Is Losing The Chip On Your Shoulder As You Get Older A Good Thing?

[Monster]

In in my early twenties, and over the last few months, For the first time in my life, I've felt a sense of calmness.

I've begun to realize that every walk I've ever had, every conversation was all ruled by some chip on my shoulder, or some anger.

But lately, I've been losing it, and i don't know why. I feel calm/confident.

like no one can phase me/push my buttons, or i just don't have buttons to push any more. it feels like every problem i had within myself, i'm either working on solving it, or know what i need to do to solve it.

part of me feels lie this is obviously a good thing, but part of me feels that a 'chip on your shoulder' so to speak is necessary to reach your goals. I wonder if michael jordan would have reached the heights he did if he didn't have a chip on his shoulder?


or maybe it's still there, but i understand it better and now how to contorl it.

because i still have the big goals i used to in my mind, but it seems different now. i still have my pride, but i wonder if i really have as much pride as i used to.

 

[Roid Jones]

How is it working for you?, that's's all that matters

 

[Monster]

How is it working for you?, that's's all that matters

for some things i think it's good, but at the same time i feel it's.

for example, right now i'm selling my car and my whole life i realized every conversation i ever had felt like a battle of some sorts, like my fight or flight response was just waitin to kick in

but now when some gy called about the car, i had a sense of calmness and could realize 'theres a certain way i have to project myself so that this guy feels comfortable enough, and we can both communicate what we want' but before everything felt like an all or nothing all the time.

so logically i realize that's good, but when i look at all the figures that are/were in positions similar to what i want to be in, they seem to have more of that selffish only think about me me me vs the world mentality/everything is do or die mentality that i used to have (maybe i still do but it's different)


i know what i'm saying probably doesn't make much sense to anyone

 

[Swirv]

Some chips are harder to get rid of. Im now getting rid of a lingering one.

 

[humble Hermit]

It's called ego and once you let go of it and start digging deep within the higher spiritual realm, it's the best feeling ever.

 

[DarkHorse23]

I will always have a chip on my shoulder. Even when I become successful they're are still grudges I won't let go. Do me wrong, underestimate me, reject me and I'll always have that in the back of my mind. fukk all that I've moved on and we can be friends. I'm like 50 with Ja Rule , Michael Jordan with Isaiah Thomas, you fukk me and it's never any coming back

 

[Sad Bunny]

That's good

We all gonna a die anyways

No point to be angry or have a chip

Just live and be happy

 

[Sad Bunny]

I will always have a chip on my shoulder. Even when I become successful they're are still grudges I won't let go. Do me wrong, underestimate me, reject me and I'll always have that in the back of my mind. fukk all that I've moved on and we can be friends. I'm like 50 with Ja Rule , Michael Jordan with Isaiah Thomas, you fukk me and it's never any coming back

Sounds like a scorned female

 

[DarkHorse23]

Sounds like a scorned female

Call it what you want. Could care less...

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

30 years old and still haven't lost the chip on my shoulder. I still resent certain people, places, and things. Still wake up angry sometimes wanting to punch a hole in the nearest wall. When you've had to deal with depression, a criminal lack of success, being broke for 12 years, living in poverty, homelessness, no success with the opposite sex it will just make you bitter...mean...hating life. Some days I wish I was dead.

Sometimes I see people enjoying life with huge shyt eating grins and I just want to punch them in the fukking face as hard as possible. Cause I'll never be that happy.

 

[intruder]

I dont think I've ever had that "chip on my shoulder" attitude. I typically take things as they come and try to make the best of situations. Probably because of the way i was brought up to believe that the world doesnt owe me a damn thing. I'm of course saying thins with this definition in mind

dictionary.cambridge.org
have a chip on your shoulder
informal
- to seem angry all the time because you think you have been treated unfairly or feel you are not as good as other people: He's got a chip on his shoulder about not having been to university.
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I mean... I have at times appeared to in some discussions but it usually has more to do with my (sometimes) lack of empathy with SOME people on SOME topics than it does with me having a "chip on my shoulder"

 

[humble Hermit]

Let your will power be that chip. Inside you has all the answers to life's questions but sometimes it takes resistance to truly get what you want. What you want, may not be what you receive but you will always receive what you're needs are asking for, if you understand what I'm saying. Those people that you may see as happy, could be drowning in a sea of unhappiness once they return home or may have some harsh Karma lined up against them. It's best to concentrate on one's self in times like these. Also if happiness is what you seek and you've had that chip for so long, I would give it a shot at switching up a bit. @*L*E*G*A*C*Y*

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

Let your will power be that chip. Inside you has all the answers to life's questions but sometimes it takes resistance to truly get what you want. What you want, may not be what you receive but you will always receive what you're needs are asking for, if you understand what I'm saying. Those people that you may see as happy, could be drowning in a sea of unhappiness once they return home or may have some harsh Karma lined up against them. It's best to concentrate on one's self in times like these. Also if happiness is what you seek and you've had that chip for so long, I would give it a shot at switching up a bit. @*L*E*G*A*C*Y*

I feel ya.

I guess I've been prone to being angry for so long cause I just don't know what's it's like anymore to feel happy without drugs. I just want to be happy. Like I don't even know what that feels like. Like everyone tells me that money doesn't provide happiness but shyt...how happy will you be being broke, poor, living in your car? I've been in all of those situations...I've never had any sort of financial stability in my life...Every job I've had in my adult years I've never made more than $2,500 in a year...eventually it beat me up and damn near killed my self esteem.

