I Couldn't Imagine Not Having a Solid Man (FATHER) in my Household Growing Up. Thanks MOM for not trying to do it ALONE.

[Stuntone]

I don't know how a household can run without a Solid Man in it. My dad was far from perfect, but he protected us and kept our bad azzes on the straight and narrow for most part. Just knowing I had a hero to run to when I was wronged or physically hurt by someone. My mom is too sweet to be challenging anyone really. She's not built to be a fighter or aggressive. But my dad kicked a lot of ass A real Commander. That warmth and protection gave me more confidence and bravado growing up. And I can only imagine how not having warm and protection in a home effect your psyche.

Could that be the reason so many people from single parent homes have so many issues. So ready to argue and shoot. Is that some type of defense mechanism?

Not only having a father is screwed up, but not having both, your mother and father's side of the family to help guide and nurture thru the crazy life. My uncles and older cousins gave me so much knowledge and game about life.

"Don't do that, do this.
Stay away from them people.
I can show you how to fix that.
This girl I know likes you, she's cool. "



Having both sides is a blessing. I love both sides of my family and have 1st cousins that are like brother and sisters on both sides.

You really do your child a huge disservice and you disadvantage them tremendously by not choosing a solid Mother or Family with a great family for them, but we don't like to talk about this in the Black Community because it makes are Single Moms look bad. But stats show the most criminals and mental health cases are from people from single parent homes.

 

[Prynce]

I didn’t read the op just going off the title but it’s stupid to place all the responsibility of a relationship on the mother. It shows a lack of accountability, it takes 2 to make that work

 

[Stuntone]

Not only that, household with no Man in them become target. Creeps, Pedos and Conmen don't bring their games and tricks to homes with a Solid Man in them.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

Some of y'all get it.....

The Negro Family: The Case for National Action

Office of Policy Planning and Research United States Department of Labor March 1965 Two hundred years ago, in 1765, nine assembled colonies first joined together to demand freedom from arbitrary power. For the first century we struggled to hold together the first continental union of democracy...

www.dol.gov

 

[Prynce]

After reading the OP, yeah this is just a thinly veiled attempt to shyt on single mothers. I wonder why do you feel the need to be validated in this way? Slandering Bw on a place that already views them in a negative light. It says something about you and your life.

 

[Stuntone]

After reading the OP, yeah this is just a thinly veiled attempt to shyt on single mothers. I wonder why do you feel the need to be validated in this way? Slandering Bw on a place that already views them in a negative light. It says something about you and your life.

Anyone (Race or Gender) who thinks they can raise a child alone and only give that child their side of the family is a good idea, is a GOTDAMN Fool. Yes, Black Women seem to be the only gender or race that tries to make being a single parent a badge of honor and I good ideas. They need slander.

And this is the Problem with our People, can't talk real situations because it hurts someone feelings.

 

[At30wecashout]

I didn't have to imagine it....

Spoiler: Well

 

[Peachstate]

You should also thank your father for not leaving your mother to do it alone. He chose to stay and take on the task of raising you. He deserves praise for that.

 

[Peachstate]

Anyone (Race or Gender) who thinks they can raise a child alone and only give that child their side of the family is a good idea, is a GOTDAMN Fool. Yes, Black Women seem to be the only gender or race that tries to make being a single parent a badge of honor and I good ideas. They need slander.

And this is the Problem with our People, can't talk real situations because it hurts someone feelings.

That's called "coping mechanism." When you see your man walk out the door and leave you with all the responsibility, you say/think what you have to so you can do what needs to be done. Misguided, yes, but it's a byproduct, not a precursor.

 

[Justin Nitsuj]

My deceased father was a bytch ass nikka in more ways than one. I grew up in a single black woman home and had to teach myself things that I couldn't learn from my father because his bytch ass didn't want anything to do with us, all because my mother was with another dude. And he actually thought child support was doing something. I don't hate on black people that grew up in a household with two parents because we really need that structure.

The only good thing I can say about my bytch ass father is that he did good raising my little sister in the suburbs. Then to again, sometimes she can really be on that shyt and I don't want nothing to do with her.

 

[Geek Nasty]

I didn’t read the op just going off the title but it’s stupid to place all the responsibility of a relationship on the mother. It shows a lack of accountability, it takes 2 to make that work

Yeah sometimes daddy NEEDS to GTFO

 

[Complexion]

Yin and Yang spin. Both are needed for the optimal development of a jit as their mirror neurons do their thing and look outside for cues and clues about the rules of the Game and the polarities within they're attempting to comprehend since dropping into the flesh as they decode their surroundings.

Nature abhors a vacuum and thus something else will step into that space with its own concepts and that in itself shows you the root cause and thus solution to this problem as its never too late to rebirth yourself. Know why?

All of this takes place inside your awareness. Why not become your own best friend and correct what went wrong via the power of imagination? May sound frivolous to those that don't want change so they won't even attempt but those who know, know. After all, what is money worth on its own without the backing of what you think and accept as the way it is?

Hear that? The penny just dropped in the heads of many reading...

 

[Prynce]

Anyone (Race or Gender) who thinks they can raise a child alone and only give that child their side of the family is a good idea, is a GOTDAMN Fool. Yes, Black Women seem to be the only gender or race that tries to make being a single parent a badge of honor and I good ideas. They need slander.

And this is the Problem with our People, can't talk real situations because it hurts someone feelings.

You are not doing anything for the community by speaking to the choir on the coli. Hence my post

 

[Fill Collins]

My ol boy wasn't the most involved parent, but he was there and even when shyt was rough, never stepped out like his dad did

He was my first role model, I wanted to be just like him, a lot of brehs i knew never had that

Thanks pops

 

[010101]

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