Is It Even Worth Getting Married These Days?
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Tough question..I agree with the girl who says don't do it in your early 20s.
Maturity is the key to finding someone in the right mind state to be locked down for years on years
Also Reality is.. They might be cheating on you now regardless and it won't hurt any less
But if you've found the right one..
(Defined as Truely compatible not just sex & money but also kindness & respect with shared goals and great communication)
Then You know it.
You're prolly just scared but if you don't lock it down you'll regret it for a really long time
Nothing on this Earth lasts forever... It's about the journey not the destination
You will never "arrive" in this ultimate place of happiness
Whether you get married or don't.. you will continue to face challenges that will make you question whether you're doing the right thing by staying with them
You can either stay single and pretend you're better off being the person who stares into the happy home window from the outside
Or GMB ... And be occasionally staring at the front door thinking there's something better out there
Maturity is the key to finding someone in the right mind state to be locked down for years on years
Also Reality is.. They might be cheating on you now regardless and it won't hurt any less
But if you've found the right one..
(Defined as Truely compatible not just sex & money but also kindness & respect with shared goals and great communication)
Then You know it.
You're prolly just scared but if you don't lock it down you'll regret it for a really long time
Nothing on this Earth lasts forever... It's about the journey not the destination
You will never "arrive" in this ultimate place of happiness
Whether you get married or don't.. you will continue to face challenges that will make you question whether you're doing the right thing by staying with them
You can either stay single and pretend you're better off being the person who stares into the happy home window from the outside
Or GMB ... And be occasionally staring at the front door thinking there's something better out there
Loop Ba$eCrawler
All Star
Marriage is for the rich people. Regular women haven't figured this out yet....
I'm never getting married because I'm a selfish person and the older I get and more money I make with my hardwork the more selfish I get.
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LMAO dunno why this got me so weak.fukk it stay single nikka goddamn
Im just saying most people ready to settle down in their 30s or w/e...
I agree tho. I probably won't get married till like mid 30s if I do. I gotta be Pretty established before I make a decision like that
Better also make sure you're not in a state where Common Law Marriage Laws apply!
whats that
What is Common Law Marriage?
In the United States, common law marriage has been in existence since the horse and buggy days of 1877. While it might sound like an archaic form of matrimony, it's still technically around today in one form or another in ten (10) states and the District of Columbia. Additionally, five (5) states recognize common law marriages with some restrictions. FindLaw has put together some information for you about common law marriages, where they exist, how you enter into one, and same-sex common law marriages.
Definition of Common Law Marriage
A common law marriage is one in which the couple, usually a man and woman, lives together for a period of time and holds themselves out to friends, family and the community as "being married," but never go through a formal ceremony or get a marriage license. Here are three requirements for most states. Just "living together" is not enough to validate a common law marriage.
1. You must live together (amount of time varies by state).
2. You both must have the legal right or "capacity to marry"
- Both must be 18 years old (varies by State);
- Both must be of sound mind;
- Both must not be married to someone else.
4. You both must hold yourself out to friends and family as being a married couple such as:
- Taking the same last name;
- Referring to each other in public as "husband" or "wife;"
- Joint bank accounts;
- Joint credit cards.
The following states fully recognize common law marriage:
- Alabama
- Colorado
- District of Columbia
- Iowa
- Kansas
- Montana
- Rhode Island
- South Carolina
- Texas (calls it "informal marriage")
- Utah
The following states formerly recognized common law marriages, and will generally still recognize them if couples satisfied all the requirements before the ban was in place.
- Georgia (if created before January 1, 1997)
- Idaho (if created before January 1, 1996)
- New Hampshire (for inheritance purposes only)
- Oklahoma (if created before November 1, 1998)
- Ohio (if created before October 10, 1991)
- Pennsylvania (if created before January 1, 2005)
Currently, only Iowa, Rhode Island and the District of Columbia recognize common law same-sex marriages. Most other common law states make the law gender-specific so only a man and a woman can enter into a common law marriage.
What If We Couldn't Get Married When We Started Living Together?
Even if you don't have capacity to marry when you start living with someone, you can still end up in a common law marriage.
This could happen if:
- You or your partner gets a divorce while you are living together in a common law state; or
- You move in with someone who is married, and their spouse dies while you are living with them.
No. Once established, a common law marriage is just as valid and binding as a formal wedding and marriage would be. It lasts until a court grants a divorce or one partner dies.
What Happens if My Common Law Spouse Dies?
You will have to prove your marriage to be able to inherit and receive insurance benefits, Social Security Survivor's Benefits or pension benefits.
How to Tell If a Common Law Marriage Exists
Generally speaking, the strongest evidence that both partners intended to be married would be a written agreement between them. Ultimately, you only know for sure if there is a common law marriage when a judge says so.
Here are some factors a court would look at to determine if you are or were in a common marriage
These include:
- Did you two live together?
- Did the woman use the man's last name?
- Did you sign contracts together to buy a home? A car?
- Did you file joint tax returns?
- Did you have joint bank accounts?
- Did you each refer to each other as husband and wife?
- Did you share household duties and expenses?
- Did you have and raise children together?
Common Law Marriage - FindLaw
