Reps to all! My narcissistic abuser is collapsing in real-time

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Vindication comes slowly, but it comes… :blessed:



I’ve had a front row seat with the toxic couple in my family for years because I live close to them, but people REALLY started to see how crazy shyt is with them in the past 1.5 yrs.


I was like “I kept trying to tell y’all that something is off and it isn’t me, but I didn’t think anyone fully believed me”.

Now they crashing out and the other elders are like “well, all we can do is pray” :comeon:

My cousins are all on the same page tho.




Really tho, I’m happy for you because these people know how to pull the wool over 98% of people’s eye’s because a LOT of people are blind to this shyt and want to see the best in everyone.

I pick up on antisocial behavior pretty quickly because I grew up with it, and I very subtly make it clear that I see it, and won’t necessarily rock their boat if they don’t rock mine. I am very cold and callous with those types because they are fishing for sympathy and warmth from people who are weak or too blind to pick up what they are doing.

I LOOOOOOVE sitting in silence and having a staring contest with those people :russ:.
Cuz bytch I see you, and I can do all that shyt too. I just choose to be a good person and shield the naive folks around me from falling for the BS. They either can’t tell if I figured them out or if I’m such a ditz I can’t pick up on their attempt to milk me for attention and sympathy.


Grey rocking is a life skill.
yo we have similar experiences :wow:

same shyt with me just staying quiet about the narcissist because i KNEW the family wouldn't believe me. My mom said the same exact thing even after all that transpired has happened..... "we must pray for him" :snoop: i said naw :what: educate yourself about narcissism and how you enabled him all along :what:. I'm taking a shot at educating her, but my parents are kinda old and not really "hip" to psychology like that, so i might just focus on his negative behaviors and the impact that it has on the family which is more than enough :manny:

people are VERY blind to this shyt. It doesn't help that it is encouraged behavior with the way society is structured :francis: think about a lot of people in the highest positions of power. What attracts someone to get that power?

My brother pulled some ultra disrespectful shyt on me and i went no contact. We ain't talk in a year and he calls me to bytch about how people around him hate him and are jealous of his success without even mentioning where we left off :why:. I grey rocked the shyt outta him. "oh, really? i'm sorry bout that. hey listen, i'd love to catch up another time, but i gotta go." that's when he said, "i-i-i-um...i also wanted to see how YOU were doing" :heh: (sure you did). I just repeated my last sentence and he seemed to get the hint. Hasn't talked to me since because he seems to know i figured him out :umad:


Keep fightin the good fight sis. i've earned a new respect for you :salute:
 

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None of that is making you breathe even one extra breath, nor making you less hungry when that hits.


Let it go. Live your life.
i honestly was at this point until my family finally figured it out, and now i'm reliving everything and feel the need to rejoice. I will get back to this point once i'm done :manny:
It's good when bad things happen to bad people. Brother or not. :yeshrug:

Are you living with your parents too? :jbhmm:
no, i only know about the fukkery because my mom called me to tell me about all of it.
 

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Fill Collins said:
As someone who was abused by a family friend at 12, I can't sit and act like @Dont@Me ISN'T justified in making this thread


would neg for the @ under any other circumstance :salute:

hope you didn't get too damaged by them folks breh :wow:
 

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When you say “abused” are we talking diddyesque behavior?

:picard:
 

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That’s it, physical and emotional distance work, setting boundaries and consequences doesn’t. I had to distance myself as well, it became necessary.
Crazy how hard it is to see the fukkery when you're actually in and near it.
When you say “abused” are we talking diddyesque behavior?

:picard:
Psychological abuse.
 
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