I Have A Divorce Consultation on Monday, What Should I Expect

[13473]

We be going through ups and downs. This past week we are good, but before that it’ll be down consistently.

She’s the one that brought it up to me multiple times, on some get ur shyt together, ultimatum shyt. I got kids, and like to see them everyday so it made me really compromised. But really I ain’t tryna compromise my whole life, I’d rather just get it over with and adapt to a new lifestyle

i'd definitely give it more effort for the sake of the kids. it sounds like there is poor communication

you are doing something she dislikes, so her response is to threaten u to motivate u, but that's clearly not motivating u. i really don't think that's a marriage-ending event, just u both have stuff to work on. i thought growing together was part of marriage

if divorce became illegal tomorrow, how would u two work through this problem?

 

[Apollo Creed]

Every.

Single.

Time.

nikkas gonna learn bout that stupid ass provider talk

 

[Blackrogue]

You think she’d give him the same grace especially if she has been the one giving ultimatums (assuming i didnt misread his post)

He knows his situation better than we do so I cannot speak on that, as far as ultimatums go, I usually don't find them healthy unless it's her asking you to do things which ultimately will be best for you. But the ones where you are being pushed to accommodate someone else, I'm not a fan of. There's a possibility he's being rash, so that's why I said what I said.

 

[Apollo Creed]

He knows his situation better than we do so I cannot speak on that, as far as ultimatums go, I usually don't find them healthy unless it's her asking you to do things which ultimately will be best for you. But the ones where you are being pushed to accommodate someone else, I'm not a fan of. There's a possibility he's being rash, so that's why I said what I said.

I interepreted his post as her using divorce as a threat and the past thus him “beating her to the punch”.

For me if they’ve done all the therapy bullshyt and she does that she was someone never meant for marriage (in this day and age as we clearly see marriage isnt needed to have kids), and imo someone who even threats divorce isnt someone that cares about family anyways.

 

[1thouwow]

You probably need to have a heart to heart honest conversation with your wife instead of blind siding her like this on the day after mothers day that you took that meeting. This operating on your own will probably be expensive in the long run because it'll probably breed hurt and animosity, as opposed to sitting down and thinking what's best for you guys and the kids. Best of luck to you and your family regardless of what you choose.

I did the consultation without her knowing. I’m not gonna tell her right now. Might not tell her until the time is right

 

[1thouwow]

He knows his situation better than we do so I cannot speak on that, as far as ultimatums go, I usually don't find them healthy unless it's her asking you to do things which ultimately will be best for you. But the ones where you are being pushed to accommodate someone else, I'm not a fan of. There's a possibility he's being rash, so that's why I said what I said.

I interepreted his post as her using divorce as a threat and the past thus him “beating her to the punch”.

For me if they’ve done all the therapy bullshyt and she does that she was someone never meant for marriage (in this day and age as we clearly see marriage isnt needed to have kids), and imo someone who even threats divorce isnt someone that cares about family anyways.

We’re currently in marriage counseling. This is like our 4th time going through 3rd parties. We’re not afraid to get help from outside our marriage. This is after only 4 years of marriage too, and I don’t see the shyt we having irreconcilable differences on getting better in year 5, 6, 7 etc. I’m out before I get screwed by the system even more for waiting

 

[Apollo Creed]

We’re currently in marriage counseling. This is like our 4th time going through 3rd parties. We’re not afraid to get help from outside our marriage. This is after only 4 years of marriage too, and I don’t see the shyt we having irreconcilable differences on getting better in year 5, 6, 7 etc. I’m out before I get screwed by the system even more for waiting

Best of luck. Over time my views on marriage in the west has change, and regardless of what nikkas say you cant “out alpha” your way to “save” anything the laws are set up

 

[beenz]

The consultation didn’t seem like I would screwed, but I know that’s best case scenario.

I may have to come off some bread, since I have a lot more liquid cash than she does, but nothing that’ll set me back too far.

I think the hardest part is telling my wife

Just prepare to have to come off half of that

 

[1thouwow]

Just prepare to have to come off half of that

Yeah. I don’t have joint accounts, but my wife knows I have more liquid than her. I’d cut a deal with her

 

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[Unemployed GM]

How long you been married? Any children?