Older introverts of the Coli have you become more extraverted as you've gotten older

[BelieveBeOK]

I guess everyone here is older at this point but I'm in my early 30's and work in Investment Banking so sales/networking is a big part of my job. 10 years ago, I couldn't imagine myself being where I am today. The idea of making a phone call even for work used to terrify me so I would hide behind emails. Now when I need something I just call the person without thinking.

Cold calls and networking events are also so easy now, I don't even remember what I was so apprehensive about.

Don't get me wrong, I still guard my isolation and energy when I need to, but I find that's happening way less often. What's your experience?

 

[AnonymityX1000]

I guess everyone here is older at this point but I'm in my early 30's and work in Investment Banking so sales/networking is a big part of my job. 10 years ago, I couldn't imagine myself being where I am today. The idea of making a phone call even for work used to terrify me so I would hide behind emails. Now when I need something I just call the person without thinking.

Cold calls and networking events are also so easy now, I don't even remember what I was so apprehensive about.


Don't get me wrong, I still guard y isolation and energy when I need to but I find that's happening way less often. What's your experience?

I started my professional career being in a backroom non customer facing role and never had to get out of my comfort zone of introversion for awhile.
But I eventually had to switch careers and be in a role that required talking to a lot of people, public speaking and networking. It also forced me to write more thoughtful softer language in emails. And yeah it broke me out of my introspective shell. I can now be an extrovert when it is necessary, but my natural state is introversion.
Whatever you are introvert/extrovert I highly recommend practicing being the opposite. It will help you in life situations because sometimes to accomplish your goals you need to be the opposite of what comes naturally.

 

[LuuqMaan]

Better late than never

But Im surprised, you man didn’t have large friend group at school?

 

[Treblemaka]

The difference between introverts and extroverts isnt the capability to be social or affable its how it affects you. Introverts are drained from heavy social interactions extroverts are energized by them.

Im an introvert, increasingly so as ive gotten older. Im better at reading a room, people, and socializing than I ever have been mostly because of experience. So I can appear more extroverted but its mostly because I know how to manage being introverted better.

 

[Rice N Beans]

Not really. I just stopped caring about exhibiting the signs and I'm upfront about it if it comes up.

 

[International Playa]

The older you get, the less you care what people think of you.

 

[ItsPeople]

It’s funny how no one pretends to be introverted.

But introverts have to pretend to be the opposite.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

No. Will always be an introvert needing solo time.

 

[RhodyRum]

I guess everyone here is older at this point but I'm in my early 30's and work in Investment Banking so sales/networking is a big part of my job. 10 years ago, I couldn't imagine myself being where I am today. The idea of making a phone call even for work used to terrify me so I would hide behind emails. Now when I need something I just call the person without thinking.

Cold calls and networking events are also so easy now, I don't even remember what I was so apprehensive about.

Don't get me wrong, I still guard my isolation and energy when I need to, but I find that's happening way less often. What's your experience?

I got no problem being a social people person for my job or to snag some strange, but just for normal every day life?

Nah, fukk people. And this is coming from someone with a small but healthy friend group and no social awkwardness or weird antisocial tendencies. I just really appreciate my alone time.

 

[get these nets]

I guess everyone here is older at this point but I'm in my early 30's and work in Investment Banking so sales/networking is a big part of my job. 10 years ago, I couldn't imagine myself being where I am today. The idea of making a phone call even for work used to terrify me so I would hide behind emails. Now when I need something I just call the person without thinking.

Cold calls and networking events are also so easy now, I don't even remember what I was so apprehensive about.

Don't get me wrong, I still guard my isolation and energy when I need to, but I find that's happening way less often. What's your experience?

I associate those terms with personal time and social settings, not professional life.

I think you've gained so much experience in those years that you've encountered and dealt with, addressed, and solved a bunch of challenges.
Less reason for anxiety now, because you are confident in your ability to solve potential problems and answer questions when you are speaking to colleague or client.

 

[UpNext]

No never. I learned at a young age how to control the energy I receive and focus it into alertness and being present instead of anxiousness. And I just through time gained more mental stamina to maintain an alert and present and engaged state for longer time periods. So if you met me you wouldn't even know I was an introvert and would think I'm quite talkative.

My wife definitely knows I'm an introvert, because when we get home the car ride will be dead silent and I'm hiding in my mancave for a few hours to recharge and if you say something to me you're only getting one word answers in the meantime lol.

 

[Vandelay]

Yes. You stop giving so much of a fukk what everyone else thinks.

But then again, I don't know if I was actually introverted. I just don't like talking about casual shyt.