equivalent to the price of his date suggestion, but don’t renege because you don’t like what he picked. Your focus should be evaluating him on his effort NOT the activity!!!
- We get it…you are pretty and guys are always trying to talk to you ALL THE TIME, but can you have some questions for him too and not the ones you Googled. Dating is hard!!! It’s even harder if he is the one driving the conversation 90% of the time and you only talk if he asks you a question. Communication is a dance…you can do it alone, but it’s so much better if you have a partner. Way too many woman are reactive instead of proactive in conversation…engage him, so he doesn’t feel like he as to do all the work.
- How much time do you need to make a decision? Men don’t officially know if they like you until they have sex with you. Trust me…the longer you wait the worse the experience will be for him because women who are great in bed don’t wait to find out if the man is great in bed, they get it out of the way fast and say what you want about those women, but they get married even faster!
