Men of the Coli, what REALLY makes difference when choosing to commit to a girl or not?

[UpAndComing]

Most good men who are emotionally stable love being alone within themselves. Not necessarily totally "alone", but they love only answering to themselves, in a zone on the goals they want to achieve, etc etc

If you want commitment, the goal should be "Can I be a good enough woman to make this good man want to share his life with me"

That's really it

Oh and if he senses you have traits of being a Dream Killer, he will exit the relationship. Guarantee that. At least it's that way for me

 

[Serious]

I’m glad you guys are honest about this because you have some men that will swear up and down that this is not true. I’ve literally seen post ragging on women who left relationships after x amount of years and I just think that men need to be more honest about their manipulative tactics when it comes to dating.
I truly believe that it doesn’t take that long to consciously decide if you see longevity in a partner; therefore if you know a woman is looking towards marriage and she doesn’t fit in your long term image, just let her go.
No need to string her along due to your selfishness.

Honestly, part of it comes with maturity. When you start dating, you don't really know what you want. And being comfortable is a thing.

You may love and care for someone, but still not truly want to be with them either. At my age, I know what I want and don't want, I know what cant and won't tolerate, along with what I can.

It's way easier for me to let someone go from the jump at 30, but I can recognize when someone is my type vs at 21. If I'm talking with someone longer than a few meets, I probably really like them and see them in a long term sense.

 

[Uitomy]

Well for me, it's a gut feeling
I could've probably been in a relationship with every girl I've been with whether I've smashed them or not
And out of like those 20 odd girls, there's only been like 5 I've seriously considered going out with
All the other girls, being around them I could just feel we couldn't work out (some were ratchet, too mean, couldn't take a joke, stay in the club, always in and out of resltionships) so on a subconscious level I never took them seriously and had fun

With my girlfriend , she has such a catering spirit that I can sense that I just felt like she was going to give me a relationship of peace and understanding

 

[RAX 010]

It comes down to timing

 

[Nemesis]

One important thing is timing , there was a time in my life where there wasnt a single woman alive that would make me commit , had nothing to do with them and everything to do with me

When a dude isnt ready for commitment , take him at his word , these women who push dudes into commitment would save themselves a lot of trouble if they really paid attention

secondly because she a "good" woman it doesnt necessarily mean shes good for you ..... Ive never fallen in love with someone because they are a great cook and have a good career .... dont get me wrong its a bonus but its not the be all and end all

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

The question should be why a lot of women are so easy to want to commit to every man they deal with




I've literally been proposed to by a chick I wasn't in a relationship with


Chicks I was just messing with on a roster and knew they was on the roster mentioned marriage and kids to me

That's the main thing I look at
I'm not wifing a desperate bih that been in a million relationships and had mad nikkas gassing her up thinking they was gone wife
fukk I look like being the 1 who finally wife the bih

 

[NYSTATEOFMIND]

take her looks out
good head out
sex game out

can I see myself actually being a friend with this chick? if the answer is yes, wife her

 

[SNG]

For me it’s an age thing and also a challenge to take on. Women can be a distraction especially for me so I just focus on one and focus on my goals. The key is to find a chick who motivates you and has just as much ambition as you.

 

[mamba]

The same thing happen to me....

Her limited sense of direction, always being slow to get ready, never on time, never taking accountability for the smallest mishaps, etc.

I just noticed small things over time, that just made me realize, fukk, I couldnt deal with this person for potentially the rest of my life.

I had a situation like this. Over time, I felt that I’d have to double check her work on most things.

She called it being a free spirit. I felt that she showed signs of shirking responsibility and not being on her shyt.

Couldn’t have that as a wife. If I’m holding my side down as a husband, I don’t want to have to be making sure the shyt you’re supposed to be getting done actually gets done as my wife.

 

[Mr. Glass]

Most women probably wouldnt be cool with not knowing that they're not the most attractive woman to their man, but the reality is....

Society already places too high of a superficial and unrealistic standards on women, beauty wise.


The reality is I care more about the character than the presentation, because I've messed with IG looking models in the past, who had no real upside to them aside from looks. Even the sex didn't live up to the expectations.

It really did nothing for me. I got way more out of a relationship with women that were moderately attractive and slender, with a variety of traits vs women that I sought who were solely attractive first and had that classic IG model look yet were too into themselves.

Exactly. I've fukked some bad bytches in my life. I live in LA and I've even matched on dating apps with some of the females nikkas on this board lust after, and that's on my Grandma's life. But seriously, once you hit a certain level in life, those females really mean nothing.

I'd probably say what I'm looking moreso would be a bestfriend that I have great sexually chemistry with. If she's my bestfriend, that'd mean we share similar world views on pretty much all the important shyt.

 

[Ya Sinning Mane]

Most good men who are emotionally stable love being alone within themselves.

this was funny as hell to me but this is very true from what I’ve noticed in my life experiences

 

[69 others]

Thanks for responding.

Again out of interest what were the main factors that led you there?

i.e was this career and lifestyle related- or did you once see her as marriage material and then change your mind etc.? I’m always fascinated about what makes a man change his mind about a once serious relationship.

What made you love her less?

There was a lot of reasons, but the main ones were:

• Extreme neediness. cute and an ego boost at first but after awhile it's a bit too much and made her look pathetic. i mean things like if i don't text within a few hours since last time it's an issue, don't say good morning (also without love, baby, boo, etc at the end) it's an issue, can't spend a weekend together another issue, etc and it just kept getting worst.
• Insecurity. asking me do you love me almost everyday, getting jealous if another woman looks in my general direction, constantly questioning my loyalty, etc

Overall i came to realize that a person that have those traits in a relationship is missing something in their life and you just happened to be the one that's filling that void. i started feeling sorry for her and starting seeing her as a broken person and all romantic thoughts or love just disappeared.

 

[Speaking Womanese]

Solid thread