Let’s discuss: why are people so bad at communicating in relationships?

[Colin X]

We’ve all either been the person, had it happen to us(), or know someone that did it.


A problem, big or small, came up and instead of talking about it and trying to fix it the person just walked away from the relationship altogether.


Why do y’all think this is so common?

Everybody knows communication is the key to a good and healthy relationship, ask folks in a good relationship why it’s so good and I guarantee one of their top answers will be “communication”


So why are people so bad at it and try to avoid the very thing that has kept good relationships intact for the most part?

 

[King Poetic]

because majority of those relationships was never based on communication, which is why u see so much cheating....

 

[Stir Fry]

Pride and Ego get in the way

I don't think most people are really thinking far ahead enough to put the two aside most of the time.


Me and my wife are transparent with each other to a fault. It's just who we are though.

 

[AlainLocke]

People don't know to communicate period...

 

[MegaTronBomb!]

People don't know to communicate period...

Most people are poor communicators because they truly lack social skills.

poor social skills are the root of many issues that people have.

 

[AlainLocke]

Most people are poor communicators because they truly lack social skills.

poor social skills are the root of many issues that people have.

Its not even that, people just can't communicate because they want their way and any threat to their way they, do something else to get their way.

People want what they want and if they don't gotta fukk with u to get it, they aren't.

 

[Rockstar Mom]

Mainly ego and pride.

People don’t like to hear about their faults. People don’t want to see themselves for what they really are.

 

[Reality]

as a breh, you realize that direct, 100% honest communication is not what most of these women actually prefer

 

[Colin X]

as a breh, you realize that direct, 100% honest communication is not what most of these women actually prefer

This is 100000000% facts

 

[Maddmike]

Because they not friends to begin with...people get married for dumb ass reasons...i knew my wife for 17 years before we decided to date...we waa best damn friends and talked damn near everyday. I feel I can honestly tell her anything

 

[Colin X]

Because they not friends to begin with...people get married for dumb ass reasons...i knew my wife for 17 years before we decided to date...we waa best damn friends and talked damn near everyday. I feel I can honestly tell her anything

17 years as in including kids or y’all were already adults?

 

[SuperNintendo Chalmers]

Folks are scared of being vulnerable and hurt

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

nikkas didn't properly enter the relationship in the first place

Like 75% of the situationships are based on the fact they wanted to fukk...

So now you fukked...what now?

shyt they don't know

 

[Brolic Scholar]

I think a lot of people actively avoid the truth in life and that works its way into how people communicate.

If a person doesn't want to know the truth they will assume other people dont want to hear it either. A good example of this is the cliche "does this dress make me look fat?" Any adult asking you a question that the mirror can answer in one second is asking you to lie for the sake of their feelings.

Another example is when you'e honest with a man and he calls you a hater. People like that want to feel good. So to avoid you feeling bad and then them feeling bad, they'll lie or avoid the subject. This also applies to other aspects of life. If it doesn't make them feel good, they'd rather be lied to.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Because people are generally terrible at 1) communicating in general 2) making and executing on tough decisions (i.e. walking away from a shytty relationship)

Everyone knows couples made up of people who hate each other but stick together out of convenience/laziness