Settle down for what? If you're a man and settle down young ur a fukking idiot
Henri Christophe
Son Of Afrika
Usually the small beef nikkas who have to overcompensate or the ones who can't hold a convo so they just gotta keep sending her money every month to keep her interested
DarkHorse23
Banned
Hacksaw Jim Thuggin
Superstar
Solo ✧✦✧
King of the eXoticals. "FIRsT and LAst wARNiNg"
I can't settle for a chick that hasn't been with me through the struggle period. I'd rather just be single for the rest of my life than start a serious relationship in my 30's.
Edit: Just to make it clear I'm not in my 30's, just using that age range as an example
Edit: Just to make it clear I'm not in my 30's, just using that age range as an example
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AlainLocke
Banned
DarkHorse23
Banned
Well bro let's be real, you're 29. @BlackPearl is in her mid to late 30's(no diss). By time you settle down, you going probably want a younger woman.
@DrX
I'll say I don't agree with your premise that, as a guy, you have to get old before you settle down. Single life and being in solitude do get boring/lonely sometimes. And the companionship women bring to table is worth a lot, albeit just like every gift, it comes with a curse. And when you get to the point when you start having kids or have the desire to do so - it's always better to settle down. It's healthy for the kids, especially based on how disenfranchised we're as black people and how single parent households have become a bane to our communities.
I'd say what you wrote up there is somewhat self-centered if you desire to have kids, since you're only thinking about yourself. I'm not an advocate for marriage, due to how draining/stressful divorce process can be, if things don't work out. However, folks can always try co-habitation. With that, when things aren't working, both parties can easily go their separate ways.
As a black man, don't try the shyt you wrote up there if you desire to have kids any time soon cuz it's anti-black and you're indirectly contributing to black genocide and disenfranchisement.
I'll say I don't agree with your premise that, as a guy, you have to get old before you settle down. Single life and being in solitude do get boring/lonely sometimes. And the companionship women bring to table is worth a lot, albeit just like every gift, it comes with a curse. And when you get to the point when you start having kids or have the desire to do so - it's always better to settle down. It's healthy for the kids, especially based on how disenfranchised we're as black people and how single parent households have become a bane to our communities.
I'd say what you wrote up there is somewhat self-centered if you desire to have kids, since you're only thinking about yourself. I'm not an advocate for marriage, due to how draining/stressful divorce process can be, if things don't work out. However, folks can always try co-habitation. With that, when things aren't working, both parties can easily go their separate ways.
As a black man, don't try the shyt you wrote up there if you desire to have kids any time soon cuz it's anti-black and you're indirectly contributing to black genocide and disenfranchisement.
daboywonder2002
Superstar
The problem is that most men marry to actually keep the woman, because they don't wanna lose her to someone else. Oh let me wife her up know before someone else does. Listen, I say stop worrying about losing her and live her life. if you wanna have sex with woman until your 30 and 40 do it. don't get married at freaking 25 (YOUR PRIME YEARS) and be complaining later on. If you lose her to someone else, SO WHAT THE fukk WHAT. move on. If you get a woman pregnant, doesn't mean you have to marry her. I mean it's always nice for a child to have both mommy and daddy as a family. but that's a waste if you're miserable.
I do agree with some of what u saying whereas women and society generally expect men to do all the work and come home and entertain and charm the woman...u know be the life of the party...but there are women out here who have sense of humor, intelligence and charisma. There are women who also have social skills...especially black women. I don't get why folks on thecoli say women are boring, lack social skills, and have no sense of humor when I've encountered women, especially black women possessing those attributes.
The point of settling down is to provide security for both of you. It secures the woman more but its best to be married especially if u want to reproduce and raise a family. I think the issue is that you aren't finding the right type of woman or you only looking at women for their aesthetics and not their personalities, values and other non physical attributes. Its also good to find a woman who u can connect with and has ur best interest at heart. If that's the case...she probably would be willing to be ur backbone and help u and not be so naggy. Don't know why u gotta be with her friends all the time unless yall doing couple shyt so u shouldn't be burdened to entertain them.
Maybe u need a relationship where yall have yall time apart and she do things with her friends while u be with urs or be taking the time to build ur empire. And if u truly love the person...whats wrong with waking up next to them everyday. If they getting fat and starting to turn u off sexually, encourage them to work out. Its also good to have a mental connection with a person...because fathertime and mothertime hits most people by a certain age. It probably gonna hit u in ur 40's or 50's or at least 60's.