Married/long-term relationship folks: How do you get over a boredom slump ?

[Sad Bunny]

Just wondering. ..my fiancee a d I were discussing this the other day. Our close friends, closest in this area, are doing bad. My gone left his girl home all weekend to go see his family and party with his homies. He basically told me he was getting bored but he still wants to be with his girl and even propose in March.

I didn't really have advice because me and my girl always try new restaurants and find ways to make our relationship exciting. Like...the thing is...my homie and his girlfriend aren't like us. They been living in the same area but only ever go to the same old spots and never try new shyt

How do you get through a boredom phase in the relationship?

 

[CHILLL]

Try new shyt together tbh.
But if they been together longer than u then thats probably why.
They some boring muhfukkers
When u with someone for a while it will get borin tho

 

[Meadow]

- trying new shyt like you mentioned: pick a weekly date night (i.e. friday) and each partner takes a turn per week to make plans. i.e. trying a new restaurant, followed by some other activity (movie, show, see friends, games, etc.)

- take a trip to a sex shop. even if y'all are prudes, just go and get some ideas or get in the mood.

- plan a trip

- display affection. sometimes folks get so comfortable and forget romanticism. maybe he should write her a letter about how he feels about her, their relationship and what he envisions for the future, and she should do something in return. Being with someone for a long period of time doesn't excuse not finding clever ways to express or emphasize your feelings for one another.

 

[Dwolf]

- trying new shyt like you mentioned: pick a weekly date night (i.e. friday) and each partner takes a turn per week to make plans. i.e. trying a new restaurant, followed by some other activity (movie, show, see friends, games, etc.)

- take a trip to a sex shop. even if y'all are prudes, just go and get some ideas or get in the mood.

- plan a trip

- display affection. sometimes folks get so comfortable and forget romanticism. maybe he should write her a letter about how he feels about her, their relationship and what he envisions for the future, and she should do something in return. Being with someone for a long period of time doesn't excuse not finding clever ways to express or emphasize your feelings for one another.

How old are you?

 

[Meadow]

How old are you?

Why?

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Go into it knowing marriage and monogamy are boring. (Note: It's called settling down for a reason).
Do it anyway because you love the girl (and eventually your children) enough to be bored for them.
Talk about this before you propose. Make it clear that marriage isn't all music and roses, and that you want to do it anyway (if you do).

Having a good marriage is all about preparation and communication.
No, I'm not married, but I have eyes, ears, and experience with women.

 

[Dwolf]

Why?

Just asking

 

[Sad Bunny]

Try new shyt together tbh.
But if they been together longer than u then thats probably why.
They some boring muhfukkers
When u with someone for a while it will get borin tho

There 4 years 6 weeks away.
He's gonna propose

 

[Sad Bunny]

- trying new shyt like you mentioned: pick a weekly date night (i.e. friday) and each partner takes a turn per week to make plans. i.e. trying a new restaurant, followed by some other activity (movie, show, see friends, games, etc.)

- take a trip to a sex shop. even if y'all are prudes, just go and get some ideas or get in the mood.

- plan a trip

- display affection. sometimes folks get so comfortable and forget romanticism. maybe he should write her a letter about how he feels about her, their relationship and what he envisions for the future, and she should do something in return. Being with someone for a long period of time doesn't excuse not finding clever ways to express or emphasize your feelings for one another.

Great ideas.
shyt...I could probably use some of these shyts, too lol

 

[Meadow]

Just asking

25

 

[GodsPerspective]

They been living in the same area but only ever go to the same old spots and never try new shyt

Really nothing else you can do my nikka. That's what separates those relationships that last and those that don't. If they wanted to make an effort they would be going hiking, bowling, traveling to cities on trips etc to see new things and spice their relationship up. If they're not willing to do that then that's their loss.

 

[ElectroMan]

Get you a low maintenance girl. Relationships will get boring after awhile. If you need excitement all the time the relationship won't last long.

 

[Sad Bunny]

Really nothing else you can do my nikka. That's what separates those relationships that last and those that don't. If they wanted to make an effort they would be going hiking, bowling, traveling to cities on trips etc to see new things and spice their relationship up. If they're not willing to do that then that's their loss.

Get you a low maintenance girl. Relationships will get boring after awhile. If you need excitement all the time the relationship won't last long.

Thanks. ..I am going to forward Him this thread. he knows that I post on here but I never showed him a serious topic but maybe this will help him

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

- trying new shyt like you mentioned: pick a weekly date night (i.e. friday) and each partner takes a turn per week to make plans. i.e. trying a new restaurant, followed by some other activity (movie, show, see friends, games, etc.)

- take a trip to a sex shop. even if y'all are prudes, just go and get some ideas or get in the mood.

- plan a trip

- display affection. sometimes folks get so comfortable and forget romanticism. maybe he should write her a letter about how he feels about her, their relationship and what he envisions for the future, and she should do something in return. Being with someone for a long period of time doesn't excuse not finding clever ways to express or emphasize your feelings for one another.

That's all nice
But when a guy is bored usually means he is not attracted or losing attraction to Her


No amount of trips is going to save that