Is Sticks and Stones Facts or a bytch Mentality?

[Umoja]

The old adage about Sticks and Stones is really something we need to start adopting into how we move as men. That macho man/foolish pride shyt we been taught by elder idiots ain’t it.

What an oxymoron

"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" is not the best adage to use for the argument. If the goal is to get people to move away from being a macho man, acknowledging why certain words are hurtful is the first step not denying that the words actually hurt.

There's a degree of amusement in not seeing the above contradiction when you acknowledge that 1) It is is an old adage and 2) the macho man shyt was taught by elders. It should have set off alarm bells.

 

[F*ckthemkids]

First off as a man you need to be always thinking ahead. 1. Don't put yourself in certain positions, at certain times, around certain crowds. 2. On the off chance you are out with your woman and some dude is popping shyt, you aren't doing her or yourself any favors by being locked up. Not only that a good woman isn't gonna be cool with you out here fighting because you're in your feelings about words. Touching you is a different story. Violence is not something that usually comes swiftly, there is a buildup, especially amongst strangers. Ain't no shame in ejecting from an encounter that could leave you on the warm side of a casket, or the cold side of a prison mattress.

Do words matter? Of course they do, but do they matter in the context of changing your entire life trajectory? Hell naw.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Words have power which is why some people believe it’s called “spelling” but ultimately, they’re not supposed to affect you because peoples opinions aren’t supposed to affect you normally..

But that’s not always reality.

Disrespectful comments have put many people in prison or in body bags.

 

[Uncouth Savage]

Defense lawyers are expensive.
Prison is slavery.
Ego has to be controlled and domesticated like a wild animal.

 

[Ghost Utmost]

So somebody calls me a name

I kill them with my bare hands

Then what? Just go about my business like nothing happened?

Police is your first obstacle, but maybe they let you slide. You still have the victims people that may want to strike back.

Seems like a lot to stop the person from talking shyt.

The real issue is how this type of stuff affects YOU in the long run.

Do the thing that will keep you safe and happy.

 

[Pop123]

Thought this was a good post from the booth, but i'd be lying if I said I'd never put my hands on anyone for saying the wrong thing to me

If u with your girl and another man starts yelling obscenities at the two of u and calls u a bytch in front of a crowd, could u respond without getting violent?

If u at dunkin donuts and the elderly cac behind u says " Hurry up u stupid N*******" could u respond without violence?

What yall think?

The 1st Amendment, fortunately and sometimes unfortunately (like in these examples you gave) grants Americans the right to say anything they want to say for the most part. If you, in any of those two scenarios, assault/kill/accidentally kill the culprit you are getting thrown in prison bro.

I got a kid about to go to college, step kid about to go to high school, a career, a fiancé, etc… Why throw all that away for some clown who said some words? Think like that and all that machismo stuff will subside.

Now “Yo fukk all this talkin, I’m a fukk you up!” type words, followed by an advance forward…then you have every right to satiate your primitive desire to tear him up lol. Immediate danger is all I’m willing to get sent up for…my girl already knows I’m tough and I already view most white people as devils so none of those two examples would excite me much, lol…just some words from a punk that’s all bark no bite…and I’d say that to him hoping he’d get offended and try to approach…then I’m just defending myself.

 

[Kokoro]

It depends on the situation

As an adult a random person calling me an idiot one off is whatever who gives a shyt

But a child being called names and being demeaned by their parents will probably have negative effects on that child and their development

 

[pawdalaw]

 

[Pop123]

^^^^

 

[MuzzyP]

Cos folks is soft these days

I mean, people would get into duels once upon a time because of affronts to their honor. Times change, but people don't.

That said, I'm not trying to go to jail because I was insulted.