If a fathers child won’t speak to them should the father keep trying no matter what?

[BrothaZay]

long story short have a family member going through this

My cousin will not speak to him

I can honestly say my aunt is in full wrong of how this situation turned out

My cousin is too young to see it(he is out of hs though )

He hasn’t even gave his father a chance to plead his case

His father still text him happy bday happy holidays etc my cousin ignores him

My question is is there a point where a father should just say fucc it and reach for the child to reach out or is it 100% the father’s responsibility to make sure him and his children don’t became estranged

 

[Diunx]

Little breh don't like him, he has to accept it, just because they are family doesn't mean they are gonna love each other.

 

[Colicat]

There are a lot of steps that happen before estrangement.

If your cousin has chosen the no contact route, trust his decision.

The decision could be based on keeping his own mental health in tact.

Let go, and Let God.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

My brother did this to my dad once. My dad was like


Years later my brother came back to make peace with my dad and my dad accepted him.

 

[Bop Gun]

A Father not having a relationship of any kind with his son, is terrible. Unless, he was a complete pos to him, the mom, his own family and even friends.

Pops got a lot of work to do. Not knowing the exact situation though, but young breh is old enough to realize some things are bigger than him too.

Sad situation overall.

 

[BrothaZay]

There are a lot of steps that happen before estrangement.

If your cousin has chosen the no contact route, trust his decision.

The decision could be based on keeping his own mental health in tact.

Let go, and Let God.

Not necessarily. Without going into too much detail they were pretty close


Uncle used to send him money every month a few hundred dollars directly to him

Ain’t ends up putting him on child support that is almost 2k a month

Cousin asked for money after. Unc tells him he has no extra money to ask his mom

Cousin stops talcn to him

 

[Pool_Shark]

At a certain point I’d just be like doors always open, you know where to find me.

 

[MMS]

There are a lot of steps that happen before estrangement.

If your cousin has chosen the no contact route, trust his decision.

The decision could be based on keeping his own mental health in tact.

Let go, and Let God.

yup

communication is something that has to be desired by both sides or its no longer communication. Many parents take this for granted

 

[Slow Moving]

Cousin sounds like a bytch tell him to man up.

 

[desjardins]

Depends on the age, my friend went through this and just said fukk the kid and moved on with his life. The problems started when the kid was in high school though, a $40k private school my friend was paying half of

One my cousins have the same issue I think since I ain't see one of his sons in a decade but I got less info on that

 

[Wildhundreds]

yup

communication is something that has to be desired by both sides or its no longer communication. Many parents take this for granted

I believe it doesn't hurt to still reach out, even if its not received. People are deceitful, and will say that he didn't try to reach out down the road, even though the cousin is the one who cut off communication. It only takes 5 seconds to do and you leave a trail of "good works".

 

[jeh]

No​

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

I would keep reaching out a couple times a year. But we’ve seen men accused of being absentee fathers, when that wasn’t the case. Even I am guilty of making the quick judgements.

 

[Turbulent]

Not necessarily. Without going into too much detail they were pretty close


Uncle used to send him money every month a few hundred dollars directly to him

Ain’t ends up putting him on child support that is almost 2k a month

Cousin asked for money after. Unc tells him he has no extra money to ask his mom

Cousin stops talcn to him

Going off that, your cousin is looking funny.

 

[Jaylen Tatum]

Sounds like a Jeff Arnold situation