Because modern media has sold a dream to women a fukking dream.
Be independent, but don't be alone.
Have beautiful perfect kids, but also spend 80 hours a week working.
Be beautiful and in shape, but don't work out too much.
Be demure and lady-like, but have opinions and be educated.
Something like 8% of all black men in America make over 6 figures. That's like 1.5 million dudes. Subtract the ones of age, then the ones that aren't married and you're left with MAYBE around 300,000 dudes. And most of them are married to BLACK WOMEN.