If you ever needed to be reminded of why #GMB is undefeated...read r/DeadBedrooms

[Turk]

I just need to vent about something. It was a sort of straw that broke the camel's back in my marriage. In 2014, we spent 2 weeks vacation in the Mediterranean. Leading up to this trip, my wife watched the movie "And While We Were Here" literally 20 times. I could tell she was absolutely in love with the scenery and and the story and the idea of being with someone she loves there. I was looking forward to this trip as an opportunity to "find each other" and kindle a flame.

We ended up being like cousins on this whole trip. I was at my wits end by the end of the trip and on the very last night I had to beg her for sex and it was so pathetic. During the days, I wasn't needy nor did I pressure her. I just wanted it to be natural and let us enjoy each other. We seemed to enjoy each other in a platonic way. I tried to show affection but it just wasn't returned and each night, I was rejected.

Later, she confided in me and told me she was repulsed by me and just couldn't do it. This just crushed me. To this day, I can't seem to get over it. Looking back, I realize all of our times in hotels have been platonic for whatever reason. It just sucks.

I'm sorry for not giving more context. I just needed to say this.

...and thank you for listening

I'm so frustrated, i just need to vent. My wife doesn't want to have sex because she says she's embarrassed that our kids "wrecked" her vagina. Last night i had her naked giving her a slow sensuous body rub and she was tense and tight like she was disgusted with my touch. There was a three year drought between my first kid and having sex again. Our second child is almost a year old and we have had sex once in that interim. Again, sorry that im bytching, i just needed to vent, and i really don't have anyone to talk to.

My wife and I have had talks. More than once.

At this point, I don't really see the point of trying. Maybe after a few drinks and I forget the past, I'll make a move (and be rejected).

But mostly, I look over at her, and I'm either angry and resentful, or just sad. I know she's not sexually interested in me anymore. So I try to not snap at her or otherwise be short, but it's hard to contain my heart dropping through my stomach. I still do love my wife. I feel butterflies looking at her. I am attracted to her and still want to have sex with her. But I am either sad or very resentful thinking about our sex life and it's harder and harder to repress those feelings.

She looks at me and says, "what's wrong"?

Talks have come and gone. I don't want another talk. I lie and say, "nothing is wrong" and feign a smile.

What do you do in that situation?

Hi everyone I am in a marriage of almost eight years and it has been sexless for almost two years not entirely maybe once or twice a year if I'm lucky wife doesn't seem to think it's a problem she says I'm a dikk all the time that's why she won't well it's kinda hard to be a dikk when you practically do everything for someone. She wants her back and feet rubbed all the time but does not do the same for me. I am at my wit's end with it and don't know what to do. I love her very dearly but I'm tired of the no sex. There are times I just don't care anymore she doesn't want to talk about it. I need help advice anything

Our sex life is once every 3-4 months. Really only when she wants it and when it happens, she. just. lays. there.

We were watching a show on TV, where this muscled, good looking jock came out and my wife said, "Whewwwww, the things I would do to him!" Basically saying that if I, her husband, looked like that, she would be all over me.

I am 6'2. I weigh 195 lbs. Sure, I could lose about 10-15 lbs. The gym has never really been my thing, but I eat right and drink lots of water(no soda, no candy). My wife is 5'1 and weighs 168 lbs. She's curvy, nice shape, has a belly, big booty, but very pretty face. I, of course, could give a shyt what she looks like. I want her every day.

So, then out comes hot, muscled guys girlfriend(it was some reality tv show), she's sporting a six pack and has like 0% body fat. I looked over at my wife and said "In order to get THAT guy(pointing to hot guy), you have to look like THAT girl(pointing to hot girl).

She didn't speak to me all last night, and again this morning.

I haven't had sex in over 4 years. Most of which I have been with my now current wife. We've been married a little over 6 months now. She's a virgin. Not for religious reasons. Just never happend. She always said she would when she was ready. I'm patient I love her. So I waited. So when I proposed she decided since we've gone this long why not wait until our wedding night. Well here we are 6+ months after that night. The complete lack of intamcy kills me the most. She won't hold me. Won't kiss me. I go down in her. She won't reciprocate. We fight constantly rarely about sex. I don't even care about that anymore. I don't care about anything. I'm fukking dead inside. I can hear her crying in the other room now as I try to sleep on the couch. I feel nothing. She's always mad. I'm always mad. She's the most pessimistic hate filled person I know. But I don't know what I would do without her. I'm so tired, angry, and scared. She refuses to see therapy and go to couples therapy. I see posts about people with kids. I don't. I can leave whenever I want, but I can't. I can, but I won't.

TL:DR; fukking hate my fukking life.

My wife has a pretty low libido. We have sex 1-3 times a month, but only if she's turned me down a few times recently. Her body language always indicates she is just letting it happen, and she never initiates. We get on great most of the time, but she shows very little affection.

