Married brehs come in here I have a question

[sayyestothis]

Marriage is the best thing that ever happened to me besides having kids.

It's beneficial come tax time and gives you personal stability which helps get further in life.

Best advice that has worked for US PERSONALLY is figure out which one of you is best with finances. You run with managing, allocating and paying the bills. There can't be two chief's in this regard.

Also wake up and make sure your spouse wakes up every day with the mindset of "I am actively working on us." Marriage is great but it is alot of work and that's why divorce is so high nowadays. Cause no one wants to work on it and just wants instant gratification. p*ssy shyt IMO.

Good luck tho man. Again it has been almost 9 years for us. Awesome times..

 

[scarlxrd]

Thank you, we had the finances talk but women and men think differently especially when they have their own $

Yep, my wife and I said fukk that wedding bullshyt because we had to foot the bill. If your woman is financially sound and reasonable enough to say "fukk having a wedding, let's just elope", she sounds like a keeper to me.

Weddings are a damn joke.

 

[kav45]

Pros
more disposable cash

someone to nut in whenever you want

a team player who helps you work toward a common goal

Cons
you never know how shé really feels about you until she has your baby

You may be a bytch unworthy of respect

Women can react negatively when you cheat on them

You may have married for physical and neglected if she would make a good mother.

You're not supposed to cheat on your wife

If you have a tight budget your spending habits can be restricted

having a child requires a completely different way of living and thinking or the child will suffer.

Requires maturity to do it correctly

How long have you been married and how many times and how often do you cheat?

 

[MikelArteta]

hows toronto treating you fam?
going to do it at city hall?

all the best!

 

[Family Man]

This year will make 10 years since I got married. It's been great, I'm married to a wonderful woman.

 

[Mowgli]

How long have you been married and how many times and how often do you cheat?

Been married 2 years and change. Been with my wife 7 years and change.

I havnt cheated.

 

[Jahmal]

you really decided to come on the coli for marriage advice?
all these bytchless nikkas gonna tell you not to do it

No we are going to tell him to Get Married Breh

 

[Elle Driver]

This year will make 10 years since I got married. It's been great, I'm married to a wonderful woman.

Black excellence.

 

[Colicat]

iight straight up marriage is not for everyone, i repeat, marriage is not for everyone!

shyt changes, like you think its just another day in a dating relationship, but nah people view you different and you start seeing your relationship different.

1st year will be the absolute hardest fukking year and when it sucks, its fukking repeated ball shots with a fukking shotgun. but once you get pass that year, it gets better and better. You start learning more about each other.

Can you stand their bad habits, like really stand their habits, like you are having a fukked up day and she does some shyt or says some shyt that makes you want to liu kang the bytch? Can you control yourself and roll with the punches, not literally, but these bad habits every has them, its just up to you if you can live with them day in and day out.

money decisions is 50/50 and will be most of your fights. keep your accounts seperate or have one joint and each of your own. just trust me on this. divvy up chores and other things.

she gone want you to be romantic and listen and all that. im telling you this cause once life hits you too, its the small things like this your going to forget sometimes.

Your marrying, so dont treat her like a bytch round the hood, treat her like the queen if you want to be that king.

whatever you do, try not to go to bed angry and solve it. relationship is compromising, but by compromising, dont give up somehting you want either. thats just going to cause resentment like fukk. try to come up with a solution that EQUALLY satisfies both of you

different strokes, what works for my relationship, may not work for your and vice versa.

do not whatever you do, do not talk your personal business with family, friends. shyt is lose-lose situation. work it out with your wife and keep it moving

try to wait to have kids, but if shyt happens, then shyt happens, be there for her cause its about to get crazy up in there.

i can give your advice until im blue in the face breh, but its something that happens and you just gotta feel it out and work it out. at first i hated this shyt and really was a fukking a$$hole, but now we approaching 5 years im cool with it and it just becomes routine.

good luck breh, inlaws fukking suck, your own family fukking suck, when you fight, life fukking sucks, when you miss them, life fukking sucks again, when the sex is good, the sex is fukking good, just groove with each other and keep it simple, no need to complicate shyt. you dont need a extravagant wedding, just know chicks be planning this shyt til 5 and have this fairytale idea, good luck with that shyt

 

[posterchild336]

hows toronto treating you fam?
going to do it at city hall?

all the best!

