Sex and the City' author Candace Bushnell regrets not having kids, says she was 'truly alone'

[Street Knowledge]

'Sex and the City' author Candace Bushnell regrets not having kids, says she was 'truly alone'

"Sex and the City" may have left a trailblazing legacy for women on television, but the book's original author now thinks her independent lifestyle may not have been as rewarding.

Candace Bushnell, 60, who wrote the original 1997 novel which spawned the successful TV series for HBO, opened up to Sunday Times Magazine about her 2012 divorce, admitting it made her realize how not starting a family made her feel "truly alone."

"When I was in my 30s and 40s, I didn’t think about it," she recalled. "Then when I got divorced and I was in my 50s, I started to see the impact of not having children and of truly being alone. I do see that people with children have an anchor in a way that people who have no kids don’t."



Bushnell first rose to prominence with a dating column in The New York Observer, whose writings were anthologized in her "Sex and the City" novel. The series' main character, Carrie Bradshaw (played by Sarah Jessica Parker), was created as a fictionalized version of Bushnell.

 

[The Prince of All Saiyans]

 

[DJ Paul's Arm]

It's true tho.

All you GMB/Never having kids gang gonna be lonely as fukk in that nursing home/group home when you get old as fukk.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

When I was in my 30s and 40s, I didn’t think about it," she recalled. "Then when I got divorced and I was in my 50s, I started to see the impact of not having children and of truly being alone. I do see that people with children have an anchor in a way that people who have no kids don’t."

 

[Afrodroid]

bytches want all that independence until they hit the expiration date with nobody around to share their regrets and frustrations

 

[ISO]

Adopt

 

[Unknown Poster]

This polyamorous lifestyle in the big city rarely works out well huh?

The search for pleasure and constant need for partners creates more problems than solutions.

Like do yall really think you can have tons of meaningless relationships based on sex and little mutual attraction and it isn't going to end up with you being single in your late 30s early 40s?

Putting all these ideas in young men and womens heads about independence and having it all but they really dont have it all...its all a facade.

I'm starting to feel like that's what the end result of this GMB/Hot Girl Summer/Social media fueled lifestyle...just loneliness and a bunch of regrets at the end of it all while your peers are married with kids.

 

[The Coochie Assassin]

This article reminded me of Vivica A Fox who said the same thing.

I don't think these women really want kids, they just feel lonely because their marriages/relationships don't work out. Women over 50 kinda see the writing on the wall that they are no longer in high demand. Most men worth a damn are married or committed after 50 so they really have no dating prospects. Almost 0 options unless an older man's wife dies or something.

These women think a kid will fill that void now but back when they were younger, they weren't thinking about no damn kids cuz they had a man. If they really wanted kids, they woulda had one or adopted.

I'm glad they don't have them because I think they wouldn't have been good mothers anyways probably woulda been selfish, ignoring the kid to work, travel and party. You know this woman woulda had a Hispanic nanny raising the kid

 

[HARLEM AL]

That wall is undefeated. Women are here to procreate. It’s in their nature to nest. Whenever I hear a woman say I don’t no kids I just shrug my shoulders. Do your thing aunty. It’s Your life

 

[Rockstar Mom]

She has enough money to adopt 10 kids if she wants. She has options.

 

[NinoBrown]

She has enough money to adopt 10 kids if she wants. She has options.

Eh, a Korean adoptee with an American last name? They'd get their asses kicked everyday....

Can't go against nature ladies, this book and show gave out the 10 Thot Commandments and the end result of trying to be sexually free and liberated doesn't work well for women as it goes against their biological imperative (children and family rearing)...

Doesn't work out ladies, The Wall never loses:
Modern Thot timelines:
Carrie Bradshaw
MTV/BET Video Vixens
Myspace/Tumblr Thots
IG Thots

The result is a Melyssa Ford situation where you are broke, childless, and looking like a Terminator for all your troubles....

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

Yeah she Bout to be old and lonely and she's regretting it OD. Nah keep that same mfing energy

She has enough money to adopt 10 kids if she wants. She has options.

Let's keep it real. No one tryna deal with kids in they 60s. My pops 65, I'm 25. We already both tired of each other

 

[The Special Man]

Hope all the hot girls and city girls read this

 

[Rockstar Mom]

Yeah she Bout to be old and lonely and she's regretting it OD. Nah keep that same mfing energy


Let's keep it real. No one tryna deal with kids in they 60s. My pops 65, I'm 25. We already both tired of each other

She doesn’t have to adopt a baby. Plenty of teens in the system. I’m just saying, she had plenty of money. She can even just be a foster mom. If being a mother is that important to her, she can make it happen with the funds she has.

 

[NinoBrown]

She doesn’t have to adopt a baby. Plenty of teens in the system. I’m just saying, she had plenty of money. She can even just be a foster mom. If being a mother is that important to her, she can make it happen with the funds she has.

Have super dementia when your kid and not grand kid turns 20 independent womens....