Reno89
All Star
So, my deadbeat dad won the lottery a couple of days ago. He has, for the most part, ignored me since me and my mom divorced when I was 6. I even became close with my little brother over my dad neglecting him as well after my dad and my little brother's mom separated.
My first thought was "meh, good for him". However, now I am starting to feel depressed because friends and family up north keeps reminding me over and over that he won.
"You know your dad is a millionaire now, right?" I'm almost 28 years old, and we haven't spoken in years, that has nothing to do with me.
"You need to reach out to him" up until 2013, I would call him once a year to tell him happy birthday (which is today), and I would never hear back from him, so I stopped.
"He might be looking for you" he knows where my family is, if he had any interest in talking to me, he would know how to find me.
I think I may be suffering from this for a while. Yes, I work for myself, and I feel like I am on my way myself, but I still resent him for him not being there. Not being there to give advice. It makes me not believe in Karma anymore. It makes me not believe in anything anymore.
One of the things that drove me the most was so he can see who I have become, and feel bad that he wasn't there to help. Now, that will never happen. Am I being unreasonable? Am I being too prideful to just reach out? I need some help on this one.
Edit:
My mom never put him on child support.
I don't have any of his contact info. I would just call him for his birthday, but have to get his number through other people because he changed it so often.
I never badmouthed him to my little brother.
The root of this isn't the money, it's my anger that he was never there for his children, and spent the money he did have on friends and girls using him (they would even brag about it).
I was just hoping that there would be one time in his life where he would say "I wish I was there for my kids" more, and reach out or something. Now that he won the money, he probably never will feel that way. That's what bothers me.
My first thought was "meh, good for him". However, now I am starting to feel depressed because friends and family up north keeps reminding me over and over that he won.
"You know your dad is a millionaire now, right?" I'm almost 28 years old, and we haven't spoken in years, that has nothing to do with me.
"You need to reach out to him" up until 2013, I would call him once a year to tell him happy birthday (which is today), and I would never hear back from him, so I stopped.
"He might be looking for you" he knows where my family is, if he had any interest in talking to me, he would know how to find me.
I think I may be suffering from this for a while. Yes, I work for myself, and I feel like I am on my way myself, but I still resent him for him not being there. Not being there to give advice. It makes me not believe in Karma anymore. It makes me not believe in anything anymore.
One of the things that drove me the most was so he can see who I have become, and feel bad that he wasn't there to help. Now, that will never happen. Am I being unreasonable? Am I being too prideful to just reach out? I need some help on this one.
Edit:
My mom never put him on child support.
I don't have any of his contact info. I would just call him for his birthday, but have to get his number through other people because he changed it so often.
I never badmouthed him to my little brother.
The root of this isn't the money, it's my anger that he was never there for his children, and spent the money he did have on friends and girls using him (they would even brag about it).
I was just hoping that there would be one time in his life where he would say "I wish I was there for my kids" more, and reach out or something. Now that he won the money, he probably never will feel that way. That's what bothers me.
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