Hyphenating names after divorce

[luckyse7enz]

So my homegirl and I just had a mini-debate on the phone.

She's married and has two kids with my boy but they're going through a divorce. She took his last name as did the two children they had together (of course).

(We were talking about weddings because we have to attend another friend's wedding this summer.)

(We also have another friend who got married a few year's ago and we were at that wedding. He married a girl who had a kid with a deadbeat and when he married her, the girl hyphenated her name and the child's name.)

With all that in mind, I asked her what she would do with her and her kids' names if she were to marry again after the divorce.

She said that she would hyphenate her current name (her soon-to-be ex-husband's name) with her new husband's name so that she could still share a last name with her children. She said she just wouldn't feel right having a different name from her kids.

Personally, I was like :notsure: because I couldn't imagine a new husband taking her on as a divorcee with two children from a previous marriage and still being 100% cool with her keeping her ex-husband's last name....and hyphenating it with his.

So imagine it like this: your new wife has her ex-husband's name in front of your last name and the kids just have her ex-husband's last name.

I'm not going to argue a stance on it just yet because I wanted to ask you all to see if anyone had seen a situation like this before. I also wanted to get a perspective from different genders to make sure I wasn't just overreacting in my mind. I just can't imagine a 2nd husband not going "You're taking MY name. You're not keeping his."

What do you all think? :notsure:

 

[Emperor Sol]

Stay far away from women who are unwilling to take on your family name and abandon theirs. That's basically what she says when she insists on hyphenating names so much.

STAY. FAR. AWAY.

They are afraid of real, lasting commitment which is why so many of their marriages end in divorce. Most of these broads don't want the ramifications of a relationship. They want the glamor and the dream. The fake shyt.

But hey. You can still have these loons if you want them. Not me though.

 

[Chris.B]

Stay far away from women who are unwilling to take on your family name and abandon theirs.

They are afraid of real, lasting commitment which is why so many of their marriages end in divorce.

 

[Illuminatos]

Stay far away from women who are unwilling to take on your family name and abandon theirs. That's basically what she says when she insists on hyphenating names so much.

STAY. FAR. AWAY.

They are afraid of real, lasting commitment which is why so many of their marriages end in divorce. Most of these broads don't want the ramifications of a relationship. They want the glamor and the dream. The fake shyt.

But hey. You can still have these loons if you want them. Not me though.

Seriously?

 

[Emperor Sol]

Why are women so scared of taking their husband's last names, so that their children can also take their father (figure's) last name? The only thing men have to claim in this day and age are their children. If the mother is unwilling to do that for her children, she's just causing problems for everyone and isn't worth the trouble.

In the case of a divorced woman, any future children she has with a current husband should result in the children having HIS last name. A man should not have to deal with the issue of a past lover's last name. If a woman is really moving on from another man, she should MOVE onwards and erase whatever she can of the past. But hearing this seems to hurt y'all.

Some of you even seem to be catching feelings.

What's the matter kneegrows? Were your fathers not man enough to tell your mother to take on his family name or hit the curb? No wonder y'all aren't shyt. No man should have to deal with a bytch that's too afraid to let a man have what's his. The man is (or should be) the head of the household and as such he SHOULD have reign over his kingdom, and the fruits of his labor and his QUEEN should belong to him, as should he to his queen and so on.

Everything I spit is the TRUTH, love it or hate it none of you can call me a liar. That's what's good. There's a reason why y'all aren't shyt. I don't even need to preach this to you.

This is why the black community isn't shyt today. We have to deal with trifling matters like this. Black men not willing to stand up, and black women refusing to let black men lead. Instead they lead us all to destruction.

Y'all don't deserve me

 

[Capitol]

It makes perfect sense for the kids to have hyphenated name to me. They were apart of two families. They came from another man but they are going to be raised by another. For the woman, I don't see a reason for her to keep her former husband's name. That just makes it seem like she still has an attachment. Is it not possible to change your kid's last name from marriage? I don't know how that shyt works

 

[Illuminatos]

It's only a matter of time before nikkas on here start complaining about women wearing pants.