Also, shyt...people on here say that having a gf/being in a relationship won't provide happiness...shyt, If I could get laid on a regular basis I wouldn't be all pissed off, stressed, and frustrated all the time. That's easier said than done...how can I switch it up if I haven't had the tools or the opportunity provided to me to switch it up...ya know what I'm saying? That's why I can't stand western society anymore...happiness is so intertwined with money and what it can provide. It's killed any sort of genuine human interaction...especially from my view here being a black man in this fukked up society. At least the white guy with no money can find other people so he doesn't need much...here if you don't got money as a black man you're alone. And people just think you're the scum of the earth. And fear you. And don't want anything to do with you. And refuse to give you a chance. That kind of bitterness that that provides is hard to shake off.

I'm not even making excuses either...I've been waiting for my life to change so I can finally be happy and it seems like it's so goddammit out of my reach that it literally makes me angry as fukk thinking about it.

 

[DarkHorse23]

Let your will power be that chip. Inside you has all the answers to life's questions but sometimes it takes resistance to truly get what you want. What you want, may not be what you receive but you will always receive what you're needs are asking for, if you understand what I'm saying. Those people that you may see as happy, could be drowning in a sea of unhappiness once they return home or may have some harsh Karma lined up against them. It's best to concentrate on one's self in times like these. Also if happiness is what you seek and you've had that chip for so long, I would give it a shot at switching up a bit. @*L*E*G*A*C*Y*

Do you believe karma exist and always comes back to people who do wrong? I've been wrestling with if that's the case especially with people who have done hurtful things to me and I wondering if they'll get there's. Sometimes I wanna be the person to give them their "karma" even though I physically can't

 

[humble Hermit]

I feel ya.

I guess I've been prone to being angry for so long cause I just don't know what's it's like anymore to feel happy without drugs. I just want to be happy. Like I don't even know what that feels like. Like everyone tells me that money doesn't provide happiness but shyt...how happy will you be being broke, poor, living in your car? I've been in all of those situations...I've never had any sort of financial stability in my life...Every job I've had in my adult years I've never made more than $2,500 in a year...eventually it beat me up and damn near killed my self esteem.

Also, shyt...people on here say that having a gf/being in a relationship won't provide happiness...shyt, If I could get laid on a regular basis I wouldn't be all pissed off, stressed, and frustrated all the time. That's easier said than done...how can I switch it up if I haven't had the tools or the opportunity provided to me to switch it up...ya know what I'm saying? That's why I can't stand western society anymore...happiness is so intertwined with money and what it can provide. It's killed any sort of genuine human interaction...especially from my view here being a black man in this fukked up society. At least the white guy with no money can find other people so he doesn't need much...here if you don't got money as a black man you're alone. And people just think you're the scum of the earth. And fear you. And don't want anything to do with you. And refuse to give you a chance. That kind of bitterness that that provides is hard to shake off.

I'm not even making excuses either...I've been waiting for my life to change so I can finally be happy and it seems like it's so goddammit out of my reach that it literally makes me angry as fukk thinking about it.

The thing is, society is totally messed up. Everything externalized is damaging and causing us people bodily harm. It's totally against our nature. You said if you could just get laid on the regular you wouldn't be so stressed but sex isn't meant purely for pleasure, the dopamine released is suppose to exchange knowledge between woman and man, as we are INternal people. So when you're having sex or getting INtimate, you are joining as equal. The way things are in our society though, somebody like Wilt is given props for what he did off the court and it sounds cool. A society was created and we accepted it. As a whole, it will be hard for the masses of our people to give up what this society offers but as an individual, you don't have to subscribe to it. If you're happiness is based on Society's system then you will never be happy because of how it's designed. You said that Happiness is intertwined with money and that couldn't be the furthest for the truth. The externally world provides us with imagery and material things so much that it causes us harm. To people living in the Amazon or remote places away from Modern society, I'm sure they find happiness in what they have. We've been expose to this lifestyle but you don't have to be a slave to it. Life is really what you make it.

Do you believe karma exist and always comes back to people who do wrong? I've been wrestling with if that's the case especially with people who have done hurtful things to me and I wondering if they'll get there's. Sometimes I wanna be the person to give them their "karma" even though I physically can't

Yeah I know karma is real. Karma may not respond to others the way you hope, but even hoping that it will bring Karma to others, will some form of karma to you. Walking away sometimes can open more doors than not. Don't let someone live off your consciousness. Your Ego is tied to tribune or reptile brain function which basically controls your lower functioning self (anger, hate, macho-ism etc) blocking you from interacting with your two frontal lobes and Pineal, which is the doorway to higher functioning activities and the soul.
Don't wish to be the one to deliver that karma, even though there's a chance you could be the one to deliver. It's all about your intent. You already know that others have done you wrong, so use that fuel to correct what's wrong, since you're aware of it. That door is already closed, opening it back up could lead to more doors that may not be welcoming. You will be rewarded for your resistance. Your resistance can even change people which in a sense literally brings back more power to you.


I try with every action I make to question the nature and intent of it. You will look at the world differently and see how much of the beast is in us.