Question for #GMB, and Single folks

[El_Mero_Mero]

To make a long story short, my girl and I broke up after a 10-year relationship (we were long-distance though, so realistically we only had about 4-6 years of literal time spent together). She was my wife though for 2 years according to the New York County Courts.

We've been broken up for 3 weeks now.

On the one hand, I'm ecstatic because now I'm free to fukk as many different girls as possible (haven't really acted on this yet). This may be the greatest thing as a man.

On the other hand, I was obsessed with my girl. Everything I see in my neighborhood reminds me of a moment spent with her. That shyt hurts. She wasn't even that bad, compared to alot of the women I see that you guys gotta deal with.

I left her because she kept disrespecting me. Worst of all, it was something that I saw getting worse as time went on. She didn't start out like that, but I allowed it to get to that level.

I blame myself because I mismanaged the relationship, plain and simple.

I'm mostly venting, but I guess my question is: What is a good middle ground to be in as a man? Marriage is antiquated. But being at different clubs or bars every weekend looking for a new girl seems tiring. Is having a strong reliable harem (month's long) the true way to go? Or does someone really need to choose one or the other?

 

[4-Rin]

You've been out the game a long time breh. You don't need to go to clubs to pull chick's anymore. Download Tinder and profit

 

[010101]

how about you let these females choose¿
if you ever end up with no females choosing up then i guess that's just your fate¿

*

 

[cheek100]

U left her for the right reasons, ull be aight
Fukk bytches, get money DO NOT catch feelings, you're food rt now they'll smell u a mile away

 

[Ninjaz In Paris]

To make a long story short, my girl and I broke up after a 10-year relationship (we were long-distance though, so realistically we only had about 4-6 years of literal time spent together). She was my wife though for 2 years according to the New York County Courts.

We've been broken up for 3 weeks now.

On the one hand, I'm ecstatic because now I'm free to fukk as many different girls as possible (haven't really acted on this yet). This may be the greatest thing as a man.

On the other hand, I was obsessed with my girl. Everything I see in my neighborhood reminds me of a moment spent with her. That shyt hurts. She wasn't even that bad, compared to alot of the women I see that you guys gotta deal with.

I left her because she kept disrespecting me. Worst of all, it was something that I saw getting worse as time went on. She didn't start out like that, but I allowed it to get to that level.

I blame myself because I mismanaged the relationship, plain and simple.

I'm mostly venting, but I guess my question is: What is a good middle ground to be in as a man? Marriage is antiquated. But being at different clubs or bars every weekend looking for a new girl seems tiring. Is having a strong reliable harem (month's long) the true way to go? Or does someone really need to choose one or the other?

How old are you?

 

[benjamin]

That many years in a long distant relationship?...u was already losin breh and probably sharin

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

 

[pawdalaw]

Operate from a moral compass, quality over quantity. Be honest with yourself and who you deal with and water will find it's level.

 

[Diondon]

I hope this is a lesson for you to check that disrespect shyt EARLY

 

[Reginald Noble]

Yo .....

 

[El_Mero_Mero]

That many years in a long distant relationship?...u was already losin breh and probably sharin

Don't know...during that time there were periods where I would live with her for 11 months in her country and she would live with me for huge chunks of time here in NYC. Also, we were living together non-stop for the last 2.5 years.

I'm 31 years old.

I appreciate y'all replies.

I'm not gonna get trapped up by another girl any time soon. Of course y'all know part of me would like to go back with her, or is even telling myself that in 3-5 years after our realities are different I'll start over with her (any of y'all ever think about doing that or actually do that?). I think that's partially because it was a friendly split (not yelling at each other or shyt like that). I wholeheartedly feel like I can fukk her again in the future, but that sensitive side of me wanted more from her. As a reference point, my father never married my mother, and now he's 67 years old living by himself in the Caribbean. Even though he still has that "girl-chasing mentality", I know that he is lonely and by himself more days out of the year than not. I don't wanna be going through that.

I'm in my feels my brehs. My situation with my ex was that we were always inches away from separating (divorcing), but we always managed to find an excuse to stay together. This time I finally pulled the trigger on the relationship though. I know that I made the right choice, and the only choice that I could've made if I still want to look at myself in the mirror and respect myself, but it's just super bittersweet.

For those of you in the beginnings of what you think is a good relationship, just make sure that you think about it like you're the captain of a ship. Steer that shyt right. Even if you got yourself a foreign or a sweetheart that is doing everything seemingly perfect, don't get too relaxed because little by little things can switch. If your girl views you as "the man", but then circumstances in your life change her view of you, it is hard for her to ever fully view you as "the man" again, and for things to go back to how they used to be. Just keep things tight if you care enough about the girl. I'm done with this topic. God speed brehs, god speed! Happy New Year...