My (ex) girl told me "men/ppl deserve ZERO credit for being faithful"....do you agree?

[jadillac]

So my last gf told me this some months ago, she says "being faithful is the bare minimum and you get no credit for it" in a relationship. She was very adamant about this.

I understand what she means, but, in 2022 faithful, honest, loyal ppl aren't growing on trees. And with another person literally being a text or dating app message away, you should appreciate those qualities in someone, male or female. Bc it's not the norm.

Meeting someone new and thinking you got a new sig other is cool... until you discover they been out here playin you. Then you realize faithful is a quality that def deserves a main seat at the table.

What do y'all think?

 

[5n0man]

If you're married then being faithful is the bare minimum. You shouldn't get credit for not stepping out and disrespecting your family.

 

[El Bombi]

Texas women and their princess mentality.

Thank GAWD I stop dealing with them a long time ago.

 

[Wildhundreds]

You don't need credit for character and how you were raised.

 

[UncleTomFord15]

Rip brother Kevin Samuel's

 

[The ADD]

Agree with her. Generally speaking you enter the relationship agreeing to be monogamous so you don’t really deserve credit for sticking to that.

 

[Coco Loco]

She's right. That's like parents who want trophies for feeding, clothing and sheltering their kids. If you can't do the bare minimum, be faithful in a monogamous relationship, then be single/poly. It's not rocket science.

 

[jadillac]

If you're married then being faithful is the bare minimum. You shouldn't get credit for not stepping out and disrespecting your family.

But I'm talking about committed dating.

Some ppl believe "if you're not married, you're still single"

If you believe in commitment and the other person holds the above mentality, prepare to be disappointed

Agree with her. Generally speaking you enter the relationship agreeing to be monogamous so you don’t really deserve credit for sticking to that.

Idk breh...

If you find someone who is honest and loyal....that takes a LOAD off you mentally. Especially if you are not a person who freely/easily gives away your trust.

If someone can tell you, "hey I'm going out for a few hrs with my friends for dinner & drinks", and you have NOTHING to worry about, to me that's a quality that should be appreciated. Especially bc y'all could be arguing or disagreeing in another area.

But just my opinion.

 

[MajesticLion]

Sheep need shepherds.

 

[Hey_zeus]

She's right. Control your impulses, stay single, or be open with what you on from the jump. It's like getting credit for being a good parent. That's what you're supposed to do.

 

[Luke Cage]

If monogamy was a natural part of human nature, i would agree that being faithful is the bare minimum.
but it isn't.

we are supposed to spread our seed, no other reason why our sperm is viable well into our elderly years while women can only get pregnant for so long

you absolutely deserve credit for being faithful. especially if you have options.

doesn't mean you aren't a piece of shyt for cheating, we aren't animals we should have control over our impulses, even a dog can be trained not to piss indoors but to say its the bare minimum and we deserve no credit? low key a very entitled/unappreciative stance to take.

 

[5n0man]

But I'm talking about committed dating.

Some ppl believe "if you're not married, you're still single"

If you believe in commitment and the other person holds the above mentality, prepare to be disappointed

Wtf is "committed dating"?

Either you're casually dating(where commitment doesn't mean much) or in a long term relationship, hopefully looking towards marriage(this is where commitment matters).


If you make a commitment to someone, you don't deserve credit for not breaking it.

 

[jadillac]

She's right. That's like parents who want trophies for feeding, clothing and sheltering heir kids. If you can't do the bare minimum, be faithful in a monogamous relationship, then be single/poly. It's not rocket science.

I'm just saying, not appreciating good character & qualities in someone simply bc YOU consider it to be mandatory, might be a faulty view.

And if you don't believe so, then go find those qualities in 10 outta 10 other ppl. Go find it in 5 outta 10 other ppl.

Regarding kids, plenty of abandoned/played single mothers would love to find a good dude who took care of his kids. Everyone doesn't view that as frivolous.

 

[The ADD]

But I'm talking about committed dating.

Some ppl believe "if you're not married, you're still single"

If you believe in commitment and the other person holds the above mentality, prepare to be disappointed


Idk breh...

If you find someone who is honest and loyal....that takes a LOAD off you mentally. Especially if you are not a person who freely/easily gives away your trust.

If someone can tell you, "hey I'm going out for a few hrs with my friends for dinner & drinks", and you have NOTHING to worry about, to me that's a quality that should be appreciated. Especially bc y'all could be arguing or disagreeing in another area.

But just my opinion.

Appreciated sure. Given credit like it’s a chip to be played, not so much.

My girl is that way and I value and appreciate it but she doesn’t get credit nor expect it.

 

[Elim Garak]

No I disagree. You obviously should be faithful but in a world where you are constantly encouraged to cheat and when for whatever reason women can smell when you are in a relationship and want you more it's nothing wrong with giving a little credit.