A lot of love/relationships are predicated on conditions..
I think reciprocity is one of them..
You have to look at it in that way..
Some people feel like..
If I’m always sticking my neck out for you..
I’m the first one to call/text..
I’m always making sure you are alright..
Always asking you first to functions or to chill..
A person always tells me their trials/tribulations..
But when it comes to them with my problems..
The same energy is not met..
People get tired of feeling like a sucka..
So they love from afar and keep pushing for those that show the same give/get back..
That’s how I am..
I sat down had this very convo with my brother last month..
Never calls his niece..
Doesn’t talk to Ma Dukes on the regular...
Just a real life bum nikka..
I’ve tried so many times to fix our relationship..
And at this point..
He could die tomorrow and I wouldn’t even slip in stride..
But to speak with a forked tongue..
I’ll admit the shyt hurts and it’s like that Fresh Prince Episode..
Where Will breaks down..
It’s a defense mechanism to not feel the pain..
A good friend did me the same way..
Haven’t talked to him in years..
Told his sister I would fukk him up..
The next time I see him..
But I really just want to know..
Why you would do your day one dirty..
To end this tangent..
Some people just get tired of being hurt and left to pick up the pieces..
I’m not saying it’s right..
And a funeral should be the time both parties show contrition/bury the hatchet..
But it takes two..
He has to understand his possible “fukk nikka” tendencies that caused the chasm..
The other end has to find peace/forgiveness..
To heal the whole situation..
Go support him but he has to understand the other side..
Or..
At least take some accountability to why people feel this way..
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