Normalize Kids Living With Their Father
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Normalize kids living in two parent households
Elim Garak
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As a woman, kids living with a single father isn’t a bed of roses but definitely has its benefits.
I grew up with my dad only and there were glaring differences in presentation when you leave the house. He wasn’t capable of presenting a little girl the way she should be presented and that greatly affects your self esteem. There was definitely room for a mother in my life and it wasn’t till I was older that I had to seek out women to teach me things that were considered feminine. I have a shyt tonne of trauma y’all, I can laugh about it now but at the time I was devastated.
I never had friends over, it may have been because moms didn’t want their kids coming over to a house where there wasn’t a woman as the primary care giver.
Our sound system was banging but we ate breakfast, lunch and dinner around the coffee table.
Don’t get me started on the hoes who pretended to be nice to me so they could get to my dad.
He was really big on quality over quantity, I never had a barbie but he was adamant that I was having a black dolly. I wasn’t allowed to have cute patent shoes, I had sturdy hush puppies to shape my feet. I wasn’t allowed nail polish till I was a teenager, had zero swag and was definitely a Tom Boy.
I had a good balance between outdoor independence and indoor book smarts as he didn’t put the maternal fear in me of safety as I wasn’t coddled. I had the best bicycle on the block y’all, and was the first kid I knew with a 24 speed bike and a PC at home. I had extensive knowledge of internal electrical circuitry, log books and algorithms, but I also knew how to ingraph plants onto other plants and the difference between a bunch of animals at various stages. Went to the best beaches on the island, as he knew the best beauty spots (men usually do).
I was way more articulate than many children my age, I was always around my dads friends so had multiple protectors, as a kid I could take apart a bunch of electrical equipment, but could also talk to you at length about current affairs. My fears were war in the Middle East and shyt like the unibomber; I watched way too much news with him.
I could go on and on. But men don’t get much of a chance to flex their parenting skills because women are dominant caregivers and it’s their way or no way a lot of the time.
I grew up with my dad only and there were glaring differences in presentation when you leave the house. He wasn’t capable of presenting a little girl the way she should be presented and that greatly affects your self esteem. There was definitely room for a mother in my life and it wasn’t till I was older that I had to seek out women to teach me things that were considered feminine. I have a shyt tonne of trauma y’all, I can laugh about it now but at the time I was devastated.
I never had friends over, it may have been because moms didn’t want their kids coming over to a house where there wasn’t a woman as the primary care giver.
Our sound system was banging but we ate breakfast, lunch and dinner around the coffee table.
Don’t get me started on the hoes who pretended to be nice to me so they could get to my dad.
He was really big on quality over quantity, I never had a barbie but he was adamant that I was having a black dolly. I wasn’t allowed to have cute patent shoes, I had sturdy hush puppies to shape my feet. I wasn’t allowed nail polish till I was a teenager, had zero swag and was definitely a Tom Boy.
I had a good balance between outdoor independence and indoor book smarts as he didn’t put the maternal fear in me of safety as I wasn’t coddled. I had the best bicycle on the block y’all, and was the first kid I knew with a 24 speed bike and a PC at home. I had extensive knowledge of internal electrical circuitry, log books and algorithms, but I also knew how to ingraph plants onto other plants and the difference between a bunch of animals at various stages. Went to the best beaches on the island, as he knew the best beauty spots (men usually do).
I was way more articulate than many children my age, I was always around my dads friends so had multiple protectors, as a kid I could take apart a bunch of electrical equipment, but could also talk to you at length about current affairs. My fears were war in the Middle East and shyt like the unibomber; I watched way too much news with him.
I could go on and on. But men don’t get much of a chance to flex their parenting skills because women are dominant caregivers and it’s their way or no way a lot of the time.
nikkas don’t like being primary caregivers
obviously that’s ideal, but with 50%+ divorce rates what the fukk do you think is gonna happen
it is normal