Men, I want your opinion (women too)

[Yinny]

...

 

[Counter Racist Male]

You're married or in a very long-term relationship and well-entrenched with your wife's family.

Your wife's close relative/sibling asks you for money.

(Coli disclaimer: this ain't some weird Soul Food plot, no one's hitting on you or testing you)

What are your actions/words after the ask, and your decision? Does it matter if it's a man or a woman?

Women, your fam member asks your man/husband for money under similar circumstances. What are your expectations/actions on the part of your man and your relative?

I'd have ask to what's the money for then I'm asking how much.

 

[Entropy Fan]

Tell them no. Go about the rest of my day

 

[AAKing23]

I would ask why they didn't come to their sister before telling me

 

[2 one 3]

No

 

[Yinny]

...

 

[Dwolf]

I ain't got it

 

[Counter Racist Male]

Under $500, because they currently don't have it for a timely move. This isn't the first time this specific relative has ever asked you. They expect to pay you back/undefined timeline.

How fast do they have to move?

 

[JoseLuisGotcha]

absolutely not

that shyt don't mix ...things will get very messy very quick..tell them to get a loan if anything tell them to ask your wife to sign as a co-signer it's her family

 

[Ya Sinning Mane]

If it ain’t for the children you ain’t getting my lil bit of money

 

[mortuus est]

it really depends on how much you know the person that's asking tbh

 

[Dwolf]

that shyt don't mix ...things will get very messy very quick..

Bars

 

[Counter Racist Male]

absolutely not

that shyt don't mix ...things will get very messy very quick..tell them to get a loan if anything tell them to ask your wife to sign as a co-signer it's her family

Have fun sleeping next to that wife of yours at night.

 

[Xtraz2]

Under $500, because they currently don't have it for a timely move. This isn't the first time this specific relative has ever asked you. They expect to pay you back/undefined timeline.

why you letting them ask your husband? you should be the mediator and let them know if ya'll (as a couple) have it or not

 

[CoryMack]

you really need advice for something like that?

unless you're one of those funny ass nikkas to whom nothing is so holy as a dollar, what's the big deal?

if you have it to lend and believe they'll pay you back, again, what's the big deal?