If A Light Skin Black Woman Only Dates Dark Skin Black Men Is She Colorist With A Fetish?

[WSFGDan]

Spinoff from this thread.

Mixed Girl: "I Only Date BM, But Black Men That Only Dated White & LightSkin Girls Are Red Flags"

The biracial girl said something interesting, she stated light skin women date dark skin men because they think they’re more masculine and buy into stereotypes and love being put on a pedestal & treated special.

My question is why are these women never questioned for their preference when they fetishize black men the same why other races do?

The focus is always the men but it works both ways

 

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Did you want the obvious answer within the context of historical demonization of people who deviate from whiteness...or did you wanna pretend that there isn't a premium on whiteness and any features associated with it thus rendering a preference for darker skin tones less scrutinized than one for lighter skin tones?

Did we also wanna ignore how skin tones are gendered in our society with darkness associated with masculinity and whiteness associated with femininity thus validating female preference for darker males males with dark features and male preference for females with light features? Or how white and light skinned males can escape value judgements due to the value of whiteness...

Or did you just wanna create a false issue to disrupt the truth that many of our "preferences" have their origins in self-hate and consumption of white-washed media...?

Lemme know. Discourse is always healthy boss!

 

[TEH]

Simple answer not consciously so

And this is common

I’m sure we all know a few light skin girls who live and die by this rule

 

[AJD]

Simple. Double standards
Light skinned girls will just say she loves the masculinity of darker men and it's all gravy

 

[Lewis Black]

leave these retarded topics to twitter

 

[BrothaZay]

Yes. I'm tired of this insecurity dark skin people have when it comes to light skin ppl

 

[Citi Trends]

No. Colorism is for darker men who like lightskin women.

 

[Honey Bee]

I don't think it's either. Just like how black men can prefer pawgs and non black women, I feel like a black woman can prefer to date a dark skin man.To me dark skin men are more attractive

 

[WSFGDan]

Did you want the obvious answer within the context of historical demonization of people who deviate from whiteness...or did you wanna pretend that there isn't a premium on whiteness and any features associated with it thus rendering a preference for darker skin tones less scrutinized than one for lighter skin tones?

Did we also wanna ignore how skin tones are gendered in our society with darkness associated with masculinity and whiteness associated with femininity thus validating female preference for darker males males with dark features and male preference for females with light features? Or how white and light skinned males can escape value judgements due to the value of whiteness...

Or did you just wanna create a false issue to disrupt the truth that many of our "preferences" have their origins in self-hate and consumption of white-washed media...?

Lemme know. Discourse is always healthy boss!

I wasn’t disputing any of that I’m just saying People always assume a black woman’s “preference” & attraction for black men is genuine and isn’t based on those same stereotypes they accuse other races of women of fetishizing.

Light skin black women also play into their role in colorism as “the trophy” and nobody ever questions them

How many times have you seen black women joke about how soft light skin men are and how they “prefer” a dark skin man? They are just as brain washed as the c00n men they love calling out.

 

[InkosiYe]

It is. I don’t see it as any different than a dark skin chick only dating light skin dudes. Different end of the spectrum but the motivations are still colorism based.

 

[Losttribe]

One of my bms... Has dated Only Dark skin brothers..(before and after me). Shes light w red hair.
Im the only one she let nut up in her though and Reallly wanted a baby w me

So idk....

 

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I wasn’t disputing any of that I’m just saying People always assume a black woman’s “preference” & attraction for black men is genuine and isn’t based on those same stereotypes they accuse other races of women of fetishizing.

Light skin black women also play into their role in colorism as “the trophy” and nobody ever questions them

I think people do question lite skinned women but many get called insecure or jealous when they do.

Also why wouldn't a Blk woman's attraction for Blk men be genuine? The entire world and trajectory of history would have to change to problematize somebody liking dark skin. The world would have to not completely demonize people darker than a paperbag or discriminate or not randomly have trillions of insults for people the farther away they get from whiteness, for what your suggesting to work.

But in the world we live in, we both know that ain't happening.

 

[Bigblackted4]

No. Colorism is for darker men who like lightskin women.

Wrong

 

[WSFGDan]

One of my bms... Has dated Only Dark skin brothers..(before and after me). Shes light w red hair.
Im the only one she let nut up in her though and Reallly wanted a baby w me

So idk....

You’re a light skin dude?

 

[Un-AmericanDreamer]

I don't think it's either. Just like how black men can prefer pawgs and non black women, I feel like a black woman can prefer to date a dark skin man.To me dark skin men are more attractive

Lightskin women are considered Black women though, especially if they're with white men.