I think it’s disingenuous to assume that every incel is some 300lb Chris Chan esque loser seething behind his computer screen 24/7 expecting a supermodel to fly out of the sky. There are guys like that, but I honestly think it’s unrealistic to assume that’s the majority. there are just as many guys that are trying or have tried but still can’t get any luck and are left jaded and bitter because of that.

Where do you think the term gymcel came from?
How can people go on these threads and say men have their standards too high and that they don’t try hard enough but go in other threads and marvel at how low men are stooping for below average p*ssy? How can they imply that the dating game isn’t an imbalanced wreck right now when we get at least two or three threads a week about how low the odds are in favor of men? I bet the same guys saying "just hit up tinder" or "it ain't that serious" are the same guys in other threads bragging about their 3 dozen matches. I counted like 2 different platinum threads about the 80/20 rule last week.
The biggest problem with GenZ incels is the internet. It fluffs the egos and validates the thottery of women even the ones that look like blimp, it demotivates men from going outside because it gives them porn and a way to interact with women in a couple of clicks, and most importantly… It’s demoralizing as hell. especially if you aren’t white or a woman.
I can go on TikTok or Instagram and look at a model and if she’s American than chances are 8/10 that her boyfriend/husband is going to be white, and not even some Tom Brady looking guy, he’ll look like trailer trash or just be plain . It may sound ridiculous living vicariously through or getting motivated because of random couples on the internet but that’s how young people operate now. Don’t know what to tell you.
I remember reading about this one tweet from a high school guy saying he was considering suicide until he saw some Kpop looking girl with a guy that looked like him. It was sad. Google swagboyq. It’s not the guy, he's an influencer, and a good example of one of those guys that feed off of that "do you like (insert race) men” energy. You've got a lot of young people doing those corny "do you date (insert their race) boys/girls" videos.
A little random, but while I'm on my tirade I should mention that this is especially a problem for GenZ black incels specifically, (because I plan to quote this if and when a breh goes on an incel spree.) their issues stem from thinking attractive women (attractive black women included) either don’t like black guys or only want thugs. It doesn’t help that you can go on Instagram or Tiktok and see model tier women of all races, especially black women laying up with corny and goofy looking cacs and even men of other races, but when it's a black guy he's covered in tats, 6'5ft, and mean-mugging the camera.
Personally, I think one of the most troubling thing about the incel movement is what it does to the young,
still-forming minds of non-white dudes. The lot of them fetishize other races and hate their own, and then you've got a bunch of deranged white guys in these spaces taunting them about how easy women flock to whites. You can't just have a bunch of pissed off and insecure virgins in a single space; you've got those websites like 4cac and some of those now-deleted subreddits, and youtube videos that rarely get taken down. It's poison.
A lot of incels were just normal young men that weren't lucky with women or didn't know how to fix what's wrong with them. They go on those kinds of sites and end up messing up their mind with demoralizing threads basically telling them that it's hopeless, and the way the dating game is at right now does not help. You won't even get good advice nowadays, just simps and guys who rule the dating game telling you that you're the problem or oldheads with a bunch of generic outdated tips or the standard pull yourself up by your bootstraps "do it yourself" advice.
I understand why these incel websites still gain followers though. Someone else in this thread mentioned it better but with all this sex in our face 24/7 and how much importance people put on it, a virgin is going to go feel bad in a “what’s wrong with me” type of way. These websites kind of act like a safe space. Obviously not a good one. It's full of deviants, racists, sexists, self-loathing and people with something legitimately wrong with them, but a lot of people forget that in the mix there are still young men that are trying to figuring out who they are.
There are definitely a lot of incels that were hopeless from the start, but the majority of people would rather generalize them all as a terrorist hate-group so you have a bunch of these dudes that could have been saved stewing in their own bile alone until they either figure out what's wrong with them or they dig themselves deeper in the hole until they find trouble