Let’s discuss: why are people so bad at communicating in relationships?

[The Oracle]

the desire to communicate is probably there

but a lot of people play the conversation out in their heads beforehand and know the other person is too stuck in their ways to change. or lacks the self awareness to see they need any changing. so they decide it’s not worth getting into the conversation at all and just move on

had they had the actual conversation, it might have gone different but usually by that time people have their minds made up. and the older you get, the more you realize people are who they are and ain’t about to change anyhow so talking about it won’t do shyt. people either fit together or they don’t, it’s not something that can be forced

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

We’ve all either been the person, had it happen to us(), or know someone that did it.


A problem, big or small, came up and instead of talking about it and trying to fix it the person just walked away from the relationship altogether.


Why do y’all think this is so common?

Everybody knows communication is the key to a good and healthy relationship, ask folks in a good relationship why it’s so good and I guarantee one of their top answers will be “communication”


So why are people so bad at it and try to avoid the very thing that has kept good relationships intact for the most part?

a lot of people dont know how to communicate.....

im the type were i'll sit down with you and try to talk it out....i'll give a chance...a few times....you dont listen, im walking away....life is too short

 

[Raid]

Funny you bring this up cuz I'm going through this exact thing as we speak........

 

[MaxPain]

Cuz direct confrontation with a woman is pointless


Thats why its called “game”...

Or tell u its a waste to argue with women bc they feel they are always right..

That...and people just straight up dont wanna communicate. I personally dont bother communicating too much so I leave

 

[AlainLocke]

Cuz direct confrontation with a woman is pointless


Thats why its called “game”...

Or tell u its a waste to argue with women bc they feel they are always right..

That...and people just straight up dont wanna communicate. I personally dont bother communicating too much so I leave

We might be related nikka..

I am the same way...I dont' know how many times I just been like..."You got it bytch..."


I don't try to understand crazy...

 

[MaxPain]

We might be related nikka..

I am the same way...I dont' know how many times I just been like..."You got it bytch..."


I don't try to understand crazy...

Theres no point sometimes. I dont mind checking a woman but if I have to tell u to stop doing something more than once, Im mentally checked out. fukk that bytch

Then they wanna act right when u start dogging em

I remember I talked to this girl for like 2 weeks... she told me she still talks to alot of hef exes and she swore up & down her body count/past dont matter..

Yeah I just ghosted her...coli will tell u tell her why before u ghost her but that would be a waste of time to a woman who swears shes right...plus ill never feel the same way

 

[Maddmike]

17 years as in including kids or y’all were already adults?

17 before we started a relationship. We'e know each other so ce we were kids

We had kids after

 

[666 ReVeNGe 666]

Folks are scared of being vulnerable and hurt

Yup and scared to hear the truth.

The reason my relationship has worked for so long is because we tell each other every feeling or thought.

We fix the things making us bored, unhappy etc...