"It's a sign of women trying to take the role of men as the leaders of society! Women should only wear skirts!!"

I'd love to see the reactions of this place if a female was elected as president. nikkas would probably off themselves.

 

[Sharp]

It makes perfect sense for the kids to have hyphenated name to me. They were apart of two families. They came from another man but they are going to be raised by another. For the woman, I don't see a reason for her to keep her former husband's name. That just makes it seem like she still has an attachment. Is it not possible to change your kid's last name from marriage? I don't know how that shyt works

You say that until it's your kids that have another man's name hyphenated to yours

It doesn't make sense at all. My kids are my kids. He wants kids to have his last name, then he needs to make his own with her.

As far as she's concerned, I would make her remove my last name (You can legally prevent your ex-wife from keeping your last name).

Problems solved.

 

[luckyse7enz]

Stay far away from women who are unwilling to take on your family name and abandon theirs.

...but on the other hand, she essentially DID abandon her family name in the first marriage by not hyphenating the first time.

 

[Capitol]

You say that until it's your kids that have another man's name hyphenated to yours

It doesn't make sense at all. My kids are my kids. He wants kids to have his last name, then he needs to make his own with her.

As far as she's concerned, I would make her remove my last name (You can legally prevent your ex-wife from keeping your last name).

Problems solved.

If those kids are in her full custody and not in my life anymore and he is raising them what the fukk do I care about their last name for? In this scenario I'm assuming I have no relationship with them kids anymore. Of course if I'm still seeing them and everything that is different

 

[the mechanic]

So my homegirl and I just had a mini-debate on the phone.

She's married and has two kids with my boy but they're going through a divorce. She took his last name as did the two children they had together (of course).

(We were talking about weddings because we have to attend another friend's wedding this summer.)

(We also have another friend who got married a few year's ago and we were at that wedding. He married a girl who had a kid with a deadbeat and when he married her, the girl hyphenated her name and the child's name.)

With all that in mind, I asked her what she would do with her and her kids' names if she were to marry again after the divorce.

She said that she would hyphenate her current name (her soon-to-be ex-husband's name) with her new husband's name so that she could still share a last name with her children. She said she just wouldn't feel right having a different name from her kids.

Personally, I was like :notsure: because I couldn't imagine a new husband taking her on as a divorcee with two children from a previous marriage and still being 100% cool with her keeping her ex-husband's last name....and hyphenating it with his.

So imagine it like this: your new wife has her ex-husband's name in front of your last name and the kids just have her ex-husband's last name.

I'm not going to argue a stance on it just yet because I wanted to ask you all to see if anyone had seen a situation like this before. I also wanted to get a perspective from different genders to make sure I wasn't just overreacting in my mind. I just can't imagine a 2nd husband not going "You're taking MY name. You're not keeping his."

What do you all think? :notsure:

Personally i wouldnt care what the hoe does .....she can hyphenate 20 names as long she doesnt drag the kids into that mess

 

[Ain't That Something]

It's only a matter of time before nikkas on here start complaining about women wearing pants.

"It's a sign of women trying to take the role of men as the leaders of society! Women should only wear skirts!!"

I'd love to see the reactions of this place if a female was elected as president. nikkas would probably off themselves.

nikka that has nothing to do with the topic at hand. Stop rambling

 

[Johnny Kilroy]

Stay far away from women who are unwilling to take on your family name and abandon theirs. That's basically what she says when she insists on hyphenating names so much.

STAY. FAR. AWAY.

They are afraid of real, lasting commitment which is why so many of their marriages end in divorce. Most of these broads don't want the ramifications of a relationship. They want the glamor and the dream. The fake shyt.

But hey. You can still have these loons if you want them. Not me though.

Don't listen to this guy.

 

[Illuminatos]

nikka that has nothing to do with the topic at hand. Stop rambling

 

[Ain't That Something]

Stop rambling