Ladies, how do you feel about the "i don't need no man" rhetoric?

[Busted_Toes]

Is it true? Is it bullshyt? Is it divisive? Is it empowering?

 

[sanityovar8ted]

What u eat dont make me shyt. Meaning what someone else does has no affect on me. Imma live my life the way I see fit and thats with my man.

 

[Shogun]

somewhat related



to

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

It's not something that needs to be stated.

 

[Boogie]

It's not something that needs to be stated.

Why not?

 

[GZR]

I can't imagine growing old without a good woman and I want to be a good man for her. When I hear that kind of talk I think of damaged women

I can understand not wanting to accept any man regardless of qualities, but all women should be open to a man who complements them well.

 

[Ashley Banks]

It's true.

It might be empowering for some women, the ones that think they can't live without a man.

 

[Ashley Banks]

I can't imagine growing old without a good woman and I want to be a good man for her. When I hear that kind of talk I think of damaged women

I can understand not wanting to accept any man regardless of qualities, but all women should be open to a man who complements them well.

There's a difference between want & need. You want a good woman to grow old with, you don't need one. A woman can still want you, without needing you.

 

[Poitier]

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

Why not?

Because it's divisive. Let my BF hear me say I don't need him. He would have a fit, lol.

 

[Blackout]

I always saw it as a coping method for single females.

 

[GZR]

There's a difference between want & need. You want a good woman to grow old with, you don't need one. A woman can still want you, without needing you.

I'm aware of the difference, however in this case we need to acknowledge that the women are saying the word need but meaning want and it is a coping method like @7Revo said. Any woman I've met that used this phrase has invariably been someone who has been hurt by a poor/abusive/absent father or ex-boyfriend(s).

 

[intruder]

I always saw it as a coping method for single females.

Yup

You never realize how much NEEDED something until you got one and then it was taken away. Many indigenous people in the Amazon and other wild environments are living without things that you and I wouldnt last an hour without

 

[The5thLetter]

Complete bullshyt. Like many have said, women say this to cope when they've been hurt or have run out of options. They can't get/keep a man so it's "I don't need no man".

I worked with this one miserable woman who had been done dirty by men for yrs. She had gotten to the point that she was gonna "do her and focus on her career". She even went a step further and didn't desire kids anymore. Fast fwd to her becoming obsessed w/ some dude who used her for sex, now he "saved her". Needless to say he played her, got her preg, made her abort, then she's back at square one w/ not needing a man cuz they aint shyt.