Is saying "Afro-American hair is hard to manage" a form of self-hate/c00nery?

[Raptor]

1st pic are Hadendoa beja peoples.

Nope...they are Torres Strait islanders. Search the pic for yourself. It's from kakoda. They don't look or dress like bejas. I know the pic because it's shown everywhere in Australia as kakoda was a significant place for australian soldiers. They are carrying Anzac soldiers in ww2.

 

[miranda]

Finger detangle 2 feet of 4a hair then get back to me.
I approach it with dread everytime.

 

[CinnaSlim]

This is true a lot of the time but not all of the time. My hair was hard to manage after washing it. It had nothing to do with trying to make it straight. It had to do with detangling it so I could rebraid it. All the conditioner, wash while braided, whatever tips did not apply to my hair type.

Now I have locs so I don't have to worry about detangling. I will never go back to loose hair. So I guess you are right in that my once difficult hair is now quite easy. But everyone doesn't want locs so experiences may vary.

I have 4c hair. Locs are the most practical style for us. However, most 4c women with long hair do not focus on completely detangling and neither do I. It's tedious because our hair loves to tangle or loc. Instead, I finger detangle and get rid of shed hairs. Sectioning is very helpful.

Also, keeping it stretched in braids or twists or threading will make detangling easier.

 

[Queen]

I have 4c hair. Locs are the most practical style for us. However, most 4c women with long hair do not focus on completely detangling and neither do I. It's tedious because our hair loves to tangle or loc. Instead, I finger detangle and get rid of shed hairs. Sectioning is very helpful.

Also, keeping it stretched in braids or twists or threading will make detangling easier.

Everyone's hair is different, lol.

As I said, those suggestions do not work for everyone. Maybe you don't need to fully detangle your hair, but in order to restyle my hair, it needed to be detangled. I have too much hair, that's too thick, and wraps around itself too much for it not to be a chore for me to handle solo.

Twisiting made it even worse, which is what made me realize that my hair type needed to be straightened with heat, or put in locs. None of those pretty air dried buns, twist outs, or other styles for me if my goal was to avoid any type of heat straightening. I even tried that African threading and that was a disaster as far as knots go.

People need to find what works for them because you can look at youtube suggestions all day and find yourself frustrated when what works for "everyone" does not work for you.

That doesn't mean that "tough" hair isn't beautiful. It's great, it's beautiful. Yet even still, for some, it's too much work for them to handle alone.

 

[SouthernBelle]

But it IS rather objectively more effort intensive

Forget women's hair for a sec; white dudes can go months without a haircut and it can be a style; If some of you nikkas got stranded and rescued on some Castaway shyt and saw your hairline after 5 months, you'd have a meltdown

This and what other people have said. I like that description "effort intensive."

 

[SouthernBelle]

Finger detangle 2 feet of 4a hair then get back to me.
I approach it with dread everytime.

This! I try to keep my hair completely stretched at all times.

 

[HideoKojima]

Nope...they are Torres Strait islanders. Search the pic for yourself. It's from kakoda. They don't look or dress like bejas. I know the pic because it's shown everywhere in Australia as kakoda was a significant place for australian soldiers. They are carrying Anzac soldiers in ww2.

I just figured out the discrepancy. Australians referred to the Kokodos as fuzzy wuzzys. but fuzzy wuzzy is also a name given to the hadendoa people by the British. So if you search "Fuzzy wuzzy" in google images, this image and Hadendoas are results. My bad crip

 

[Easy-E]

We really need a Rachel Dolezal alias on the coli. That shyt would be hilarious

Hamster wodda been on it...