Protect Our Black Boys

[Neuromancer]

I think there is a sense that if males want to rule the world and claim superiority and leadership, there is the expectation that they will be held accountable or take the lion's share of responsibility for issues that occur. This leads to an atrophy of empathy between the sexes, so that male vulnerability isn't taken seriously.

To a large extent it hurts to say this but males created and contribute to this system by setting up arbitary associations with masculinity that limit men from the reality of their humanity. Young boys who are sexually molested by women are taught that they were lucky to have a hot teacher. The idea being that fulfillment of sexuality in a man is more important than safeguarding his childhood.

The identification of women as the weaker sex or inferior has also come back to bite men b/c once again it lets females off the hook for crimes they commit. Meanwhile female aggression is real but men have never acknowledged it b/c they arbitrarily associate aggression with masculinity and this ignores reality. These social/cultural associations limit people's ability to see the truth of a situation. There is nothing inherently male about aggression or sexual appetite. There is nothing inherently female about emotional control or being nurturing. Of course biological realties exist but ones history of social reinforcement plays a bigger role in how these things play out.

This is why I espouse more egalitarian, harmonious relationships based off mutual respect and practical strengths. Because ultimately men and women are different but their shared human experience makes them more alike than either group is willing to concede. I also think the gender code where the two sexes capes for their own no matter what is ridiculous and dangerous as it opens the door to justifying really evil shyt just b/c the person doing it gotta dikk or p*ssy just like you.

Agreed. This is men's fault. very powerful men but men none the less. I wonder how we can change this outside of our own personal relationships.

 

[African Peasant]

As long as black people will refuse to bring back moral values a one of the corner stone fo the community, a clear discrimination between good and bad, in other words, a CULTURE, things like this will continue.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

1. In spite of the unfair treatment of Black men as a whole, I look around and see FAR MORE Black men in positions of power and authority than Black women. Ive worked a lot of places and lived all across the world and the one of the constants I see is that Black men are doing better. In my 30 years of life, Ive seen more Black male military officers, senior enlisted, successful politicians, business owners, operations managers, industrial engineers, executives, professors, head pastors, Co-chairs of non-profits, etc. etc.

So that tells me that Black Men may still be oppressed but we are still to move a little bit easier than Black women due to patriarchy.

2. Have you been posting on here as of late? if so don't piss on me and tell me its raining. The Coli can be anti-black woman already, but the past week and a half has been real extra and I think we all know why.

3. If we're talking about THE article (which is what I was referring to in the post you quoted), thats exactly the problem if you interpreted it as an attack.

Anecdotal.

 

[el_oh_el]

And boom. That was my next comment.

I want people to do some REAL critical thinking about this.
I post stats b/c u have to make a real connection here.

70% of black children are born out of wedlock. But that doesn't mean 70% of black women are having them.
In fact only about 25% of black women are bussin it open and poppin them out. In the U.S. there's literally only 3 million blk single moms.

Then u break down that percentage of single blk mothers. Roughly only 1/2 of them are living in dire poverty, and over 1/2 of them are popping out an average of 3-4 children. BY DIFFERENT BLACK MEN.

Bear with me here. This literally becomes a trap that we are creating ourselves. I've ALWAYS told men on here that some women aren't capable of or deserving of motherhood.

My question is: why are the scallywags the baby boomers for the bulk of our community?

Because until we get a REAL answer about that, this is going to keep happening. The BULK of our children will continue to be left to a small minority of extremely toxic women and raised in those environments. Also is this the platform to discuss the abuse biracial blk children are reaching from toxic white mothers as well? At my old school we had to take away blk biracial children who were being used as prostitutes by their white moms. Or who would get spit on or pissed on or defecated on by white stepparents which is something else we sweep under the rug---biracial child abuse.

Again, my question is---why are black children and blk biracial children being born predominately to toxic mothers?
And what are the implications for the majority of our children born and funneled thru these environments?

I'm talking about toxic ass mothers with not one child---but SEVERAL children...not by the same man---but by DIFFERENT MEN.

This isn't an exercise in blaming black women b/c most blk women aren't single mothers. Blaming blk men won't cut it either b/c most black men aren't single fathers. Shaming won't work b/c shaming doesn't REACH the depraved populations.

Cutting off benefits doesn't work b/c u hurt people who are legitimately struggling and need assistance.

As a people, we have to be willing to cut these "mothers" off at the root. Report them. Confront them. Treat them with as much hostility as we do white racists. Call them out. But we also need to call out the counter culture that seeks to glorify blk men preying on easy Hood p*ssy, that glorifies nuttin up in trash women and leaving on some "she gotta deal with it" mentality just b/c of a fat ass or a willingness to swallow nut.

At this point it's more than just choose better. This is a sickness. The idea that there is a high likelihood of this bytch finding ANOTHER nikka to nut up in her despite already being a predator is terrifying.

