Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

Man check this out brehs... this girl was supposed to have me come over last week and she was gonna cook for me/watch movies and what not, but she cancels last minute cause she had to work late... I say that's cool but you owe me and she says I know. So I'm talkin to her today and she's like so lets do somethin on your next day off, and I'm thinkin she's gonna make it up by cookin for me but it seems like she wants me to take her out and shyt. I wouldn't mind that but a nikka just paid his last tuition installment and I got like $2.17 in my account (forreal im broke than a bytch). I ask her what she wanna do, she says "I'm not picky" and I say yeah right im gonna need some ideas and now she hasn't hit me back yet. This some bullshyt brehs... why do girls always be goin back on promises with no problem but if I were to pull the same shyt it would be fukkin WW3.

Because men don't hold them accountable. Woman cancels, and dude lets her come right back on in, no problems. Woman flakes, the dude is like, "That's cool. Do you still want to go out?"

Women, nor will most people for that matter, will act better if they're never facing punitive repercussions for their actions.

 

[kevm3]

Here's another huge mistake dudes are making. A lot of you think YOU are the reason that this or that woman is flaking, and think that if you had some secret knowledge or some secret technique, that it'd make them stop. It won't. Women are flaking because they can. They have so many options, that in most cases, you are expendable to them. One day they sample you, the next day they sample someone else. The only time they stop with the flaking is if they like you to the extreme. Even then, these women are still talking to several other guys as back-up.

The only solution is to make these women respect your time. If she flakes, cut her off. Dudes be thinking that this or that pretty woman has something magical about her and that they absolutely need her company no matter what. That attitude of, "I can't do without her," is exactly why dudes stay getting disrespected by women. If a woman can't bring basic respect to the table, she can't bring anything.

How most women operate is they will act in a fashion of doing whatever you let them get away with. You allow them to flake, they're going to flake. You allow them to talk crazy to you, that's what they're going to do. You allow them to put their hands on you, that's what they're going to do. A woman respecting you is one of the most important aspects for you to even be dealing with them. This is nonnegotiable.

 

[Nuke Dukem]

So my girl hit me with some shyt today...

So today we had plans to go to a movie with a homie of mine.. Me n my girl work together at the same place n an argument happened which resulted in her canceling completely n saying she's not going at all...

So I then asked if she still wanted to kick it, no movies... She said no...


So I asked her.. Be 100 with me n tell me wasup.. It seems like u don't care if we spend anytime together n this is what she sent back

"I do care..... But look I was single for a while right I see everyday day at work I'm with u every weds nd all my weekends I spend with u since we been dating.... I'm not saying I don't like being with U i do your my bf... let me miss u"


Now I'll be honest I kinda get where she's coming from, I shouldn't EXPECT her to spend every weekend with me, but there's something in the text I don't like... I can't place my finger on it tho..


A lil more background

- I work with her 5 days a week for 8 hours n see her almost the whole time at work

-due to school n her schedule we usually spend every weds together, and then sometimes Friday n she almost always spends the night on Saturday

-we've been dating since sept, but we've been official for a month now...



@kevm3 @Emperor_ReinScarf

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Man check this out brehs... this girl was supposed to have me come over last week and she was gonna cook for me/watch movies and what not, but she cancels last minute cause she had to work late... I say that's cool but you owe me and she says I know. So I'm talkin to her today and she's like so lets do somethin on your next day off, and I'm thinkin she's gonna make it up by cookin for me but it seems like she wants me to take her out and shyt. I wouldn't mind that but a nikka just paid his last tuition installment and I got like $2.17 in my account (forreal im broke than a bytch). I ask her what she wanna do, she says "I'm not picky" and I say yeah right im gonna need some ideas and now she hasn't hit me back yet. This some bullshyt brehs... why do girls always be goin back on promises with no problem but if I were to pull the same shyt it would be fukkin WW3.

cuz you letting her do that shyt breh.
why would you even offer to take her out in the first place when she already flaked you the first time?

You just asking to be her free-entertainment guy.

Yo name King Tut but you treating her like a queen while she treating you like a peasant.

 

[KingTut]

So my girl hit me with some shyt today...

So today we had plans to go to a movie with a homie of mine.. Me n my girl work together at the same place n an argument happened which resulted in her canceling completely n saying she's not going at all...

So I then asked if she still wanted to kick it, no movies... She said no...


So I asked her.. Be 100 with me n tell me wasup.. It seems like u don't care if we spend anytime together n this is what she sent back

"I do care..... But look I was single for a while right I see everyday day at work I'm with u every weds nd all my weekends I spend with u since we been dating.... I'm not saying I don't like being with U i do your my bf... let me miss u"


Now I'll be honest I kinda get where she's coming from, I shouldn't EXPECT her to spend every weekend with me, but there's something in the text I don't like... I can't place my finger on it tho..


A lil more background

- I work with her 5 days a week for 8 hours n see her almost the whole time at work

-due to school n her schedule we usually spend every weds together, and then sometimes Friday n she almost always spends the night on Saturday

-we've been dating since sept, but we've been official for a month now...



@kevm3 @Emperor_ReinScarf

Don't start actin clingy my nikka... if u do then

That's a lot of time spent together, especially in a stress filed environment like work. Some women like their space just as much as men do. It's only been a month so take it slow breh. I would never date a girl I work with especially if I see her there every weekday.

cuz you letting her do that shyt breh.
why would you even offer to take her out in the first place when she already flaked you the first time?

