Writes an article bashing black men, goes over how she has all this and that... "I knew the odds stacked against me from go. I’m indisputably Black, so I have to contend with both anti-blackness and fetishism from men with a chocolate fantasy. I’m fat bodied and yes, I always share a full body picture from go but I know this can lead to fat shaming from men I reject after a few inboxes, unsolicited gym and personal training offers, and being both hypersexualized and desexualized at the same damn time. I’m also a Womanist who is generally courteous but uncomfortably forthright. I’m not afraid to initiate conversation and will respond to sexual innuendo as aggressively as it’s delivered." I Want to Date Black Men. Why Is It So Hard? It's not your blackness, it's your fukking weight that's the damn issue. Only way, I am dating women that size is if I am assed out and broke as hell. Her friends should be ashame for not being real with her.