Realist shyt I'll probably read all day

 

[(Lean Ambrose)]

Yet another misogynistic thread

Leading off with "courts give women custody, which puts them in toxic environments" that's just bullshyt man. You can be a toxic parent man or woman.

then you further ask "Why do black men constantly get demonized, yet we don't discuss why they become such-and-such". Which is two times stupid. Because you're basically admitting black men are womanizing thugs (which they aren't, that's just some fear propaganda) and then blaming it on black women. Closing with the question that if you read between the lines is "Why don't we ever talk about how shytty black women are at parenting?"

When really, that's all I ever see thecoli do. Day after fukking day it's another pick up artist thread getting featured, shytting on women, because all of y'all are some anonymous, online losers.

Then you talk about "Why are white people always so focused on black people?" The same reason you stupid motherfukkers are always so focused on black women and white feminists. You're going through some existential identity crisis. Your identities are so shallow, that the only confidence you feel is from your position of power as men over women, and thus you spend all your fukking time bytching and complaining left and right, picking apart everything from single mothers in one thread, to poor instathots who put their tvs on chairs in another. You're so stupid and petty. Honestly look at yourselves in the mirrors.

You wanna know how I know how fake most of you hoes on here are?...
Because you let this cac fakkit come into every thread and put his two cents in yet get mad at Biscuits for doing the same...
Dude does the same shyt mason83 would do...
dikk ride sistas and get repped and dapped for it...
I bet you this cac fakkit goes on a racist rant soon, but I digress...
@King Musa naw B I aint ready to talk about it...

 

[Jesus Bhrist]

And I don't even wanna start a flame war, but a lot of American black men have Stockholm Syndrome with their moms.

The two boys I mention that their mother wants to fukk them got all types of fukked up stories about being left with abusive boyfriends, starving while sleeping on pallets, CPS trying to take them away. But never in their heads does it register that their mom caused all that strife in their lives. They see their mom as a infallible angel and the boyfriends and CPS as the villains in the stories.

Oh yea the youngest brother 18yrs sitting in jail on million dollar bond, the mom definitely wants to fukk him too.

My big bro/mentor, nikka literally change my life and I love him forever, spent damn near all of ages 11-22 in the Texas juvenile/penitentiary system. Him and his brother hit a lick on a racetrack for a bunch of liquor when they were 11 and 13. They didn't know what to do with it so they gave it to their mom, their mom didn't care that they stole it, she drunk it, gave out bottles to her friends and family as gifts, basically that liquor was gone quick.

One day she calls the police on them and tells them everything, not because she finally realized what they did was wrong. She sent her sons to a life of prison because they kept calling her a bytch.

The older brother would get out, become a paraplegic in a motorcycle crash hitting a lick, and eventually die at the age of 35.

The younger brother would make something of himself and become my mentor on a lot of shyt, but he still loves and takes care of his mom after the hell she put him through. Then again he's an optimistic dude that says he thankful for his time in the system because it gave him his hustle.

Dude told me "be careful dealing with women when you're a criminal, because a lot of women will get angry and snitch on you fast as hell. Then they'll calm down and tell you 'sorry' "

"Sorry? bytch I got 100 years"

@ 100 years is true bro I know mad nikkaz in the street that caught bullshyt Domestic violence cases because they was hustling & they shorty know they can call the cops because you basically a criminal with no say so lol they not going to believe you over her.....and I also know alot of the homies that trust they significant others while they incarcerated & the bytch fukking & sucking everything moving just 2 get back at you while you down you right be you gotta be careful

 

[Karb]

Nah. And we also need to have a discussion of blk kids getting abused by white adoptive parents too.
I got out of public education b/c it led to me becoming extremely depressed over shyt like this. I used to go home every night, eat-drink alcohol-and cry myself to sleep. I've had posters come at me for my hate of pimp and hoe culture. They even intimated that I must have been a hoe myself since I was going so hard at them.
Luckily I was blessed growing up and never molested or abused but what they don't realize is how young our children are victimized by this shyt. In a lot of the cases we saw, the mothers WERE the pimps. Or sold their kids and it's even worse with adopted blk children. My homegirl literally fosters a young 13 year old black girl who was adopted by a wealthy white family. She tried to burn their house down but was found to have severe trauma between her legs. She said her parents would give her to people.
Or you had blk male pimps who would recruit young middle school girls with shyt as simple as food or school materials.

We like to charge a lotta shyt to the game to separate ourselves from the reality but our children deserve better.
Some of the shyt I've seen makes me want to never have kids. Students infested with bedbugs, students with stds. Even little elementary school students used as human toilets. Hell to me it's not even a race thing b/c some of the worse cases of abuse I saw were white families. Children need protection and predators come in all shapes and sizes and genders.

