Ezekiel 25:17
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Everybody say the dating scene is cooked these days. What was it like before the dating apps, facebook, IG?
Older coli brehs, how was dating in the 80s/90s? Was it easier than today? Would you go back?
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In a nutshell :
Digital Omen
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The game is the game. You had to go outside and step to women in person.
no apps, no swiping, no algorithm, no DMs.
You led with what was tried and true and got you results: looks, charisma, bread, status, jokes...whatever attracted birds.
In my case I was one of them scenesters at every party/show/rave/event.
Broads would see me skip the line at the club, walk right up to the door, dap up the bouncer and walk in without paying.
"oh shyt who is he?" It was a cakewalk after that.
Seen plenty of big fat dudes bag dimes, cuz they had jokes. Weekend warriors with bread buying out the bar getting mad play (duh). Short midget dudes getting it in thanks to charisma. Nerd pimple face DJs with mad hoes.
All that shyt's digital now I suppose.
no apps, no swiping, no algorithm, no DMs.
You led with what was tried and true and got you results: looks, charisma, bread, status, jokes...whatever attracted birds.
In my case I was one of them scenesters at every party/show/rave/event.
Broads would see me skip the line at the club, walk right up to the door, dap up the bouncer and walk in without paying.
"oh shyt who is he?" It was a cakewalk after that.
Seen plenty of big fat dudes bag dimes, cuz they had jokes. Weekend warriors with bread buying out the bar getting mad play (duh). Short midget dudes getting it in thanks to charisma. Nerd pimple face DJs with mad hoes.
All that shyt's digital now I suppose.
Had to wait until after 9 to talk for free, texts were like 5/10 cents per message. Like girl I like you, but I’m not going broke over you. It really made you think before you call, which passively could temper simp behaviors.
It was easy to meet people through family and neighborhood associations. We had teen dances at community centers too that were hotbeds.
In smaller cities, you could tell where a person was from by the first 3 digits of their phone number. A lot of the baddies with lax and/or single parents were talking to older guys, so that limited the playing field, but that worked out because those girls went on to have kids early, etc.
It was A LOT of creeping going on. No GPS, no phones, hit the snooty fox hotel rent it for a few hours, go back home and your wife never knew you were screwing her cousin. People were carrying condoms around like we carry AirPods around today. Keeping one in your wallet was a rite of passage, because you never knew when it was time for some action.
There was a different understanding of no meaning no. In those days, no might mean she’s playing hard to get. I don’t agree with it today, but back then, sometimes people taught that you have to put in the work to deserve the girl, no today could be yes tomorrow if I do better, which undoubtedly lead to stalking and shyt. You would never see a show like family matters revolve around an unrequited love relationship like Steve and Laura, or screech and Lisa.
Final note, it was easy to tell her homegirls to tell her that you like her. They would then have a council and decide if yall would talk or not. Love letters and sentimental stuff like that went a long way for the free.99. We weren’t expected to trick off like these days
It was easy to meet people through family and neighborhood associations. We had teen dances at community centers too that were hotbeds.
In smaller cities, you could tell where a person was from by the first 3 digits of their phone number. A lot of the baddies with lax and/or single parents were talking to older guys, so that limited the playing field, but that worked out because those girls went on to have kids early, etc.
It was A LOT of creeping going on. No GPS, no phones, hit the snooty fox hotel rent it for a few hours, go back home and your wife never knew you were screwing her cousin. People were carrying condoms around like we carry AirPods around today. Keeping one in your wallet was a rite of passage, because you never knew when it was time for some action.
There was a different understanding of no meaning no. In those days, no might mean she’s playing hard to get. I don’t agree with it today, but back then, sometimes people taught that you have to put in the work to deserve the girl, no today could be yes tomorrow if I do better, which undoubtedly lead to stalking and shyt. You would never see a show like family matters revolve around an unrequited love relationship like Steve and Laura, or screech and Lisa.
Final note, it was easy to tell her homegirls to tell her that you like her. They would then have a council and decide if yall would talk or not. Love letters and sentimental stuff like that went a long way for the free.99. We weren’t expected to trick off like these days