Doing it in Montego Bay l, we are doing carnival parties this week in Kingston, carnival Sunday, then going straight to mobay for a couple of days on Monday, hang in her area in negril, then go back to Kingston for a bit... Think I'm going get a spot downtown in Toronto and stay in the summers

 

[twan83]

so I decided to straight up elope next week. ... I got engaged last year, people been asking for the big date but decided to just go somewhere and tie the knot and tell people later... How is married life? Regrets, pros, cons....

the metaphor of marriage

its like a ocean it can be smooth sailing and with a beautiful outlook and feel very relaxing and something u look at like man this is the life


then it can be like a damn tsunami rough and wild and make u question yourself sometimes like wtf did i get myself into at times when its not smooth sailing it has rocky moments how often depends on you and her



marriage

is like a partnership too me. u gotta both give equal value in putting in work and worth in it. your not gonna like shyt she does and she wont like shyt u do. get the fukk over it. marriage isn't suppose to be easy its suppose to be a process of how to make things better and succeed as a couple to highest ability

someone is always gonna love more than the other just have the respect for one another. you need good to great communication it makes things easier and can make any disagreement easier to disarm from going to the next level

be loyal to one another not granted u wont know who is loyal just do your part simple as that and dont worry bout what she do and understand that is out of your hands no matter what. u cant control it at all. if she is a good woman she will be loyal no questions asked

love will be there but dont let the love blind your common sense to make proper judgement calls that are right or wrong worse thing to do is have blind love cuz it feels so good like a cloud 9 high but lose who you are as a person

sex will be there often if the chemistry is good and both of u are true to one another. the highest point of sex is chemistry no matter who u with if u got a great chemistry they will always want it often believe that

overall just do right by her and everything else will fall in place
dont try to control things u cant and accept that for what it is

 

[posterchild336]

the metaphor of marriage

its like a ocean it can be smooth sailing and with a beautiful outlook and feel very relaxing and something u look at like man this is the life


then it can be like a damn tsunami rough and wild and make u question yourself sometimes like wtf did i get myself into at times when its not smooth sailing it has rocky moments how often depends on you and her



marriage

is like a partnership too me. u gotta both give equal value in putting in work and worth in it. your not gonna like shyt she does and she wont like shyt u do. get the fukk over it. marriage isn't suppose to be easy its suppose to be a process of how to make things better and succeed as a couple to highest ability

someone is always gonna love more than the other just have the respect for one another. you need good to great communication it makes things easier and can make any disagreement easier to disarm from going to the next level

be loyal to one another not granted u wont know who is loyal just do your part simple as that and dont worry bout what she do and understand that is out of your hands no matter what. u cant control it at all. if she is a good woman she will be loyal no questions asked

love will be there but dont let the love blind your common sense to make proper judgement calls that are right or wrong worse thing to do is have blind love cuz it feels so good like a cloud 9 high but lose who you are as a person

sex will be there often if the chemistry is good and both of u are true to one another. the highest point of sex is chemistry no matter who u with if u got a great chemistry they will always want it often believe that

overall just do right by her and everything else will fall in place
dont try to control things u cant and accept that for what it is

thanks for this advice....people on here has been speaking some real stuff...

 

[twan83]

I eloped. No wedding, not even an engagement ring or wedding bands.
I would recommend having a serious conversation about finances before marriage. If you aren't on the same page about financial goals/spending habits things will go down hill. I also recommend waiting a couple years before having children.

Thank you, we had the finances talk but women and men think differently especially when they have their own $

ya i eloped also but she already had engagement ring
just randomly said fukk it and went downtown before we did that we got some wedding bands then went downtown

finance part i handle it primarily she dont mind but we share our accounts together its easier for us and we prefer it no issues at all

whenever its a big purchase we just discuss the best course of action and go from there we never argue bout money at all to be honest

 

[Makavalli]

Ol I'll sleep on the couch for you baby lookin boy..simp azz smh.

Boy of boy ill make ya mom wash my skid marks