You just asking to be her free-entertainment guy.

Yo name King Tut but you treating her like a queen while she treating you like a peasant.

You right fam... Ima have to put her in her place next time we meet up (not in a murderous elliot rodgers way tho)

 

[Nuke Dukem]

Don't start actin clingy my nikka... if u do then

That's a lot of time spent together, especially in a stress filed environment like work. Some women like their space just as much as men do. It's only been a month so take it slow breh. I would never date a girl I work with especially if I see her there every weekday.

I played it coo n went against my clingy instincts..

I said "I agree with you 100%, you're right"

I caught her off guard.. All she said was "really... You're not mad"..

But yeah.. I need to chill on this clingy shyt

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Just talked to her... she doesn't mind that im broke right now. she knows a nikka workin and bout to graduate next month. might go on a romantic walk or some shyt.

breh why is you tryna be romantic with a chick that's not ya woman?

 

[EA]

@Nuke Dukem IMO, you're spending way too much time with your girl. Considering that you spend Monday to Friday with her, a few weekends by yourself will do you a lot of good. Catch up on some video games, chill with your boys or whatever but just do something that doesn't involve your girl. Otherwise, that honeymoon phase you're in is gonna come crashing down real quick.

Take it from me as someone who spent too much time with their last girlfriend during the honeymoon phase and then was left with nothing to show for it after she started getting distant. I was pretty much in a position where I had to apologise and make myself super-available to my boys after my ex dropped them thangs on me because I never made time for them when I was in a relationship.

 

[MikelArteta]

Let me miss you = I need space


Women tell you what they want up to you to pick up the signs, in her eyes she feels closeted, if someone asks for space I'd give it. Wouldn't mention anything about hanging out, wouldn't text or phone call, would keep it civil and short at work.

Actually I'd prob eject but that's me.

So my girl hit me with some shyt today...

So today we had plans to go to a movie with a homie of mine.. Me n my girl work together at the same place n an argument happened which resulted in her canceling completely n saying she's not going at all...

So I then asked if she still wanted to kick it, no movies... She said no...


So I asked her.. Be 100 with me n tell me wasup.. It seems like u don't care if we spend anytime together n this is what she sent back

"I do care..... But look I was single for a while right I see everyday day at work I'm with u every weds nd all my weekends I spend with u since we been dating.... I'm not saying I don't like being with U i do your my bf... let me miss u"


Now I'll be honest I kinda get where she's coming from, I shouldn't EXPECT her to spend every weekend with me, but there's something in the text I don't like... I can't place my finger on it tho..


A lil more background

- I work with her 5 days a week for 8 hours n see her almost the whole time at work

-due to school n her schedule we usually spend every weds together, and then sometimes Friday n she almost always spends the night on Saturday

-we've been dating since sept, but we've been official for a month now...



@kevm3 @Emperor_ReinScarf

 

[KingTut]

breh why is you tryna be romantic with a chick that's not ya woman?

that's the type of shyt she likes and it's not like it's physicaly excruciating or takin money outta my pocket. not like im settin up a picnic in the park wit wine and flowers and shyt.

 

[Nuke Dukem]

@Nuke Dukem IMO, you're spending way too much time with your girl. Considering that you spend Monday to Friday with her, a few weekends by yourself will do you a lot of good. Catch up on some video games, chill with your boys or whatever but just do something that doesn't involve your girl. Otherwise, that honeymoon phase you're in is gonna come crashing down real quick.

Take it from me as someone who spent too much time with their last girlfriend during the honeymoon phase and then was left with nothing to show for it after she started getting distant. I was pretty much in a position where I had to apologise and make myself super-available to my boys after my ex dropped them thangs on me because I never made time for them when I was in a relationship.

Yeah bro... I've been doing the same shyt.. Canceling on my guys n shyt...

 

[MikelArteta]

As I always say if its early in the relationship and there are stuff you don't like eject.

People don't change once they show you who they really are.

 

[kevm3]

I played it coo n went against my clingy instincts..

I said "I agree with you 100%, you're right"

I caught her off guard.. All she said was "really... You're not mad"..

But yeah.. I need to chill on this clingy shyt

On one hand I agree that ya'll are spending too much time together because ya'll see each other a lot. On another hand, when you since a woman starts getting chilly, things usually start going downhill from there. Why? Because it shows that her emotions are draining. Once they're gone, that's when the woman starts pulling the whole busy routine.

What you do? Play it by ear, back up off her and give her a bit more space, and see how she acts in future encounters. If she continues acting chilly, prepare to eject.

 

[EA]

Yeah bro... I've been doing the same shyt.. Canceling on my guys n shyt...

Definitely try to cut down on the cancellations otherwise there'll be a time where you'll realise that they didn't invite you to something and they'll respond with " where's your girl? Ain't you normally with her all the time?" & you just have to take the L

 

[kevm3]

Definitely try to cut down on the cancellations otherwise there'll be a time where you'll realise that they didn't invite you to something and they'll respond with " where's your girl? Ain't you normally with her all the time?" & you just have to take the L

Exactly. You don't ever want to be that dude that is always flaking and canceling on your potnas when you get a girl, but as soon as you single, you pop up on some," Hey guys wanna hang out?" tip.