self-doubt and overthinking is a mothafukka!

[Unknown Poster]

Real talk. Imagine how me we could all do and achieve if we just stopped having doubts in our minds about whether or not we could do it.

I fall victim to it and it's the worst but ive been working on removing it completely. Sometimes i overthink a situation it ends up not going as planned. Or i want to do something but don't act on it. Cause I'm always thinking "what if" or looking for reasons why i shouldn't do it or why it won't succeed.

Then again i would never had success in my life if i didn't doubt myself either cause that pushed me to prove myself wrong.

 

[Tanahashi Coates]

Real talk. Imagine how me we could all do and achieve if we just stopped having doubts in our minds about whether or not we could do it.

I fall victim to it and it's the worst but ive been working on removing it completely. Sometimes i overthink a situation it ends up not going as planned. Or i want to do something but don't act on it. Cause I'm always thinking "what if" or looking for reasons why i shouldn't do it or why it won't succeed.

Then again i would never had success in my life if i didn't doubt myself either cause that pushed me to prove myself wrong.

Not kissing your arse but it's good to see someone on here being positive.

 

[Groanman]

When that dude got hypnotized in Office Space, I knew that's how I had to be moving forward.

 

[Unknown Poster]

Not kissing your arse but it's good to see someone on here being positive.

Thanks. Somebody's got to.

 

[Guile]

When this happens I try to focus only on the things that I can control and do and go from there.

 

[Worthless Loser]

I think the idea of self doubt and overthinking is justified validation on why we should not go outside our comfort zone. So instead of analyzing the risks and making a calculated, prepared decision to step outside our comfort zone, we instead analyze the risks against a)our own abilities/skills, b)the possibility of failure and how that can negatively effect us over both the short term and long term which makes the comfort zone sound even more comforting.

Another issue is that in some cases self doubt is actually right. It's not the fact that we can't do it, but we don't have the resources that other people are blessed to have that allows them to take risks. And obtaining those resources can be an issue.

The most important thing to remember is that failure is a necessary ingredient in success. It will challenge your mental stability. Will you fold due to one failure, with the thought process being that you are a failure and everything else you do will probably fail to since this failed, or will it challenge you to do more trial and error actions that gives you a higher chance to succeed?

 

[Unknown Poster]

When this happens I try to focus only on the things that I can control and do and go from there.

Yeah. I do that when im skateboarding and im working on a trick or in the middle of doing something like a slide or grind or gap. It takes some risk management too. Basically assessing whether something is possible or not. As in physically possible given my skill level and knowing how to land or fall a certain way to minimize impact.

 

[Knuckles Red]

I'm terribly neurotic. Its to the point now where I count every footstep, and monitor how high/low my voice is when I talk to co-workers. Sometimes I'll respond to a co-worker like, "I'll see you tomorrow," and then I'll get in my truck and repeat that several different times to see if my voice was too high. Sometimes I'll do something at work/school and then, later, spend like 10-15 minutes thinking about how I could have done it better. What I should have said. What I shouldn't have said. These tendencies have stopped me from doing so much. Its like I'm hypersensitive to any and everything. I hate it.

 

[TM101]

I'm terribly neurotic. Its to the point now where I count every footstep, and monitor how high/low my voice is when I talk to co-workers. Sometimes I'll respond to a co-worker like, "I'll see you tomorrow," and then I'll get in my truck and repeat that several different times to see if my voice was too high. Sometimes I'll do something at work/school and then, later, spend like 10-15 minutes thinking about how I could have done it better. What I should have said. What I shouldn't have said. These tendencies have stopped me from doing so much. Its like I'm hypersensitive to any and everything. I hate it.

You think you're like that naturally, or was it previous trauma?

 

[Knuckles Red]

You think you're like that naturally, or was it previous trauma?

I think it has a lot to do with my childhood. Having a physically/verbally/emotionally abusive father who would scold and beat me for the smallest offenses. As I've grown into a young adult a lot of the trauma I suffered as a child, and hid from myself for so long, has now surfaced. I think my neurosis and self doubt is a direct result of my father's abuse.

 

[Bless't]

Not kissing your arse but it's good to see someone on here being positive.

Right!?!?

Man. It's fukking refreshing.

Good stuff OP. I agree with your thought process. Your drive and determination is commendable.

 

[Prynce]

Story of my life

 

[Worthless Loser]

Another thing to consider is that when we self doubt and overthink, a lot of times we are looking for someone else to tell us to "go for it" or that everything will be ok. Sometimes the voice is someone else giving us support is more convincing than our own conscience trying to provide-self support. Reassurance.

If self doubt is like placing a glass ceiling over your head, overthinking is like putting yourself in mental paralysis. You get so clouded with thoughts and complexity that you are unable to think clearly and it allows a higher chance of making the wrong choice. It's like running to catch the bus, but when you finally get to the bus you end up running past it because your mind is in a million different places.

 

[DaPresident]

We can be our own worst enemy...



I'm living testament...learning EXACTLY what you're talking about, get out of my own way. Stop with the doubt and lack of confidence at times. Failure is only bad if you let it STAY a failure...lessons are failures you've put to use....I'm doing a lot better with it.


It just comes up in my life from time to time...not always, but it's that initial fear, that gets you. Gotta be more than your fear, we all have it...the best learn to suppress it. Definitely got some work, but not as bad as I was...


Good ish OP

 

[BlueberryDelight]

Not kissing your arse but it's good to see someone on here being positive.

You do realize OP is one of the most negative and out of his mind posters right. Glad you on a more positive tip these days legacy breh but you ain't fooling anyone