Is it possible to change a breh/brehette's perspective?

[2-Digit]

TL;DR version, go to the bold:

I find it a guilty pleasure to read through the Coli threads that talk about things dealing with dating, gender issues, etc. Did it for the longest time as a lurker. It seems that no one seems to want to have a change of heart even if points are brought out rationally. After going through that “who should pay for dinner” thread and getting involved in that conversation, it got me to thinking:

Have any of the brehs or brehettes successfully gotten someone of the opposite sex to change their point of view/question themselves on something? I’m curious about specifically dating/relationship stuff, but it could be anything really.

I’ll give an example, it’s pretty simple, but here goes:

My wife always believed that it was supposed to be the man’s job to take care of the bills if he is the bread-winner. She said that she didn’t have any desire to be involved with the finances and that she trusted me to take care of it. Cool gesture, but I told her that that was ridiculous and she needed to be involved with the finances because we’re equal partners. Also because I’m military and I can deploy at any time, and won’t be able to tackle that stuff when I’m gone. She scoffed at it, and then I deployed not too long after that. She changed her tune real quick.

Discuss?

 

[Blackout]

I just try. Either the person will listen or they won't but as long as I tried its all good.

 

[Colicat]

folks don't want to change on here... they want to gripe, stand on a virtual soapbox, and be in the "right"....

 

[Bunchy Carter]

At my old job I was going to war with some of the sisters at my job. There was one sister at my job; she found out we knew the same females outside of work and she was embarrassed because of the shyt going down and she thought I was going to put her on blast. Even though I disliked the chick we would talk and she worked on the other side of the company that did the recieveing of samples.

On that side you needed only a high school degree/ged; on my side you needed an college degree. So one day we were talking in the hallway and she was telling me some bullshyt and started putting herself down because she did not go to college and shyt. She was talking about the sisters on my side with degrees that were trying to get me fired and shyt. I got tired and I just broke shyt down to her. I told her do you know that the bytches I work with on my side are jealous of you even though they have some punk ass degrees. I said a degree aint shyt; one bytch will bust her legs open and wears a cheap ass weave to cover her big ass forehead and the other bytch has 2 babies out of wedlock and she still thinks her nikka is going to marry her. Then I said dont let me start of the african bytch that thinks she from Ireland and changed african name to a white name.

I said you have to understand that college don't make you; you make the college. I dont give a fukk about my degree; I just got the shyt to make money so later on in the future I can own my business. Being educated does not mean a piece of paper; there are doctors that have unprotected sex and get std's; you would think those motherfukker would know to strap up.

I said those "friends" you called them at work are jealous of you because you love yourself for who your are. You get you self esteem from who you are; they get their self esteem from a piece of paper and how many nikkas she can bed. After that conversation she understood and then I left the job and never talked to that bytch again even though we knew the same females.

 

[sanityovar8ted]

It depends for me how they lay it out.... but on here...noap

 

[Black Sinatra]

I think cats are young minded breh. I was there once
Life teaches best, so much knowledge dropped on me as a younger man that I disregarded... to later find out was true. I'm a young dude still, but I will entertain the possibility of alternative thought.

The beauty of being young is trying new things. Use what works, shed what is useless. A lot of people... especially our people grasp onto convictions, when you lost any light will do....you'll just follow that light because you're scared of being lost again. Nobody wants to find their own way anymore. That's why nikkas don't change minds....they just change the discussion.