Is it ever good to be honest with a man about your past?

[InDePickWest]

Ok fellas I just got done having a convo with my roommates and a few of our friends. One f them has a situation with a guy and she messed w/ a friend of a friend of his
Turned into a whole conversation and like 8 of us said we follow the dont ask dont tell policy and like 2 said be upfront.
I told her men cant handle stuff like that
They said shed be dummy of the year if she voluntarily readied her past
Then I log on LSA and theres a thread right there about disclosing your past to a guy and everybodys saying the same ish we said.

Its true huh? Yall cant handle the truth
my past is the past
accept me for who I am today

Or see me flying high and get that

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

If he's still friends with that dude, yes.

They get into an argument and out comes 'That's why I fukked your bytch!'​

 

[Big Daddy]

Ok fellas I just got done having a convo with my roommates and a few of our friends. One f them has a situation with a guy and she messed w/ a friend of a friend of his
Turned into a whole conversation and like 8 of us said we follow the dont ask dont tell policy and like 2 said be upfront.
I told her men cant handle stuff like that
They said shed be dummy of the year if she voluntarily readied her past
Then I log on LSA and theres a thread right there about disclosing your past to a guy and everybodys saying the same ish we said.

Its true huh? Yall cant handle the truth
my past is the past
accept me for who I am today

Or see me flying high and get that

20 page thread. Just wait on it.

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

If you have nothing to hide or be ashamed of.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

The thing is if I'm real serious about a girl I will eventually find out more than she tells me and it better not be some real dirt.

Even in a big city I find that no one is completely incognito with their actions. Someone knows you or about you and they will talk. Childhood friend, co-worker, casual acquaintance etc.

I don't share everything but I do give up the most important info.

I know plenty girls in my city with a grimey past thinking they got away from it until shyt surfaces. Past drug use, hoeing, and that sort of thing never go unoticed. I've seen some thots exposed in the worst way while tryna hide their past.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

It's not a good idea to be in a relationship with a female who has had sex with one of your friends, and when I say friends I don't mean 'acquaintances', I mean your 'boys'. It's just not a good idea. Females are gonna say that men are insecure, but if we're insecure then so fukking be it

 

[Danny Up]

If you can't handle being judged don't disclose it. People always gonna throw shyt in ya face no matter what. If you fukked my family or my friends I would like to know. Other than that, I don't care because I ain't telling you shyt about my life.

 

[YaBoy]

Of couse its good to be honest. What type of dumb ass question is that? Eventually the truth will come out & it'll get ugly

 

[_Anghellic_]

Yea it is, simply because if you hide your past(if its bad) the dude will not be pleased when it eventually(and it will) spills out. So just be upfront with it.

 

[Smoke]

The fact that you'd want to hide it, means you did some questionable things in the past. That's where the problem is



Grandma always said "Don't do nothing you wouldn't want people to know about"

 

[Kenny West]

how can someone accept your past if you lie about it?

 

[MJ Freedom]

I can only tell you for me personally...

Real shyt, if I'm with a girl, I know she has a past... I don't know WHAT that past is, and as long as I'm not going to find out, I actually prefer not to know. But if I'm probably going to find out sometime during the relationship, she might as well let a brother know from the jump... or if that past is going to somehow hurt me, I need to know (example: her jealous ass ex is stalking her, she fukked some dudes I know, or she has a disease).

I definitely don't want any chick to LIE about her past to me, just omit shyt. Just like I wouldn't tell some girl about the chicks I fukked before her, I'm not really that interested in what dikks were inside her before mine. I know she's not a virgin when I meet her, doesn't mean I need to be reminded about it or know the specifics.

 

[BoogieDown23]

If you fukked one of my boys or brothers I would like to know.






Besides that, why should you care about what someone thinks about your past?







Unless you've done some wild and crazy shyt

 

[TheBeigeBomber]

The fact that you'd want to hide it, means you did some questionable things in the past. That's where the problem is



Grandma always said "Don't do nothing you wouldn't want people to know about"

"grandma always told me never throw a stone and hide your hand" - jay electronica

 

[Meadow]

Don't enter into a dynamic hoping for it to become a meaningful, honest relationship with a lie. She should tell him and then give him time to digest it.