My friend's girlfriend and I had a weird conversation...

[((ReFleXioN)) EteRNaL]

of course you tell your homie. wtf. so his girl makes a comment that suggests she's not happy with her life....which means she's not happy with him. and you just gonna let it be. you said he's already stressin on her so they're both not happy....but yea, you just gonna chill right. lettin your boy suffer until this emo chic turns him into a miserable shell of his former self. first things first....hit your homie up. let him know what she said....advise him to get rid of her. let him know a better chic will come along that will appreciate him...a woman who respects him and will be grateful to be with him. be a real homie. man up. tell your boy. he kicks her to the curb. then you give her the consolation pipe.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

It sucks for a kid to not meet the level of achievement their parents did. shyt prob eats her up

 

[WeSeeIt]

of course you tell your homie. wtf. so his girl makes a comment that suggests she's not happy with her life....which means she's not happy with him. and you just gonna let it be. you said he's already stressin on her so they're both not happy....but yea, you just gonna chill right. lettin your boy suffer until this emo chic turns him into a miserable shell of his former self. first things first....hit your homie up. let him know what she said....advise him to get rid of her. let him know a better chic will come along that will appreciate him...a woman who respects him and will be grateful to be with him. be a real homie. man up. tell your boy. he kicks her to the curb. then you give her the consolation pipe.

You know, you make a lot of valid points. But one of my concerns, and probably my main one, is that not everyone handles criticism of their girls equally. In the past, I tried to tell a friend that her boyfriend was cheating on her, and she yelled at me and said, 'that's none of your business!'. And she stopped talking to our group for a while, continued to get cheated on, and she's really messed up now.

I would hate for him to take it the wrong way, and stop talking to me. Because he's a valued work associate and personal friend. But you're right, I probably should say something.

 

[aXiom]

Personally, I think he deserves better. He spends a lot of his time trying to make her happy, doing damage control, and worrying about his image so her social circle approves of him. I think those concerns usurp his creative drive and productivity. Even though I currently have a girl that I care for very much, she knows that my work is important...and if she gets in the way of that, she's out. However, that could lead to me being single a lot, but my career is really important to me right now. I can't blame someone for wanting to maintain a meaningful relationship.

Priorities, I guess.

Damn. Your boy should probably just call it quits now. A relationship should be about 2 good halves making for a better whole. If your boy gotta switch it up just to appease her friends then he's under valuing his stock. Your girl should love you for who you are, not who her friends would like you to be. Can't be with a bytch that's embarrassed to be around you in a social setting, but cool when y'all alone. Thats like dating a fat bytch, and confining her to the garage when your boys come over. I'd rather be single than be in a relationship like that.. But that's just me.

 

[((ReFleXioN)) EteRNaL]

You know, you make a lot of valid points. But one of my concerns, and probably my main one, is that not everyone handles criticism of their girls equally. In the past, I tried to tell a friend that her boyfriend was cheating on her, and she yelled at me and said, 'that's none of your business!'. And she stopped talking to our group for a while, continued to get cheated on, and she's really messed up now.

I would hate for him to take it the wrong way, and stop talking to me. Because he's a valued work associate and personal friend. But you're right, I probably should say something.

yea and I bet her dumb ass wishes she woulda listened to you in the first place instead of going through hell and being completely ruined. this is your boy. if he's a real man then he will appreciate the input and move on from that b*tch. if not, then he deserves everything that happens to him. him being miserable is inevitable.

 

[WeSeeIt]

yea and I bet her dumb ass wishes she woulda listened to you in the first place instead of going through hell and being completely ruined. this is your boy. if he's a real man then he will appreciate the input and move on from that b*tch. if not, then he deserves everything that happens to him. him being miserable is inevitable.

Damn. Can't argue with that. You're right.

We all went to a Japanese steakhouse once, and she started acting really uppity. My girl and I don't come from money, but we're doing pretty good right now. And after we left and got back in our car to go our separate ways, my girl blurts out, 'Damn! She's elitist, uppity, ignorant, and self absorbed!' And I sigh in relief and say, 'I thought I was the only one who thought that!'

And then my girl says, 'Someone should say something to him, but I doubt he'd take it very well.' So even my girl is like, 'I don't know what to tell you to do. Good thing I don't have to see her often.'

 

[DIMES]

What she knows is that she could receive much more beniefiets in life for just being pretty. Her mothers rich lifestyle was based purely on how pretty she was.

She feels like she could be doing much better in life... If only she was prettier. It's sad tbh she shouldn't compare herself to her mother. She needs to be comfortable with herself

 

[WhodatWhoadi]

I dont say anything anymore when girls do it around me. I just let them keep talking and look at them like

If I ain't getting the puzzy, I don't owe you anything

good shyt breh.

 

[StickStickly]

She may be unhappy with her friend, but that comment probably came from a lifetime of being compared to her mother. Guys tend to think women want to cheat when in reality she probably just wants to feel better about herself. Women who make their living off of looks do a good job of turning their daughters into "things". They criticize them on how they can be prettier and it can fukk up their head. Maybe this girl feels she would be treated better in life by everyone, including her boyfriend if she looked a certain way. I think we all feel that way at some point in our lives but a woman with a mother like that had that probably beaten into her psyche everyday.

 

[The5thLetter]

Damn. Can't argue with that. You're right.

We all went to a Japanese steakhouse once, and she started acting really uppity. My girl and I don't come from money, but we're doing pretty good right now. And after we left and got back in our car to go our separate ways, my girl blurts out, 'Damn! She's elitist, uppity, ignorant, and self absorbed!' And I sigh in relief and say, 'I thought I was the only one who thought that!'

And then my girl says, 'Someone should say something to him, but I doubt he'd take it very well.' So even my girl is like, 'I don't know what to tell you to do. Good thing I don't have to see her often.'

I think maybe it's not your place to tell him who to date or what to do w/ her in this situation. What you can do is mention the car convo in a mater-of-fact sort of way, and let him draw his own conclusions. As you've said, when you tried to tell your friend about her rship she didn't respond the way you thought she would, and that's typically how people respond, even when stating something obvious about their rship. He's gonna do what he wants when he feels it's right, but you def should mention the comment w/o leading with your own opinion (like "when ___ dropped me off the other day, we were talking about ____ and she said ____, I find that interesting - or something like that)