Today is my birthday brehs. There are folks out there who have kids that are like 12 or 13 and shyt or even older and i cannot imagine what that shyt is even like. Are you afraid all the time for your kids? Are you stressed out? Do you miss not having to worry about such things? What is it like?
I have a 2 year old and 8 month old. Both daughters.
Afraid all the time? No. I'm more optimistic than anything but bad thoughts do enter my mind alot, which can lead to stress, but more often than not I end up being grateful for my current situation, knowing there are people out there whos kids have been dealt a really unfortunate hand.. I empathize 1000% that has to be the hardest thing in the world to go thru
Stressed Out? Sometimes. Most of the time the stress comes from pure exhaustion tbh. You have to live your life and theirs too -- at least at that age. Even at my most comfortable state it feels like twice the work when I'm with the kids as opposed to when I didn't have to worry about it
Do I miss not having to worry about such things? Believe it or not, no. My life was boring as hell before i had kids so i had a lot less to lose in terms of lifestyle than a lot of people tbh. Even the dullest moments with my kids feel 1000% more rich than when I was lonely/depressed with out them. I do kind of miss the ability to be able to focus on just myself when I wanted to but because I was in such a weak state of mind back then I don't really miss it just because I hated feeling so confused and depressed all the time.
Anyway my girls are amazing and I'm being 1000. Plus I can still live those carefree no-kid moments when I'm not actually with my kids. That's what a lot of people who don't have kids don't think about imo. You're not with them 24/7 and nor are you supposed to be, kids need independence just like you do, but the difference is you have to plan for it, instead of being blessed with freedom of responsibility 24/7.. I can still go out, get drunk, high, party, fukk off just like I could when I was 21..just not as often, and tbh having that balance is not a negative thing. For some people like me it puts their life into focus a bit. Now I just focus on getting money/making cool shyt, which is honestly my lane anyway. I'm 25 btw. Happy cake day
