Its 2019... is it time BLACK MEN review the institution of marriage?

[Kuwka_Atcha_Ratcha]

I was thinking, everything about marriage is a money making scheme to line the pockets of white men

it all starts with the ring, of which everyone knows diamonds are worthless yet the white man rapes Africa of its diamonds acts like they are rare and sells them for ridiculous amounts while paying the African labor next to nothing, borderline slavery. - as a black man this is the first of putting thing

then you have the party itself, you invite people to come and eat on your pocket, and most weddings cost the amount where you could put towards a house deposit or even pay off some or all of your mortgage.

then the wedding dress, a dress that's worn once which on avg cost over 1,000

all these things the white man is getting paid off.

and that's not even before we look on divorce, where once again the white man gets paid off. and the woman will probably also get paid from as stats show its usually the men that have to give away money to the ex wife. and lets not even mention alimony the ultimates of insanity.

so is it time we focus on the wellbeing of relationships instead of these institutions ?

 

[phcitywarrior]

I think people should review WHO they get married to. /thread

If you marry the right one and stay COMMITTED to those vows then these issues won’t come about.

 

[DaKidFromNoWhere]

Or you can meet a female that thinks like you, buy a wedding band, grab a witness and go to a courthouse or local magistrate.
I am not married and have no plans to.
Just thought I would offer an alternative to save money.

 

[Kuwka_Atcha_Ratcha]

I think people should review WHO they get married to. /thread

If you marry the right one and stat COMMITTED to those vows then these issues won’t come about.

huh? how is marrying the right person gonna stop African labor being used to enhance the white mans wealth?

 

[Kuwka_Atcha_Ratcha]

Or you can meet a female that thinks like you, buy a wedding band, grab a witness and go to a courthouse or local magistrate.
I am not married and have no plans to.
Just thought I would offer an alternative to save money.

this isn't even a bad idea, but I feel most women have been conditioned to want the big wedding, funny thing is I think its all based on female ego so they can stunt on other females.

 

[Gold]

Why yall feel like everything gotta be a movement?

If YOU dont wanna get married then maybe YOU shouldnt get married? Many black men have raised strong black families through the instituion of marriage. Many have achieved similar sucess without it.

Yall stay on this, "who's with me!?" tip. Its strange. Do whatever you wanna do OP. If you wanna focus on relatiomships sans marriage, do that. If you wanna have a black priest marry you and buy the ring from a black jeweler, do that.

Live your life breh, we wont stop you. But if youre reason is African labor, you can buy a ring without a jewel, you can do go directly to the source and bypass the white man, you can invoke a tradition that doesnt even use rings.

You can do whatever the fukk u and your girl want

 

[Easy-E]

I think people should review WHO they get married to. /thread

If you marry the right one and stat COMMITTED to those vows then these issues won’t come about.

 

[DaKidFromNoWhere]

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[born of fire]

you don’t have to pay a lot of money for a wedding. idk why i’ve been seeing this sentiment a lot lately. my parents went to reno and got married.

find someone who doesn’t want a big wedding. most likely they’ll be compatible with you in other ways and you have a good marriage

 

[QuintessentialBM]

The short answer is probably not.... that's if you understand what the original purpose of marriage is.

As far as the process, that should be reviewed and restructured.... speaking specifically for African-Americans. Africans have it together.

 

[Ya' Cousin Cleon]

they have zero confidence in their outlook/opinions on banal shyt so they need some form of comradery to feel valid

plus it doesn't help these GMB cats focus on the most sensational divorce stories (much like cacs with crime shyt to make black folk look bad) as if

a) that's the average representation of all divorces
b) that's the same material conditions for the average marriage, let alone experience

just goofies. point and laugh.

Why yall feel like everything gotta be a movement?

If YOU dont wanna get married then maybe YOU shouldnt get married? Many black men have raised strong black families through the instituion of marriage. Many have achieved similar sucess without it.

Yall stay on this, "who's with me!?" tip. Its strange. Do whatever you wanna do OP. If you wanna focus on relatiomships sans marriage, do that. If you wanna have a black priest marry you and buy the ring from a black jeweler, do that.

Live your life breh, we wont stop you. But if youre reason is African labor, you can buy a ring without a jewel, you can do go directly to the source and bypass the white man, you can invoke a tradition that doesnt even use rings.

You can do whatever the fukk u and your girl want

 

[goatmane]

I was thinking, everything about marriage is a money making scheme to line the pockets of white men

it all starts with the ring, of which everyone knows diamonds are worthless yet the white man rapes Africa of its diamonds acts like they are rare and sells them for ridiculous amounts while paying the African labor next to nothing, borderline slavery. - as a black man this is the first of putting thing

then you have the party itself, you invite people to come and eat on your pocket, and most weddings cost the amount where you could put towards a house deposit or even pay off some or all of your mortgage.

then the wedding dress, a dress that's worn once which on avg cost over 1,000

all these things the white man is getting paid off.

and that's not even before we look on divorce, where once again the white man gets paid off. and the woman will probably also get paid from as stats show its usually the men that have to give away money to the ex wife. and lets not even mention alimony the ultimates of insanity.

so is it time we focus on the wellbeing of relationships instead of these institutions ?

Have you seen the outlook of us?

Marriage is one of the few ways to build wealth for us. And provide a stable home for our kids. Way too many single parents out here and it's killing us

 

[you're NOT "n!ggas"]

I think men should review WHY they're getting married to who they're marrying in the first place.
There's plenty threads on your 'body count', etc and at the same time we talk about how marriage is a failure.
At the same time we talk about the destruction of the black family.

If you're advocating against marriage and still having kids then you seriously need to provide a healthy alternative. Not "Get Married Brehs".
Bottom line, how do we create a healthy family structure???

 

[semicko82]

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[hayesc0]

I think if you truly love and want to marry do it but both men and women need to stop doing it because of societal expectations. Also it can be very beneficial financially if handled correctly.