I still haven't gotten over this tweet and the amount of women supporting the behavior of homewrecking, which has always happened, but now it's becoming accepted and at the same time, it isn't; apparently the word does not apply to the woman.
So now I'm wondering, does it, or doesn't it? And if this becomes normalized, are more women willing to become the other woman since they will not be at fault?
So going through the comments a lot of people shifted the blame onto the men, which is fair since a cheating man is a willing participant...but that doesn't eliminate the other party's involvement.
So I wondered...why are so many women ok with the idea of women taking someone's S/O?
The answer I briefly came up with is the idea of relationships dying.
Relationships used to matter when patriarchy and nuclear families were a necessity. The concepts are still valued in a lot of communities/societies, but the justification isn't as strong in this new age.
Children cost too much, women can have careers/make money, and there is that nasty history of men oppressing women for a very long time so why bother with them long term(?).
There are plenty of other factors but I think those three reasons are pretty key to understanding why women are becoming more like men in their disregard for a relationship.
A lot of men think it's in their right or their nature to cheat, so the notion amongst males is oftentimes glorified. (DISCLAIMER
A LOT, NOT ALL MEN OR EVEN THE MAJORITY)
Amongst a lot of women, however, there's shame and spite. Nevertheless, there is a shift in this line of thinking.
People who shame the woman for sleeping with a married man are the ones in the wrong now, because the finger should not be pointed at the woman.
The reason being, you cannot wreck a home that's already in ruin. If the husband / boyfriend was willing to cheat then the woman in the affair isn't to blame.
A very fair argument.
But cheating is still cheating, especially if you know the person is married, so you still played a part in the relationship's destruction. It's like the thought of the crime VS the act of the crime. You go to jail for one, not the other.
And I know my title is egregious, but I don't think it steers from the truth. If you live in the west, if you have social media, if you pay attention to what's promoted as the right thing and what isn't, then you'll see the writing on the wall.
So now I'm wondering, does it, or doesn't it? And if this becomes normalized, are more women willing to become the other woman since they will not be at fault?
So going through the comments a lot of people shifted the blame onto the men, which is fair since a cheating man is a willing participant...but that doesn't eliminate the other party's involvement.
So I wondered...why are so many women ok with the idea of women taking someone's S/O?
The answer I briefly came up with is the idea of relationships dying.
Relationships used to matter when patriarchy and nuclear families were a necessity. The concepts are still valued in a lot of communities/societies, but the justification isn't as strong in this new age.
Children cost too much, women can have careers/make money, and there is that nasty history of men oppressing women for a very long time so why bother with them long term(?).
There are plenty of other factors but I think those three reasons are pretty key to understanding why women are becoming more like men in their disregard for a relationship.
A lot of men think it's in their right or their nature to cheat, so the notion amongst males is oftentimes glorified. (DISCLAIMER
A LOT, NOT ALL MEN OR EVEN THE MAJORITY)Amongst a lot of women, however, there's shame and spite. Nevertheless, there is a shift in this line of thinking.
People who shame the woman for sleeping with a married man are the ones in the wrong now, because the finger should not be pointed at the woman.
The reason being, you cannot wreck a home that's already in ruin. If the husband / boyfriend was willing to cheat then the woman in the affair isn't to blame.
A very fair argument.
But cheating is still cheating, especially if you know the person is married, so you still played a part in the relationship's destruction. It's like the thought of the crime VS the act of the crime. You go to jail for one, not the other.
And I know my title is egregious, but I don't think it steers from the truth. If you live in the west, if you have social media, if you pay attention to what's promoted as the right thing and what isn't, then you'll see the writing on the wall.
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