Maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan
I didn’t even see this thread. I just touched on this in the Pineapple/ Physicist thread.
You have mothers who send their daughters into the world with NO information knowing that she’s about to go through all the BS the mother experienced 25-30 years ago.
I remember I was asking my mother why she wasn’t more forthcoming about marriage and the things she had been through and she looked me dead in the eye and said “Well it’s your life. I figured that if you want to get married someday you will. There isn’t much to say”.
I just got up and walked away.
The truth is in her mind good looks, raising me to be a “lady” and keeping me out of trouble was the extent of the job; no actual talks about real life, people with ill intentions, what to look for, goals and timelines, etc. Again- I thank TMH for my family everyday because without them…
A lot of people don’t know how some mothers fail their daughters. The same way it isn’t cool for sons to speak about their mother is the same way it isn’t cool for daughters. I was getting push back from my aunts and uncles until one of my uncles kept it all the way funky about my mother’s attitude and behavior since they were children. I was like “Wait- y’all gave her a decades-long pass to be a brat, now I’m the problem because I’m calling out the pattern?!” Dead silence and now everyone wants to act like the conversation never happened. No resolution. Literally being gaslit because it’s too painful to discuss the truth.
A LOT of women are dealing with this, but socioeconomic pressures in OUR community compound things because many of our girls don’t have an out, outlet, resources, or access to loved ones with resources to help.
I know for a FACT I would’ve been food in the streets if I wasn’t in private school PreK-12.
