Serious thread: I'm 90% my GF isn't sexually attracted to me.
- Thread starter Jamesmac91
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this chick got issues, deep issues you don't need to fix you are better off, matter of fact you can find someone better...
Excessive romance : women :: porn : men
So some dudes get mad when I go in one men who are socially lame weirdos or awkward and the like. But curiously they never ask if I feel that way about women.
Well this is a primary example of a sexually awkward lame female. She is stuck in her head and living in a fantasy that u can't live up to. NOT because there is something wrong with you, but b/c fantasies are rarely static. They are dynamic, always exciting, ever changing and us mere mortals just can't keep up.
The fact that she cried from disappointment over her virginity kinda clued me in. Also due to overthinking she probably has hang ups about sex being nasty, and is uncomfortable in her own skin.
Ya see romance and porn deal in fantasy and in fantasy you don't have to worry so much about the logistics. People who are so preoccupied with unrealistic expectations of the opposite sex can't take real life human body stuff.
And they form resentment/enjoyment relationships. Resent ur partner b/c they don't live up to the fantasy, enjoy their company. She is probably craving stuff sexually that she doesn't associate with you so sex is considered a chore compared to her fantasies.
She needs to stop living in her head and fantasies and invest emotionally in what she needs from you. Sex isn't everything but it is a good indicator of how well the couple will do.
And yeah u need to get out
So some dudes get mad when I go in one men who are socially lame weirdos or awkward and the like. But curiously they never ask if I feel that way about women.
Well this is a primary example of a sexually awkward lame female. She is stuck in her head and living in a fantasy that u can't live up to. NOT because there is something wrong with you, but b/c fantasies are rarely static. They are dynamic, always exciting, ever changing and us mere mortals just can't keep up.
The fact that she cried from disappointment over her virginity kinda clued me in. Also due to overthinking she probably has hang ups about sex being nasty, and is uncomfortable in her own skin.
Ya see romance and porn deal in fantasy and in fantasy you don't have to worry so much about the logistics. People who are so preoccupied with unrealistic expectations of the opposite sex can't take real life human body stuff.
And they form resentment/enjoyment relationships. Resent ur partner b/c they don't live up to the fantasy, enjoy their company. She is probably craving stuff sexually that she doesn't associate with you so sex is considered a chore compared to her fantasies.
She needs to stop living in her head and fantasies and invest emotionally in what she needs from you. Sex isn't everything but it is a good indicator of how well the couple will do.
And yeah u need to get out
Bigblackted4
Superstar
This is the gem of this thread and perfectly articulated. People think physical attraction(while important) is the only thing that goes into sexual attraction. You need to find what turns her on about you OP. My attraction to females comes in being a leader, being extremely confident, and being a master in foreplay. I’ve learned that because I’m very attentive with my partners and listen to not only what they say but what they respond to. That’s the KEY.
Bigblackted4
Superstar
I think it’s a guys job to bring that out of a female but if you aren’t experienced enough then you might as well get out. I have failed at this but I have also done it and been on the road to doing it.
@Jamesmac91
Tell me about her background......meaning her parents.
Also I have a very strong suspicion that she was raised either very religious or she has been molested.
@Booksnrain makes a great point as well (as she always does)
Tell me about her background......meaning her parents.
Also I have a very strong suspicion that she was raised either very religious or she has been molested.
@Booksnrain makes a great point as well (as she always does)
i would say have her see a gyn and have a transvaginal /pelvic u/s , pap smear, maybe she has some type of sexual /anatomy dysfunction. and if you want to see if she is sexual attracted to you start to see if she will give you head at least 3 times per week if she decline giving you head,i would then assume, i sexual attraction issue.
that's not solely on you tho. People supposed to bring it out of each other. Sex should never be a manipulation tool and if you don't want to fukk ur partner at least 2-3 times a week sans issues that cause undue fatigue (i.e. Working full time and also taking on majority of responsibilities at home) then something is very wrong.
She might not want to be alone but she not feeling you. Nobody should have their needs unfulfilled in a relationship. Everybody's needs are valid to one another or they shouldn't be with u otherwise.
Also is she on bc? Cuz that can fukk us up sometimes.
Bigblackted4
Superstar
I've only had the experience of girls having periods cum on BC.
Bigblackted4
Superstar
Yes People are supposed to bring it out of each other, but some are just not experienced or have had bad experiences that can be erased with great sex and a lot of good communication. I agree when a woman has to many of the duties, especially being the only breadwinner than it can cause a huge strain.
She sounds very immature. Basically she wants you to be her friend like before but doesn't want you dividing your time with other women. She sounds selfish and controlling.
I don't wanna tell you it's a wrap but her mind set is pretty fukked up and idk if it will change.
I don't wanna tell you it's a wrap but her mind set is pretty fukked up and idk if it will change.
LeeDoubleLee
Pro
This thread made me sad. I personally think you should break it off because it's clear the issues she has is something she needs to work through without being in a relationship. But if you really want to work it out couples counseling might help out.
She sounds like she's with you for the same reason you started with her... good woman/good man on paper. But when the sex doesn't work and she starts lying, and you lying to yourself when your instincts says it's not right... why do you stay? You both sound like you're trying to justify something that should work on paper, and you think you'll regret if you let go.
OP really needs to reevaluate his decision making abilities
First off she was gossiping with her friends about you telling them your business. I wouldve had to check them all/cut them off. Depends on my mood at the time
Second you decided to get in a relationship with a long time friend. Mistake one. You actually believed her saying she likes you based off of a temporary emotion called jealousy. Mistake two.
Good luck buddy.
First off she was gossiping with her friends about you telling them your business. I wouldve had to check them all/cut them off. Depends on my mood at the time
Second you decided to get in a relationship with a long time friend. Mistake one. You actually believed her saying she likes you based off of a temporary emotion called jealousy. Mistake two.
Its hard for me to believe she doesn't know what constitutes sex in 2018 with the internet. Its not the 1920s anymore. I guess she's just a bit delusional and had some fantasy in her head.
Why are you/were you living with this woman? Why did you think it would work?
Good luck buddy.