so... are you saying that you’re using these lines to trick women into thinking you want something serious but in reality you’re just trying to smash and dash? I just wanna confirm...
They see what they want to see. There's no trickery involved, and a ho is not
actually interested in a relationship. If they were, they wouldn't sabotage the ones they're in with one of the four elements of hoetry as mentioned earlier.
Within the heart of every ho is a duality:
The desire to be "seen" and understood
The fear of being actually vulnerable and being seen.
When a man is able to see and understand their pain without them revealing much to him right away, it frightens them because as mentioned earlier in the thread, they desire control. When a man is able to see a ho's pain, and show her 'I know what you are, and understand why you are this way' it takes away their sense of control, it feels like they've been made vulnerable on terms that are not their own even though the man has no malicious intent and is in fact trying to become closer to her. They feel like they had that control taken away from them, that they did not unravel their story on their own terms. There is also the fear of growing close to a man, only for him to find out more about her and then becoming
disappointed. There is also the fear that if a man gets to
truly know her, he can hurt her in a way that other men cannot. Hence why the ho will sabotage a relationship by cheating, lying, or playing mind games to chase that man away.
It's why you get shyt like women complaining on social media about how they cant find a man whilst simultaneously ignoring all the simps in her inbox trying to cheer her up while expressing romantic interest. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. "Aint no good men out there" *A good man arrives and is ready to commit, she chases him away once he gets too close* "see, like I said, ain't no good men out there"
Expressing a desire for physical intimacy while framing it in terms of vulnerability and communication tells the ho "yes, I can be vulnerable, and yes,
I, too may leave this thing we have going on when shyt starts to get too real, so you don't have to feel bad. You can relax knowing that I won't catch feelings, and if
you start to, I won't begrudge you for leaving. I won't take it personally because
I, too am capable of doing the same thing".
She can then relax knowing she can put you in the 'casual' lane and not the boyfriend lane and you won't lose your shyt. The myth that men get sold is that
all women desire serious relationships and they won't just have sex with you and then disappear. We're fed this myth that only men behave that way and it's clearly not true. It only takes a quick glance at male twitter or this board to see all the stories of men who thought they had something serious with a woman only for her to disappear or do him dirty.
that VULNERABLE shyt is a cheat code. With a sprinkle of “I’m truly open to where we can take this relationship” and a hint of “we can connect on a physical, emotional, and spiritual level” mannn… that big three combo is wild
This is a critical point of contention.