Married Women Are ‘Self-Centered’ Says Single Millennial, Reason Goes Viral

[Umoja]

work accomplishments, academic/school accomplishments, new house/apartment, weight loss, hobbies with some form of public showcase, etc and it's about showing up, not necessarily celebrating milestones. some of these women get married and don't show up for friends while only connecting with them when it's time to celebrate something about them/their family. i don't expect you to understand as it's well document how different friendships are between women vs those between men, but a friendship should be two way, you can't continuously ask of others and never give

Get the fukk out of here.

 

[Umoja]

Imagine getting vex because my friend didn't show up to celebrate weight loss. Couldn't be me.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Will those friends be there to protect her in dangerous situations?
Will those friends protect her in dangerous situations?
Will those friends help in time of financial need?
Will those friends help around the house and rear the kids?



A good spouse will ALWAYS trump friends, don't care if that friendship was 20 years long.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Who is this

 

[O.T.I.S.]

And tbh, I feel like female friends purposely try to sabotage a lot of their friends relationships.

The advice they be giving each other be terrible.. especially if that friend is single OR might be in a relationship themselves, but don’t want to see that friend “elevate” above them or something… from experience

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Well isn't this right up my ally

I watched the whole video and I read the part of the article where she talked about married women not investing as much into their single friends.

I'll sum up both then give my opinion.

Video summary: Women who choose not to be in relationships rather than be in a "bad" relationship are more intelligent than women who would do the opposite.

My opinion: She's right to an extent.

Choosing to be happy with self is a better decision that being with just anybody.

I hate to break it to you but a lot of women have such little standards. MANY MANY women are not with the man they want to be with and it shows. They get with a man that's good enough but after the dust settles the true feelings comes out.

I can't imagine disrespecting and withholding sex from a man I truly want and desire. However you see this behavior in more women than not. That should tell you what it is.

I wouldn't use the word "intelligent" though. That's an ugly way to put it. I would say emotionally mature, self validating etc.

I personally want to be respected and seen in a relationship. If I can't get that then I will stay single.

Article summary: Married women want support, attention and energy from their single friends but don't reciprocate ie women abandon their friends once they get married.

I would actually say this is a woman problem; not a married woman problem.

If ya'll knew how many "friends" I have lost over some random shyt they made up in their heads concerning a man you'd be shocked.

Half of them then come crawling back after the dude played or dumbed their ass.

I goes back to the video and the desperation of many women and they're need to fill in the relationship slot.

I've NEVER tried a friends boyfriend/husband nor have they tried me. But I've had friends try almost everyone of mines.

Basically these hoes ain't loyal. Too jealous, too insecure and too desperate. They don't value their friends because they really don't think they can hold down their man.

Many only offer coochie and labor so they are probably right but instead of fixing it they lash out at the closest woman.



I had a friend stop talking to me because her boyfriend said I was "funny."

Another got mad at me because she thought I was flirting (I wasn't) with a guy who wouldn't claim her. We all worked together. Meanwhile he was smashing 3 other women at the job.

My best friend in high school tried to smash my ex and then tried to play dumb. But she's didn't know he would talk about her like a dog for the way she looked.

So, yes, disloyalty due to the desperation of seeking male validation and attention is an issue among women. I have felt it many many times.

In regards to married women, I think that's unfair. If their husband or partner is investing time, energy, money etc into them then their partner SHOULD BE the priority.

Attending a damn wedding or baby shower is not investment. She needs to GTFOOHWTBS.

That part is giving jellybean. Lol

To bring it home, yes, these women need to make better decisions in who and how they date and as a result of their desperate decisions, these hoes ain't loyal to their female friends. But married women are well within their right to fall back. That doesn't make them a bad friend.

You're speaking logically, you cant do that with women. This shyt is 90% emotions.

this is actually how a lot of women feel, and it's not about their married friends per se, it's about the traditional role of a woman. many women feel invisible in adulthood given the rally points for them are engagements/bachelorettes/weddings, pregnancy/baby shower(s). this is a common discussion among adult women, but she muddied it by going after married women instead of focusing on the issue which is more what we think women should be celebrated for.

Welcome to the average guy's world, only you have to add that we're expected to do back breaking work with zero thanks while still being villianized and punished more harshly. Imagine how 5'5 derrick who is a garbage man feels.

Suck it up buttercups

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

All of that is shyt you supposed to celebrate with your family. If it ain't the family you started then the family you came from.

this is definitely stuff friends celebrate together. if you're having a housewarming, you'd want your best friends to show up

 

[inndaskKy]

I'm any event, there is something ironic about calling someone self-centred for investing time in their family because they no longer have time to listen to your problems.

There really isn't. This false perception that one's "family" (spouse+kids) is inherently more important and therefore logically a first priority of attention is the whole point. In more traditional societies this line is much more blurred and there is a focus on the good of a wider community of people.

In our times many people engage in "married culture" as a way to craft an identity for themselves so that they can just follow a script and don't need to be authentic or take risks being an original person in public. Plus it gives more financial security so marrying is often a tradeoff of selling a piece of your soul for that extra comfort/security so that you don't need to work as hard. Married people often put up a façade and prioritize this mask. Perhaps that what the woman is experiencing. I didn't watch the video.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Didn't read but I was talking cars with a friend of mine yesterday and he was telling me about a car accident he was in. then he mentioned his fiance, then he mentioned further that he was under her car insurance. I told him "tell your fiance I said congrats on the engagement"

that's all I got.

 

[Gloxina]

I…………….need her to go to the dermatologist.