I don't agree with men putting hands on women, but there are times where I feel they're almost asking for it.
Don't know if it is ignorance or arrogance. Most people know that the worst thing you can do after hurting someone is handling the matter with flippancy.
That being said, it is why being ahead of conversations is important. The moment you sense someone doesn't care, walk away. If you continue to engage, you will be in their arena and end up doing something stupid.