I wish I didn't read your posts in this thread. Depressing.

I'd be having PTSD by now if I had witnessed half of that shyt

I can't imagine how it is to deal with these poor kids.

shyt like this is why the coli needs to take a stand on these scumbag brehs who think it's a sport to have sex with dysfunctional ratchets. If they get them pregnant (which I'm sure many of them do), there's a high likelihood that these kids will be growing up in these extremely dysfunctional environments and go through a lifetime of pain and suffering all because some fool wanted easy sex. They should be seen as enemies of the black community.

 

[Poitier]

1. Pointing out that Patriarchy exists and where our abilities lie in it is not advocating it.

You literally said and I paraphrase, "men should be the leaders, women shouldn't shoulder any blame," and now you are backtracking on your patriarchy stance now that you've been caught in your BS

Yes, Black women in the black community are often time the head of family due to the absence of men (for various reason). But they are simply DE FACTO leaders. Leaders who are merely acting in absence because someone has to. In a matriarchy, women would be given this power/authority by men who hold a present and contributing role in that society.

I didn't say anything about a matriarchy. You skipped my question. Is the Black community patriarchal? Think carefully because you just stated many of the men are absent

Their is no cure-all solution. But IMO the closest way we can get there (outside of toppling white supremacy/ global capitalism) is by participating as best we can in the job market, in particular STEM fields.

This is literally the quintessential integration and "seat at the table" type ideology the breh @LordCashmere makes fun of

"Black mothers are awarded custody and put boys in toxic environments...." is kind of a indicator that you're creating a "ITS fukkING BLACK WOMENS FAULT" narrative.

Nope, its a statistical fact that shows women have a special burden and care when it comes to raising children, boy or girl

then claiming someone is trying to stop Black progress when they tell you that youre fukking up.

Quote me anywhere ITT when I said Black women have stopped Black progress

Ironically, your post ITT are doing exactly that, blaming Black men for coming up short to deflect from the fact that Black women have accountability too

 

[Poitier]

1. In spite of the unfair treatment of Black men as a whole, I look around and see FAR MORE Black men in positions of power and authority than Black women.

As the breh @The Odum of Ala Igbo has said, this is entirely anecdotal.

The facts are that there is essentially NO wage gap between Black men and women plus Black women have a lower unemployment rate and are outpacing Black men in education.

Literally has nothing to do with this thread other than to deflect but I thought I'd correct this.

To a large extent it hurts to say this but males created and contribute to this system by setting up arbitary associations with masculinity that limit men from the reality of their humanity.

Black men created this system, White men, or did all men? I'm not really sure whats being implied here so help distinguish what you mean by "males."

 

[goatnole]

What does the father have to do with this specific situation though? SHE posted that picture with that caption.

If he is alive, and able to care for his child. He has everything to do with this situation, he is just as much to blame. He chose to procreate with her and bring a child in this world, that's his #1 priority is to care for that child. Why is he exempt from this situation? Because he didn't post the pic? Is he dead?

 

[Big Boss]

 

[ePiffany]

If he is alive, and able to care for his child. He has everything to do with this situation, he is just as much to blame. He chose to procreate with her and bring a child in this world, that's his #1 priority is to care for that child. Why is he exempt from this situation? Because he didn't post the pic? Is he dead?

nikka what the fukk don't u get he aint the one that "complimented" the size of his sons dikk SHE did

 

[ignorethis]

@ 100 years is true bro I know mad nikkaz in the street that caught bullshyt Domestic violence cases because they was hustling & they shorty know they can call the cops because you basically a criminal with no say so lol they not going to believe you over her.....and I also know alot of the homies that trust they significant others while they incarcerated & the bytch fukking & sucking everything moving just 2 get back at you while you down you right be you gotta be careful

Same big bro told me a story about flushing a whole brick down the toilet with tears in his eyes, because he worked months to get up to the brick from nothing. He had to because he had got into it with her about hoes or something and she called the police on some "THIS MAN IS SELLING DRUGS OUT MY APARTMENT, COCAINE, ECSTASY, EVERYTHING !!! COME HERE NOW!!!"

And after all the bullshyt he went through with that women.... he put a baby in her , I love him though.

 

[Entropy Fan]

You're a chaos promoting cac.

fixed

 

[Entropy Fan]

Same big bro told me a story about flushing a whole brick down the toilet with tears in his eyes, because he worked months to get up to the brick from nothing. He had to because he had got into it with her about hoes or something and she called the police on some "THIS MAN IS SELLING DRUGS OUT MY APARTMENT, COCAINE, ECSTASY, EVERYTHING !!! COME HERE NOW!!!"

And after all the bullshyt he went through with that women.... he put a baby in her , I love him though.

Your breh sounds like a massive idiot.