Now, she has a bullet vibrator which we sometimes use when we do have sex. I recently became suspicious that she was using it when I left the room to make breakfast, even after turning down sex with me. Well, today I had my fears confirmed.

We have a fairly open-plan house so you can hear upstairs from the living room. It's quiet, but the sounds are very distinctive. The drawer opening, the rattling of the vibrator against the drawer as she feels around for it, the drawer closing. The click. The faint buzzing which intensifies the harder she presses on it. The faint gasp and the second click after 2-3 minutes. The drawer opening and closing again.

I feel creepy as hell saying this, but I needed to confirm or deny whether this was happening, so I waited in the living room to hear the whole thing unfold.

Here is where I could've handled things a bit better. After a few minutes when my heart stopped pounding, I went upstairs and told her what I heard and said I was upset about being turned down. And sure enough she FURIOUSLY denied the whole thing, called me delusional, psychotic, and accused me of ruining the whole day (we had plans).

I stayed calm and tried to explain I'm just hurt because I get turned down a lot and now she's done this, but of course that didn't help matters.

In hindsight I probably should have either accepted it and moved on, or tried to catch her in the act, which would have been simple enough. But here we are, one majorly pissed off wife who wants me to back down and admit I might have heard wrong.

The incident alone isn't too bad, but I feel badly betrayed. Firstly because of the ongoing emotional neglect, and secondly because of her absolute refusal to admit what happened.

What would you guys do?

/r/DeadBedrooms - There's only one Love Language, those other four things are *Like* Languages



#GMB

 

[Wink Beaufield]

At that point I'd be picking up hoes. Ain't no way in hell I'm gonna be dry for 4 goddamn years.

 

[全能の神]

Communication is key

 

[hatealot]

That shyt is straight up sad state of affairsl. Each and every one of these nikkas got tricked by their wives. Once the ring came on the p*ssy got put on the shelf. It usually go like this, graduate college get job, marry girlfriend at time, buy house and have children all before they hit 35. These women dont respect these men or are atrracted to them, they basically hit every life goal systemtically and the wife is completly set. Most of them dont even do anything anymore that foesnt focus around their wife or kids. The momemt they start hanging out and putting on the facade they are fukking around guess who comes creeping.

 

[DjBhaled]

Spooky shyt going on out here op

 

[ColdCutKing]

@GrindMode

Dang these cacs outchea winning

 

[Xyrax]

We were watching a show on TV, where this muscled, good looking jock came out and my wife said, "Whewwwww, the things I would do to him!" Basically saying that if I, her husband, looked like that, she would be all over me.

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So, then out comes hot, muscled guys girlfriend(it was some reality tv show), she's sporting a six pack and has like 0% body fat. I looked over at my wife and said "In order to get THAT guy(pointing to hot guy), you have to look like THAT girl(pointing to hot girl).

She didn't speak to me all last night, and again this morning.

DAAAAAAAAMN, he fukking bodybagged her with that one. She gonna bring that scar straight to divorce court whenever they get around to it, lmao.

Communication is key

I mean... communication is important. But breh..... Married and no sex for 2 years is just ridiculous. Thats long LONG overdue for divorce, period. Its clearly not working for either party at that point.

 

[全能の神]

I mean... communication is important. But breh..... Married and no sex for 2 years is just ridiculous. Thats long LONG overdue for divorce, period. Its clearly not working for either party at that point.

Im just saying if they talked these problems out instead of beating around the bush, they wouldn't be in sexless marriages for years and years. Then again these people sound like idiots so idk

 

[VertigoKnight]

Sounds like a lot of these problems and issues were there before they got married.

 

[Actually6Foot3]

And women wonder why more and more men are avoiding marriage. Get married if you want to brehs but im good. You got a 50% chance of it ending in divorce or even if you dont get divorced you could end up in a loveless, sexless marriage like these saps.

 

[ORDER_66]

I'd just divorce, hit the gym hard and start fukking hoes without a care and I'd let everyone know my ex is a frigid bytch... no man should tolerate this disrespect post partum depression be damned... kids or no kids a man has needs if you won't tend to them someone else will in alot of places women outnumber men 2-1 it's like shooting fish in a barrel. Why get married?!? #gmb

 

[LeftCoast]

I wonder if men who abuse their wives get more sex, cuz treatin them like a queen don't work

 

[TRUEST]

I wonder if men who abuse their wives get more sex, cuz treatin them like a queen don't work

I bet they do. Men who beat women usually give zero fuks and that gets these women wet. I know this first hand. And no, faking not giving a sh1t does not work. They can tell when u really really don't care if they stay or leave.

 

[lotteryplaya]

gmb

 

[Sukairain]

#GMB wins yet again